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    I told R that Britt but he insists I should take it if it's offered.

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    I'm gonna tell ya something completly useless, but maybe it'll chear ya up anyway....

    One time, I was probably around 19-20 years old, and lived with my uncle. I was completly broke, my car was on E and I had to get to work. I was a traveling nurse at the time, so I HAD to drive my car.
    My uncle had a big jar full of change, and since it was just change, I didn't think he'd mind if I took it.
    So I stole his change and cashed it in for $11 and put it in my gas tank.
    when I got home that night, he freaked out on me, started throwing things, screaming and yelling....

    Mixed in with the pennies and nickels was rare coins worth way way more than the .5 or .10 cents I got for them.

    I called him a dumbass for putting rare coins in with normal change.
    He threw me out of his house.

    That was actually the true start of my homelessness. That was the day I ran out of places to live, and started sleeping on who's ever couch I could, until they got tired of me and I had to move on to the next.
    The only nice part about being a couch surfer was that the repo man couldn't find me to take my car. I avoided them for months.....thoes fuckers actually located me on Christmas fucking day. Does the repo man not get holidays off??

    Ok...sorry I went way off my off topic lol.

    Anyway...got any loose change you can cash in?

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    Kaylinn!

    Way to go OT, then reel us in at the last minute!! Sorry you had to go through that.

    Loose change is an excellent suggestion!! Boyfriend and I put together all of our loose change and had nearly $300!! I rolled it all up myself and took it to the bank and changed it in for cash!!

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    Nah, loose change we had was rolled and put in the bank in Arizona, so it's gone already.

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    I still think selling your blood or plasma is a decent option then.

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    how much gas money do you need to get by?

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    $180 if I need to wait 3 weeks to get paid.

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    How about a day labor construction job for cash? There are some things women can do, but some stuff that is probably best for a male. They hire day to day, and R can keep a cell phone on him, or contact you during breaks to see if they have called about a job.

    If he does that for a couple of days, you should be setup for gas.

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    I'll mention it to him, thanks.

    My thinking is that if I have a choice between Safeway and the dealer, I will take Safeway. Not because I like it better, but because it is only like 4 miles away.

    But first I have to have one offer, so we'll see. Safeway interview is Tuesday.

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    day labor is a GREAT idea, you show up early and I am pretty sure they drive you to the place.
    hope it all works out.
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    Day labor is an excellent idea.

    Also stemming from that....any houses you can clean in the neighborhood? Put up a flyer and offer to clean houses just for a few days to get enough cash?
    Knock on doors and offer to do something to get paid. Offer to help fold laundry, cut grass, just ask if anyone has odd jobs you can help out with. More often than not..people will offer you a job just so they can help you out and give ya a few bucks.
    I used ot go door to door and offer to shovel snow from sidewalks for $10.

    Anyone have kids in the neighborhood you can offer to babysit?

    Donate plasma is also a good idea. Nothing makes you feel more desperate than selling your blood for money...but whatever works....
    I think they give you $20 for the first visit and then $50 after that...or maybe that's backwards....

    I would't look at the total you need $180. I'd look at it day by day. Enough gas for today, worry about tomorrow later.....
    You never know what can change in a day, or where you can money can be found....

    If your dad can buyyou a plane ticket to come home to visit, why can't he wire you $100 to get to work? Even as a temporary loan until you startmaking income.

    Are there any restaurants you can waitress in even just for a few days until yuo start your other jkob, just to get some cash money in your pocket?

    Can yuo still cash in scrap metal for money? I remember as a child, my parents would save up our soda cans and take them to a metal yard and get money for them.


    You can startcalling around to see if your owed rebates on stuff. Like your car insurance, gas bill, electric bill...sometimes people overpaid or made a mistake and are owed a refund. It's a stretch, but woth a shot.

    I understand not being able to dance. A 5 day eviction notice was posted on my door, but I still can't bring myself to dance to pay my rent. Pathetic, but that's the way it is.
    But....there HAS to be a way. has to. someowhere, somehow, there is a way if you look hard enough.
    The biggest problem hlding people back from finding the way when they are poor is pride. And the worst thign ever is swallowing yoru pride and doing thigns that make you feel bad...but if it gets you wher eyou need to be...then so be it You can be proud later when you sell your first car and geta big fat comission check.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BrunetteGoddess View Post
    No, I cannot dance. I did so, and I retired from it. The end. I'm tired of every thread saying 'well I don't understand why you can't jut dance'. I've already explain why this isn't an option. If somebody has forgotten, they can go look up another 'panic thread' of mine and read why.

    I'm retired. For good, not just maybe. I need to start thinking like a woman that has never stripped and won't, so that isn't an option. Those women find solutions without dancing, so I have to as well.
    Well. You're on a message board full of strippers. Obviously we think of stripping as a valid option, cause we're strippers, and we don't all run to study your past posts before responding.

    If you want to start thinking like a woman who would never strip, maybe you should be seeking advice from non-strippers.



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    I understand that Lena. I also know, as proven by this thread, that strippers can give advice that doesn't begin and end at stripping.

    Thanks for all the great ideas guys

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    ^ but can you understand why some of us just don't get it that you can't suck it up and dance for one night? i mean, i know you say you can't, but can you see why we just don't get that?

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    I'm just going to say it. I think R needs to get off his ass and work any job he can. I have literally cleaned up vomit and dealt with some of the most insane whacked-out people ever. I busted my ass working 12-hour shifts when I was 15-16. I've held many jobs making minimum wage or $7 per hour. I've been unemployed before - it's a terrible feeling.

    There's no good excuse for being unemployed this long and putting insane stress on you. If he is overqualified he needs to dumb down his resume. It's not rocket science.
    Last edited by sun child; 11-05-2007 at 01:51 AM.

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    ^^^ A husband's primary responsibility is to take care of his woman, in their own space.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    ^^^ A husband's primary responsibility is to take care of his woman, in their own space.
    I agree... is he doing anything to help you right now?

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    Do they have a blood bank where you live? They pay cash, around $30 each time. To donate plasma you can get like $60 a week.

    Put an ad up on CL and clean houses...walk dogs, babysit...

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    Do you have any gold jewelery you can pawn? My husband is a jeweler and Gold is at record highs, find out what it is that day (online or in the newspaper) and walk into a jewelery store and tell them you want a price. Part of our business is buying back jewelery and unless you know its possible most people don't consider it. Just a thought. I am rooting for you!



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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    ^ but can you understand why some of us just don't get it that you can't suck it up and dance for one night? i mean, i know you say you can't, but can you see why we just don't get that?
    No, sorry.

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    No seriously - get your guy up - grease up his hair, muddy up his clothes (just a little) give him a backpack and a sign. Put him on the corner of a busy intersection. Bet he could easily get $50 in a few hours...

    Other than that - I wish you luck with the job hunt. I understand not being able to dance. I think it all the time but keep doing it. I dont see it as a bad thing to be done and want to figure things out without having an easy way out.

    Everything will fall into place.

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    BG, you havent replied to the blood bank idea. thoughts? I think you're selling yourself MAJORLY short if you dont take the Honda job. safeway is NOT a career. Honda is. A good friend of my bfs is a honda salesman, he makes $$$$. in the start, he made $$$. seriously good money.

    i have an idea for you, but it's not for this thread. ill PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BrunetteGoddess View Post
    No, sorry.
    okie dokie then. you dont want to dance for a night, for HALF a night, when you need money so badly. your husband doesnt want to work because something better *might* come up. (not that it has yet.. or any time recently at all) can i ask what the point of this thread was? everything people are suggesting youre turning down, saying that it isnt the point of the thread, whatever. so im confused as to what the point WAS.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    ^^^ A husband's primary responsibility is to take care of his woman, in their own space.
    not quite agreeing to that opinion because the exact other side of the coin is misogynistic.

    BUT, why can't "R" try for the safeway job as well (or anything else?). i'm guessing he's all depressed and such from the previous job but either take handouts, unemployment benes, or whatever or get off his duff and get a job.

    btw, i know that is much easier said than done. and i'm probably typing thoughts you've already had and it's weighing on the marriage already. but we make our lives together. he has to start seeing the depression he's foisting onto you. otherwise, it's not much of a relationship anymore.

    this isn't a job thread as much as it's a relationship thread imho. money's the #1 issue among couples (from most sources i've read). this must be dealt with to go forward.

    R needs to understand there's nothing to be ashamed of in taking a job "under" him. otoh, forcing you to jump thru hoops and being stressed IS something to be ashamed of. how can someone who cares for you put you thru such stress/fear "unnecessarily"? i'm sorry if this is a bit harsh but he (and maybe you) need a nudge. or swift kick in the can.

    i understand you're trying on the financial end, which is probably easier than dealing with the true issue on an emotional/relationship level. good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    okie dokie then. you dont want to dance for a night, for HALF a night, when you need money so badly. your husband doesnt want to work because something better *might* come up. (not that it has yet.. or any time recently at all) can i ask what the point of this thread was? everything people are suggesting youre turning down, saying that it isnt the point of the thread, whatever. so im confused as to what the point WAS.
    Britt, I think you're reading wrong. I have thanked people for their ideas and there's some good ones in here.

    The one time I said a suggestion wasn't the point of this thread was when the 'R is lazy' and the allusion to 'you should leave' him came up. Because that really did have nothing to do with the thread, This thread is about me, and how I wasn't going to take a job initially.

    But hell, because of you guys, I saved myself from doing something drastic and might get an awesome job!

    FTR:

    R is the shining light in my life in all this hell. Sure, his past and messy divorce shoved us off the financial deep end, and he may not be doing all he can right now. I can only push so much. But I'm not leaving my 'BB'. He's my husband and we're getting through this together.

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