Well, those aren't really approaches. Those are characteristics.
But you also said that you thought they would enjoy more success if they did abandon it. Like if it backfires more than it works, if it is inefficient, etc. So - it may "work" in the sense that anything will "work" if you do it often enough - but that doesn't mean that it is anything but an inefficient, ineffective approach. And if they were looking for something to "work" then they would likely look for the most effective, most efficient thing. And so THIS approach is probably based on the fact that they just like it and are willing to accept the lower returns, or don't realize that they are getting lower returns. And again - if the problem is with their judgment, then it is with their judgment - not with women.But if the derogatory terminology approach is the only one that works for them or that they know how to, or are capable of employing, then I can't imagine them ever abandoning it until it stops working for them. i.e. "men will stop saying it when it stops working for them."
Now this is skating dangerously close to the "It's sad being a nice guy like me because girls like assholes who call them names" line. You just said that there was bravado, encouragement and male validation for for acting like that.Yes, some men have motivation for acting that way in addition to the women it gets them. I'm not inclined to think that absent the women, they'd still act that way, but then my friends and I all know we're losers and say so. So I have a tough time putting myself in the manly-bravado-machismo mindset of "lets call everyone a bitch-ho and grab a 40."
Do you think (or have seen, or know of) men who act like that just because? Like, they don't get women out of that behavior but they just like being that way? I've met guys who act like that, but they all got lots of women.
In answer to your question - I think pretty much all the guys who act like that "just cuz". I don't think it has anything to do with getting women. I actually agree that they likely get fewer women than they would otherwise, and are absolutely willing to take that tradeoff.





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