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    Default Dealing with this reg- time to let go?

    Thursday my regular came in. I sat with him all night, and in the end, he gave all his money to another girl. It was a difficult night, he wasn't very talkative and I was struggling to hold the conversation together. He sat down with me again after he came back from getting dances from other girl, and I tried to stay polite and nice. A guy on the other side starting chatting with me, and Mr. Regular got up and left without saying goodbye. He seemed pretty moody.

    He invited me out sometime this week (no pay- just shopping and dinner, general spoiling). I said yes (before, when I was still expecting dances). I really don't want to go now, or even call him.

    So, how should I act the next time he's in the club? I'd like to still leave the possibility open for dances if he wants them. But I can't afford to sit with him while he's in (as is out usual routine) if he's not going to spend on dances. But I don't want to be immature and moody or piss him off. I actually do enjoy his company- but hey, I do need to make money when I go to work.

    I'm thinking maybe I should just stop by periodically, chat a bit, then move on to chat up the rest of the room. He's pretty needy, and this coupled with my blowing him off this week might piss him off an cause me to lose him completely. Thoughts?

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    Default Re: Dealing with this reg- time to let go?

    Why were you sitting with (even waiting for!!) a man who wasn't giving you money and getting dances from other girls? Were there no other customers in the club?

    Next time he's in the club, greet him, maybe talk to him for two or three songs, then ask for a dance. If he says no, then move on.

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    Default Re: Dealing with this reg- time to let go?

    I usually sit with him for awhile, and then we go do our dances. In fact, that's how it always happens. We chat, then we go do dances. It was really slow, so I decided it was best to not spend to much energy hustling when I thought I had a good custie in the bar. Obviously, in retrospect, I should have taken my chances on chatting up the other guys, as meager as the pickings were. My club is a "no hustle" environment, and asking for dances doesn't often go over well.

    However, in this case, I may take your advice anyway. Just to make it clear that I DO need to be make money at work.

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    Saying something like, "Well, I better get back to work!" after chatting for a couple of songs should send that message.

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    Default Re: Dealing with this reg- time to let go?

    i'd never consider a guy MY regular if he's getting dances from another girl. then he's just a custy to the club, not your customer.

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    Default Re: Dealing with this reg- time to let go?

    Well, if he's getting dances from other girls and not you, it doesn't sound like he's actually 'your' regular. Hey, it happens - there's been more than one girl who thought I was 'her' regular when I wasn't.

    But I guess the short answer is, yes, it is time to 'let go' - and then some.

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    Personally i'd be so pissed off that I would ignore him next time he came into the club.
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    Do not let him waste any more of your time.

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    You sat with him all night and he gave some other girl all his money? Not only would I not have done that in the first place...I would never speak to him again AND make sure that every other decent girl in the club is aware of his mind games. Perhaps they still might try and hustle him, which is fine. As long as you know that you wasted a perfectly good night on a "regular." Wow, what a fucking loser, I am sorry you had to deal with that.

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    Default Re: Dealing with this reg- time to let go?

    Sounds like an asshat I had to deal with not too long ago. He seemed to think since things weren't going "well"(as in progressing toward dating) with a stripper he had been patronizing he would upset her by doing piddly shit such as this.
    Try to be nice for a song when you see him and then excuse yourself to see someone else. Preferably tell him this dude tips you alot of $$ discretely just to sit with him. Put it back on the asshat.

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    Default Re: Dealing with this reg- time to let go?

    There are different types of regulars, and this one seems like the kind that wants to date you. If you meet him outside the club (which is dangerous anyway) he will just expect you to always meet him outside, hence get your time for free.
    Maybe he is spending money on other girls because he got the feeling that you are not going to date him or even have sex with him, so he is going after another girl.
    Get rid of this guy, and dont meet him outside... that is how girls end up killed.

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    Default Re: Dealing with this reg- time to let go?

    IMO, you should stop by and say hi, so he knows that you have acknowledged him, but say, "Oh sorry hun, I don't have much time to talk tonight, I've got to get back to work."

    If he wants to spend the money on you, he will, especially after as much time as it sounds like you have invested. If he doesn't want to spend it, he won't. Don't waste your time when you could make money off someone else.

    Maybe, since he thinks you are getting "used" to him, he's trying to make you jealous. (Silly man games.) Just act like it doesn't bother you and challenge him to chase you a little. If he doesn't bite move on...






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    ^Not bad advice, but I probably wouldn't be able to do it without saying that last point extremely pointedly. That situation would have left me unbelievably pissed off.

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    Default Re: Dealing with this reg- time to let go?

    I have had these type of ASSHATS(I love the word|),they try too look cool,and make you jealous and take advantage from you.Just be nice with hime next time make some jokes and then leave him and pay all your attention to others him will come bag begging.

    and kick him in the balls for me.

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    Default Re: Dealing with this reg- time to let go?

    Quote Originally Posted by Elvia View Post
    Thursday my regular came in. I sat with him all night, and in the end, he gave all his money to another girl. It was a difficult night, he wasn't very talkative and I was struggling to hold the conversation together. He sat down with me again after he came back from getting dances from other girl, and I tried to stay polite and nice. A guy on the other side starting chatting with me, and Mr. Regular got up and left without saying goodbye. He seemed pretty moody.

    He invited me out sometime this week (no pay- just shopping and dinner, general spoiling). I said yes (before, when I was still expecting dances). I really don't want to go now, or even call him.

    So, how should I act the next time he's in the club? I'd like to still leave the possibility open for dances if he wants them. But I can't afford to sit with him while he's in (as is out usual routine) if he's not going to spend on dances. But I don't want to be immature and moody or piss him off. I actually do enjoy his company- but hey, I do need to make money when I go to work.

    I'm thinking maybe I should just stop by periodically, chat a bit, then move on to chat up the rest of the room. He's pretty needy, and this coupled with my blowing him off this week might piss him off an cause me to lose him completely. Thoughts?
    ...well, not enough info to narrow down the advice imo. If he is a "C" team regular, i guess you should bake his balls in apple sauce like some girls have suggested. If he is making up 25% or more of your income per week and this was a rare random "mistake" he made, then give him a pass and write it off as a sales and marketing loss in order to keep the money flowing for many more weeks. Only you know if he is worth keeping around.
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