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    I felt like I stepped into Curb Your Enthusiasm's star Larry David's shoes for a moment tonight.

    I get to saladworks to get a big ol' salad before work. I'm in line, waiting to order, and a 21-ish year old male comes in, and stands behind me in line. He's too close; I can feel his arm on my back. There's no need for him to be so close, and I feel my personal space completely in jeopardy, so I inch forward ever so slightly, so as not to offend him.

    However, it doesn't work! He inches forward too. So I repeat. Inch forward again, and AGAIN, he repeats and moves forward too. So I glance back at him, and he gives me a 'whatthefuck are you looking at' look. Okayyyy... So I take an obvious step forward.

    You'd think that this guy would take a hint. Noooooo! He follows my lead. There's no one behind him, and no reason for him to be so damn close. My personal space is completely invaded! Defend! Defend!

    I turn to him, and speak. "So, you're like, all up in my personal space..."
    "Oh. OK," he replies, and DOES NOT MOVE!

    Clearly, he doesn't get it. I dont know how to deal with this, so, while laughing at the incredible oddness of this situation in my head, I say, "OK. You stay there, and I'm going to take this great giant step over here!"

    He shoots me this weird look, like I'm completely insane! WTF? LOL...

    I'm still giggling over this weird situation, and had to share this one.

    Love it!

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    Such a great show, Curb Your Enthusiam is. I've often felt moments of my life were like a Seinfeld episode.

    Larry David rocks.


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    Lol Chrissy. I can sympathize. I've had older men do that shit to me. I just love the fact that you called him out on it...and he didn't move. Sometimes guys just don't get it. It seems to be guys all the time too. I've never had that problem with women...although it doesn't seem like it would be much of a problem with me.
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    Oh god I HATE it when people do this shit. Seriously it pisses me off to no end. I've shot around and freaked out on people when they don't take the hint. Yea lil ol me has a temper

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chrissy68 View Post
    I'm in line, waiting to order, and a 21-ish year old male comes in, and stands behind me in line. He's too close; I can feel his arm on my back. There's no need for him to be so close, and I feel my personal space completely in jeopardy, so I inch forward ever so slightly, so as not to offend him.

    However, it doesn't work! He inches forward too. So I repeat. Inch forward again, and AGAIN, he repeats and moves forward too...
    C68:

    You may have encountered a frotteur, "a person who engages in the sexual act of frottage or someone who masturbates by rubbing against another person (as in a crowd)."

    The term toucherism is sometimes used to describe the closely related condition involving only touching or fondling without rubbing, although it is generally considered to be part of frotteurism.
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    Such a YOU thing to do to call him out!
    I love it!



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    heh. yeah. well, not cool man, SO not cool. and budai, that's totally disturbing.

    Love it!

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    When people do that kind of shit to me, I tell them to go ahead of me in line.

    In your case, I'd have said...

    "You seem pretty eager to get through this line...you're so close to me...why don't you go ahead of me..."

    then I'd have physically stepped around, and behind him, and then let him go ahead of me and stayed away from him.

    People like that are fucking retarded.

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    I don't have bad luck with it but my boyfriend's butt seems to attract little kids faces.....wait.....that came out sooo wrong.....I'll leave it though hahaha

    We went to Disneyland recently and every time we were in line for a ride some little kid would push right up behind him with their short little head almost up in my boyfriends ass. 4 year old fart fetishists perhaps? Never once happened to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Budai View Post
    C68:

    You may have encountered a frotteur, "a person who engages in the sexual act of frottage or someone who masturbates by rubbing against another person (as in a crowd)."

    The term toucherism is sometimes used to describe the closely related condition involving only touching or fondling without rubbing, although it is generally considered to be part of frotteurism.
    Yea i thought about that as i was reading this thread. At lunch at the hospital we get a tight line, i can see people in a hurry and move up close.

    BUT, if you're not in a crowded rushed line, and a person is touching with any body part and very close no matter what...these sickos get off on this. It's contact. To us it's very odd, an arm? But to them it's a HUGE turn-on.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Gretchen View Post
    4 year old fart fetishists perhaps? Never once happened to me.
    (*Scurries away to Google for "pre-school flatulence fiends"*)
    Quote Originally Posted by Pamela View Post
    BUT, if you're not in a crowded rushed line, and a person is touching with any body part and very close no matter what...these sickos get off on this. It's contact. To us it's very odd, an arm? But to them it's a HUGE turn-on.
    Sad but true, Pamela...

    Small children are vulnerable to the attention of adult males, particularly in tight lines. LAPD arrested a guy at a local Sears a few years back who had been doing this to kids at the cash register. They identified and apprehended him by reviewing store videotapes that captured him rubbing against children while they were standing directly behind their parents!

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    I HATE it when people invade my bubble.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Glamazon View Post
    I HATE it when people invade my bubble.
    exactly! that's why I love to have a back pack on most of the time. In line or on a bus people are always coming to close, the backpack helps, plus I can spin around and knowck into them with it if they are too close.
    I noticed people tend to get too close in grocery stores, no one is behind them, but they are eager to step on my heels as quickly as possible,
    Good for you calling him out on it!
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    It may just be a cultural thing, invading your space not the touching part. A good friend of went to Russia and he said that happened every time he had to stand in a line.
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    Ugh, what a creep! That's one of my pet peeves too. I can't believe he didn't even move after you said something to him. Loser!






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    Freak!

    God.... I hate that so much. Kudos for straightening him out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by dishis View Post
    It may just be a cultural thing, invading your space not the touching part. A good friend of went to Russia and he said that happened every time he had to stand in a line.
    Yes. And in the middle east especially!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gretchen View Post
    I don't have bad luck with it but my boyfriend's butt seems to attract little kids faces.....wait.....that came out sooo wrong.....I'll leave it though hahaha

    We went to Disneyland recently and every time we were in line for a ride some little kid would push right up behind him with their short little head almost up in my boyfriends ass. 4 year old fart fetishists perhaps? Never once happened to me.
    I am forever telling my (4yo) daughter to keep her head out of people's bums in shopping centers and stuff! It's excruciating, I'm always on perv patrol and she's practically head banging someone's backside.
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    ^ what a mental picture that was!

    Love it!

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    Wise man say: "Crowded elevator smells different to a midget"...

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    It's the animal world, in action.

    So much of human (and animal) interaction has to do with non-verbal communication. There is a 'flight or fight' process going on at all times, in the animal kingdom.

    Just tonight this 350 pound motherfucker tried to fuck with me. I do not respond well to "Hello, Sunshine", not from a guy like this in a situation like this. My instinctive reaction is to get close to the guy, as close as possible--if he really wants to fight me, I will find out very quickly. it has not failed me yet, and it didn't fail me tonight.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Budai View Post
    C68:

    You may have encountered a frotteur, "a person who engages in the sexual act of frottage or someone who masturbates by rubbing against another person (as in a crowd)."

    The term toucherism is sometimes used to describe the closely related condition involving only touching or fondling without rubbing, although it is generally considered to be part of frotteurism.
    You beat me to it. A flashback from abnormal psychology lectures in my undergraduate degree just came to me as soon as I read this. This is a form of fetish and a psychological problem and these people are very common on trains and buses where there tends to be crowded situations that allow for this type of behaviour more easily.

    google frotteurism.
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    The Onion is always soooo timely...

    http://www.theonion.com/content/opin...ing_a_frotteur

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    Haha! I loved this part...

    "Unlike building a deck or performing surgery, there are no instruction manuals on how to properly press your penis up against someone's hip on a packed train."
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