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    long and boring -----

    i have had no contact with my family for about 7 years now. my choice for many various reasons. to much to get into on here i think.
    my mom past away 20 years ago leaving me, 2 brothers ,1 sister and my father.

    i have a friend that keeps in contact with my family, so about 2 weeks ago i found out my father had lung and liver cancer. well i guess my friend gave my sister my number because she left me a voice mail last night that my father has died.

    I'm a bit of a mess i don't know what to think or feel or do. my sister wants me to call her and i guess come to the Funeral. i feel for her i could tell she was shook up and hurting. [ she is the only decent one out of the whole family ] i don't care to see anyone or talk with anyone in my family.
    I'm having trouble coming to grips with my thoughts and feelings.
    i doubt any of this makes sense and i had no real point for this post. but it was scream or type.

    but for now its get drunk time.

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    wow thefrog I'm sorry to hear about your dad.

    I think you might feel better if you talk to your sister, tell her you're ambivalent, and decide later if you want to go to the funeral or not.

    Careful with the drinking, too. I worry about that.

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    I'm so sorry to hear about this. I have no advice. We're here to talk(type) to if you need us.

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    Well, once again IMO alcohol won't make you feel better about the situation. I don't know exactly what happened in the past so I can't tell you what to do for sure. But since he is your father and you think something of your sister I'd say go the funeral. Of course then you'll end up seeing a lot of people I am sure you definately don't wanna see. Another option is to send some flowers to your sister at the funeral home. So, she could see that you were thinking of her. I am sorry to hear about the loss..

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    I agree with Z. If you consider your sis decent, give her a call, but you don't have to decide about the rest of it just yet.

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    thanks guys

    couple great ideas from you all i had not even thought of. thanks..

    alcohol and drugs [ my brothers ] are couple reasons i left. i really don't drink that often [ work basically 6 days a week ] i know it not the answer for anything thats going on.

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    well well the old man left me in his will. its not a ton of money but ill be getting a check each year for the next 3 years.

    so hell yea!! now what to do with my new found money.

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    I would say to go. I was estranged from my dad for 2 years before he died. While I dreaded going to his funeral (or ash ceremony) it really helped me have closure. That is not to say that you have to stay at the funeral/wake the entire time. But, going to get your closure may help immensely.

    My condolences to you.

    Ehhh...about the money...I would say put it away. Save it. You never know when you might need it later on down the line.

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    I'm sorry, frog. Just remember funerals are for the living. If you go to the funeral it wouldn't be for your dad, it'd be for your sister.

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