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    How do you take nights w rejections?

    Hey guys, so this is a newbie post but it helps on the hustle, so feel free to move this. I scan the room when I'm walkin and I find a guy that's been lookin at me, but he declines to a dance (regardless of whether u talked to him for like a song or not). Regardless, if there's a whole bunch of other custies next to him that are not with him, do you leave and go for them? Do you walk a significant distance from that previous customer to a different area of the club? I worked two nights, and the first I made $120 after house, gas, and tipouts. The second I did $240 after house and tipouts, but I think is because of this. I don't know how to approach custies around that one that rejected me because I feel weird! Do you just go for the custies next/very near to him?, let me know, that way I can shake this and begin makin money!! ( I know is not good, but I've been partying and drinkin too, so I can say my first days were very happy and not nervous, but I know I'll make dough)

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    Default Re: How do you take nights w rejections?

    First off, the guy that was checking you out, why did you ultimately not get the dance from him?

    After I've tried to sell a guy on a dance/vip and that doesn't work I offer to come back. If even that 2nd or 3rd time around do not work, I set my sites higher.

    After the first "NO" from this guy, smile and get up. Look around to see who else may be looking your way. Flirt, make some eye contact. Usually what I do if I see someone who I can tell I've defiantely piqued his interest I walk over and say something like, "you look like you like what you see" For me, that helps break the ice.

    I dont' care if my next prospective customer is in the chair right next to the guy who turned me down. I'm hitting up the guy who seems more interested in me. Good luck.







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    Regardless, if there's a whole bunch of other custies next to him that are not with him, do you leave and go for them? Do you walk a significant distance from that previous customer to a different area of the club?
    Ill walk right over to the guys by him... who cares if he sees. Hopefully he sees you do a hot dance and you use it in your sale. "You jealous yet?" smile cutely.

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    Actually, I have been dancing for a long time, and I DO avoid moving to the next dude immediately after he has seen me approach another customer. In my experience, if a guy sees me just going down the line talking to everybody he doesn't he's special that I approached HIM. (Some girls walk around and ask every single person if they want a dance, so it must work for some people but not for me!) Also I use discretion as to who I approach, so I move around the room to determine who might be a good prospect.

    When a guy rejects you though, don't LOOK like you've been rejected- continue smiling and being friendly, and then excuse yourself and walk away like you're going somewhere. If you get up and move straight to another guy, it looks obvious you just got turned down, but if you get up and leave like its no big deal it won't look so silly if you return in a few minutes.

    That's my advice at least.

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    Unless it's slow, the guys most likely don't notice you getting rejected. And if they do, they probably really don't care. Any guy in a club should expect to be approached. Period. Whether or not you just got rejected or not probably doesn't change the stakes as much as you're thinking it is. Every guy is someone new and has nothing to do with the last guy. Clean slate. That's how I look at it. Way easier to deal with it that way. Just go around doing your job (approaching, greeting, closing the sale). And remember that the more people you approach, the more you will sell because a certain percentage will always say yes.
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    I don't necessarily go to the next guy at the table, I go to the guy I think is my next best bet for making money. I don't care if he's sitting next to the first guy or not tho. Sometimes I rub their nose in it too, like if they don't want a dance I'll tell them I'm gonna go spend time with someone who's interested in my services. Then if it's slow I give them a look while I'm dancing for the other guy, like "too bad this isn't you, cheapass."



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    If someone rejects me for whatever, sometimes I'll still chat with them for a bit, while I look around for someone familiar, if I see them, I'll excuse myself, with a big wave to the other person I know and go to them. Because I know they'll most likely buy a dance. But, if not, I'll go for a walk to the bar, chat for a sec, look around, and see if anyone else might be a good candidate.
    Sometimes, as a joke, I'll go down the line, or I'll ask them all at once, "Who's first?!" Then the guy that looks the most shy is my first shot. And that normally works.

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    What I always tell new girls about rejection is really, you are not everybody's type. If a guy has it in his head that he wants a red head, there is no way I am going to get him to buy a dance from my blonde ass. Also, not every guy gets dances, or has the money to get one. It's much more productive to focus on getting most out of each guy who likes you.
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    Default Re: How do you take nights w rejections?

    they are not rejecting you.

    they are rejecting your services, NOT YOU.

    As for moving to guys near him, who cares? if anything it makes the guy who said no jealous. just move to the next good bet for a sale.

    Love it!

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    Default Re: How do you take nights w rejections?

    Building on what Chrissy said...they're rejecting your sales pitch.

    I actually have fun convincing them that they REALLY want a blonde, not a redhead. Guys really don't care what your hair color is, its just an easy excuse for price objection.
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    Britney I have to disagree with you. There are certain physical traits I like and certain I don't. As a customer I would never get a dance from a girl who didn't look how I liked her to look, point blank.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hotbunny View Post
    ...he declines to a dance (regardless of whether u talked to him for like a song or not). Regardless, if there's a whole bunch of other custies next to him that are not with him, do you leave and go for them?
    As has been posted by the dancers here - rejection is a fact of life for a dancer. No way are us customers going to buy a dance from every girl who approaches us. If we did, we'd:

    (a) leave the club skint in fairly short order

    or

    (b) have a very p*ssed off bank manager

    or

    (c) buy dances from girls we weren't attracted to.

    So as the dancer's here said - don't take it personally.

    As a custie, I'd suggest moving away to a fresh group of guys. Asking everyone in a group one after the other gives the impression of desperation, and it makes it uncomfortable for the guys to keep on saying no to you. They'd probably much rather you moved on and came back later.

    If you do move on, you've always got the option of coming back later - there are many reasons why you might have got an inital no. For example, a group of guys may just want to exchange 'war stories' at that particular point in time.

    Accordingly, they might buy later when they've loosened up with a few drinks inside them - but not if they've all said no to you before. Overcoming a 'no' is harder if you come back for a second time, but if you've moved away after the first guy says no thanks, when you come back his friends are still virgin territory.

    Quote Originally Posted by hotbunny View Post
    I scan the room when I'm walkin and I find a guy that's been lookin at me, but he declines to a dance (regardless of whether u talked to him for like a song or not).
    Approaching guys who look at you is a good idea, but maybe you need to consider what sort of look it is?

    Us guys are fairly visual creatures, and if your gown is revealing, that might be what we're interested in. On the other hand, if we like you, we're more included to make eye contact.

    So ask yourself what sort of look we're giving you.

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    Default Re: How do you take nights w rejections?

    vegas princess, you're female. a male however, thinks boobs are boobs, whether they belong to a blonde, redhead, etc. aka, you're/we're complicated, men are not so complicated.

    focusing on WHY they say no instead of the fact they DO say no is important.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chrissy68 View Post
    vegas princess, you're female. a male however, thinks boobs are boobs, whether they belong to a blonde, redhead, etc. aka, you're/we're complicated, men are not so complicated.
    Yeah, if they're a 'boob guy' and the girls got the kind of jugs they like. Not all guys are into boobs. I've seen a guy at the club that will only tip brunettes, big breasted ones, small breasted ones, ones covered in tatoos, ones with no tatoos, so long as they were brunettes. Not all men care about boobs. Every guy, like women, is picky about at least one thing. Now, if you're good you can still be the opposite of what a guy wants and hustle the money out of 'em, but men still have preferences.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VegasPrincess View Post
    Britney I have to disagree with you. There are certain physical traits I like and certain I don't. As a customer I would never get a dance from a girl who didn't look how I liked her to look, point blank.

    I agree. I hate to do it, but I have said no to a few strippers just because they weren't my type (smaller breasted, etc). I tend to get more turned on by the larger-breaster strippers, even though mine's aren't huge lol.

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    If they are in a group as friends then I don't generally ask another person in the group for a dance. I always smile and say "maybe I'll come around later" and then look at the group, if theres a guy eying me, I'll cock my head and smile and if smiles back then i'll head over there. If I look at the group and someone is just looking at me cause I'm standing there I'll smile, walk away and come back later.

    Now if you get turned down by a guy and there's another unrelated guy to his side/behind him, I'll go for it.

    I just feel like if they are just looking at me because I'm talking to their friend and then I get rejected and asked them for a dance, it seems tacky/lame. I'd rather get a sure reaction from one of them or just come back later.

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    After I get 2 rejections in a row, I go to the back room for no more than 5 minutes. I might call my bf, I might eat some vegetables, or I might reapply my makeup. This way I don't look like I get rejected very often so I can come back out and talk to whomever I please as if I just got to the club.

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    I don't go up to the person right beside him, but I don't worry about going too far or trying to hide the fact that someone said no. It's a numbers game, and the more people you ask the more dances you will get. Put that armor on your ego and be aggressive. More and more I find this is the thing that gets me the most dances. It's a lot less about looks than it is about personality and persistence--and not taking no for an answer!
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    I do not like to go up to the guy right next to one who turned me down,caue I thnk they will have seen me get turned down and will wonder what's wrong with me, but I know that thinking is wrong and fucked up.
    but here's somethign interesting:

    Several times, my boyfriend has been at my club, and there would be a dancer going from guy to guy, asking, and being rejected, yet she keepts going from chair to chair. My boyfriend sees this girl, and happens to think she's hot and decides he wants a dance from her, and since he sees her going from table to table, he assumes she will soon approach him, so he waits for her. If a different girl walks up to him after he set his sights on the first one, he will turn her down to keep waiting.
    So sometimes...going from guy to guy isn't a bad thing. Someone might have seen you and be waiting.
    Also..a few times that this has happened, for whatever reason before the girl got to my guy, she decided to give u and hit the other side of the room and then he is disappointed that he waited for her to approach but she didn't. So by leaving that section, she lost a customer. And he doesn't want to get up and chase her down cause leaving your seat unattended in a strip club is jst not a good idea. You lose yoru beer, ciggs and probably your table, if they are busy.

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