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    Thanks everybody. I'm definitely going to water myself down a lot. Now I remember why I don't want a life in the dominant culture.

    They actually lied to me to get me here. They told me I'd be doing all the fun one on one stuff that I'm good at and like doing and promised I wouldn't have to do recess or gym (which is like herding cats, really - last time I was here one of the kids got a black eye and I felt all bad and they told me that was actually really good because it was *only* one black eye). But now they're like, oh we haven't hired anyone to do that, so you'll have to do that. Which puts them out of legal compliance, but whatever. So I'll do the three days that I commited to, but I'll probably take off next week (subbing is like stripping, I come and go as I please :-) ).

    Actually the parents of the kids I work with are mostly really cool. It's grandparents/aunts/parents from other schools/etc that I've mostly had problems with. Even the parent that I had to call and tell that her kid had a black eye was nice about it.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Aelfu_Gifu View Post
    I am a firm believer in 100% responsibility, baby. The next time someone says, "You live in a van? Aw! How old are you?" don't be sarcastic. It gets you nowhere. Try being honest and polite. "It's not glamorous, but I am creating a life I love. I hope your life is as happy as mine is."

    Just remember, regarding attitude: You pay for what you get, you own what you pay for... and sooner or later whatever you own comes back home to you.
    So answer the implied question rather than the verbalised one? That doesn't piss people off?



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    i think maybe substitute teaching could be something good for me to do so i dont feel like school was a total waste (i know i dont want to teach full time), and i can do it only sporadically and still dance. lena, how exactly do you go about starting that?

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    Actually, Lena, I'd be curious to know that too, not for myself, but in general. (in case you were going to answer that via pm)




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    Quote Originally Posted by DJ Maimed View Post
    ^^^Very nice post!!
    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward View Post
    Wow. Now that is a strong comeback. Free of anger, too.
    Thank you, guys.

    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    So answer the implied question rather than the verbalised one? That doesn't piss people off?

    I try to clarify to people that I am happy and more interested in generating love. Most people who are snippy like the people were to you are holding onto old pain. Sarcasm is something I eschew, and I always try to clarify with people they can't belittle it with me. When you address the issue, like someone trying to shame you, by being kind and generating happiness and honesty, you win every single time. I learned the hard way!
    "She held me close and whispered in my ear how wonderful I was. Since I'm not wonderful. I was pretty sure this was a trap. So I figured I'd better grope her as much as I could before they sprung the trap. You've got to take what you can get in this life. I read that in a magazine. So I started smearing kisses on her and pawing the front of her dress, trying to get my money's worth before somebody bashed my head in." John Swartzwelder

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    "Normal people " can be a serious pain in the ass.

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    I was just visiting my mom in this little village (200 people, one school, no gas station or anything), and she took me into school to introduce me to everyone and I was going to help her rearrange her room and they needed a sub and they just sort of signed me up. Here, all you need is a BA to be a sub. I was like, "don't you need to do a criminal background or childline clearances or something?" and they were like "no... not really."

    But most places you just need to take whatever class, get your transcripts and clearances, and file it all with the school district, and then they'll put you at the bottom of the list to call when they need someone. If you're interested, you should call your local school district and they probably have a list or something they can send you. It pays like a hundred bucks a day too (here).



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    The hardest thing about teaching is the crap you have to put up with without losing your temper. People expect behavior and moral standards of teachers that they do not have themselves. But...if you get down on their level, you can't win.

    So, the best thing to do might have been to say something like, "This meeting is over now. If you wish to continue it, we will do so when the principal and my representative are present. If you have a complaint, please make it in writing and be prepared to back it up with evidence."

    Then, if she doesn't leave, you walk out. Go immediately to the principal and report the problem. Never let the parent get there first. Always let the principal know your side first. Never let your prinipal be surprised by a complaint.

    The next place you go after talking to the principal is your association rep. There should be one for the teacher's association and another for the classified employees' association, or the two might be combined. If you are not a member, you are taking foolish chances with your job. Somebody has to defend your rights, but it is better for you if an impartial third party does it for you.

    If this person is attempting to interfere with your right to earn a living in the profession of your choice by badmnouthing you to the principal for your lifestyle, you can sue. Again, your association can do this for you.

    In all that happened to you, there is no problem unless your principal has reprimanded you in any way. If so, get representation. If not, don't let yourself get in this situation again. A calm, "That is none of your business," statement is more effective.

    Good luck with your work! We need more good teachers. Don't give up because of one snot--it will not be the last one. They pick on you because they are frustrated and don't want to blame themselves for their children's problems.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    I was just visiting my mom in this little village (200 people, one school, no gas station or anything), and she took me into school to introduce me to everyone and I was going to help her rearrange her room and they needed a sub and they just sort of signed me up. Here, all you need is a BA to be a sub. I was like, "don't you need to do a criminal background or childline clearances or something?" and they were like "no... not really."

    But most places you just need to take whatever class, get your transcripts and clearances, and file it all with the school district, and then they'll put you at the bottom of the list to call when they need someone. If you're interested, you should call your local school district and they probably have a list or something they can send you. It pays like a hundred bucks a day too (here).
    i get my degree in a month. its in family studies and community development with a track in services to children. so basically i'm not certified to teach (i only took the praxis 1, not 2) but it looks like you dont need to be. cool! thats definately something i can look into!

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