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    It's no secret. I hate the holidays. And here's why.....

    My cousin has been stealing from me for years. She steals my cllothes, my expensive shoes, my glasses. I even caught her walking out of my house with a La Perla slip in her hand.She tried to hide it when she saw me and I grabbed it from her .She said she didn't know she had it. She doesn't haved the money for high end shit so she would prefer to take my stuff because I "never pay for " my stuff anyway. She denys having my stuff and then posts pics on Myspace of her wearing it and then lies and says her mom bought it for her. Sorry honey, your parents aren't putting out $2000 for a Gucci sweater !!!! Grrrrrrrrrrr

    So last year, I had enough. I simply told her I wasn't coming to Thanksgiving ( at her parents) until she gave me clothes back. She insisted that she didn't have anything and I skipped turkey day with my family. Later that night I dropped my phone and broke it but I needed to reach my mother so I called my uncles to ask for my moms #. My uncle and cousin took turns laughing and hanging up on me. I called my grandpa to try to get the number and he starts screaming at me saying I've lost it and how could I say these things about my cousin? He screamed at me calling me a liar, the word Satan was used and he mentioned my job. I NEVER told my grandparents about my job because they are so religious it would kill them. I guess my cousin just threw me under the bus.

    Anyway, because she just graduated from lawschool she comes out smelling like a rose and I have not only been robbed by my own family, I've been screamed at and chastized. It's SO painful. When one of my uncles died over the summer, no one even talked to me at the funeral.

    What they don't know about my stupid cousin id that she has 2 DUIS , is banging a married partner at her law firm and is a fucking KLEPTO. She has a drug charge.....I have 0 criminal history, I'm honest, I volunteer in Africa for God's sake !

    So when the holidays roll around and there's talk of turkey and family, I just want to leave the country. I have been steamrolled by my entire family when I am the victim........

    Sorry it's kind of long but I'm stressed out and really, really hurt. MY grandparents are getting older and who knows how long they have left but after the way I was treated , why would I want to even try ? At the very least, I deserve an apology. I spent last X-mas crying about this situation. It was the first time in 32 years I wasn't with my family.

    Advice? Cyber hugs ?

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    Awww...

    Get together with some close friends who don't have family in the area and do the holidays together. Being with people you love on those days will hopefully help you to forget the pain a little and enjoy yourself.

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    they sound absolutely fucking horrible. taking turns hanging up and laughing at you? fuck them. im sorry but this just made me so angry for some reason. i wouldnt be around those people. that, or i would, and i'd give it right back to them.

    i remember one year at thanksgiving my aunt gave me shit when i wanted to be a teacher. i got so pissed off i left and her kids thought it was sooo funny when christmas rolled around. i was FURIOUS. you didnt graduate high school, your daughter fucking dropped out of school too and yet i'm wrong for wanting to teach because it isnt a lot of money? she said my parents were wasting their money on me going to school.

    family can suck. they really, really do. fuck em. you dont need people like that in your life.

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    It just hurts when I think about it. Strangely, when there have been conflicts in the past, I always tried to bring evryone together. Why would I make that up , you know ?

    I feel hot and weepy when I think about it. I hate the holidays !

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    I know how you feel. I've managed to get the position of black sheep in my family and holiday times are just so sucky.

    I'm sure things will work out eventually.
    Hugs!



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    Sorry to hear about your trouble .

    It's too bad your don't live a little closer , I invite all the people that are going to be alone for the Holidays over for a good get together with turkey and all the good stuff that goes along with it, ( I'm a HELL of a cook ) I do the same thing for the 4th and Christmas !

    I bet nobody around here would steal your stuff either !

    Anyway get your friends together and have a pot-luck , it's always a good time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dusterpilot View Post

    I bet nobody around here would steal your stuff either !
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    What a concept

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    I think a lot of us can probably share similar stories, as I'm sure plenty of us have the black sheep reputation. Being a stripper usually isn't a completely discrete decision. It usually comes along with a way of life and a philosophy that is a little different from the norm. If you worshiped societal convention you would never have become a stripper.

    The mob is threatened by anything different from the norm. Unfortunately, lots and lots of families operate as mindless mobs. It doesn't have as much to do with your dirty, dirty job as your even more insidious insistence on thinking for yourself. You hussy.

    My ultimate advice is "fuck 'em."

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    Quote Originally Posted by twisterinAZ View Post
    What a concept
    ....I'm sure you could get use to it......
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    I'm a little shy, but okay....

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    And every happy happy holiday joy song on TV or the radio just reminds me !

    Last year I had Thansgiving here for a few girls from my work and some football buddies . After that we got blitzed at a local dive bar. That part was fun...

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    I hear you girl! All i do on the holidays is eat icecream/drink/cuddle with my cat and watch movies

    This year I will do the same. :hugs: I hope to god your cousins karma kicks in ASAP...what a little bitch...

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    Right ?

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    Why don't you show up at her house and when she opens the door bust in and go get your stuff. Yes its a little crazy but what do you have to loose. It would be SUPER petty if you somehow anonymously aired her dirty laundry (duis and stuff) maybe send some cheap flowers over on the holiday and have it all written in the card. I'm evil but if you are gonna bail anyway might as well make everyone else a little uncomfortable. DUI's are public record so you could send that over as proof



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    dui's are NOT public record if you were given probation before judgement.,

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    I hate the holidays, too. It makes me so anxious. Two years ago I broke out in hives because I was so stressed by my insane parents. I feel so disconnected from my family, and the holidays just amplify that feeling. So I feel you.

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    I hate the holidays, too. This Dec. especially will be a drag, as it'll be the year anniversary of ending a tight friendship with a woman I liked very much. I brought a present to her place as something as a last-ditch peace offering. She said she'd mailed her gift to me. It never arrived, and we haven't spoken since.

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    I"m sorry twister your family sounds like a terror. They are small minded and you can't change them. You know you can't pick your family but you can pick your friends. So spend the holidays with friends you love. You said you had a great thanksgiving last year so do something new and exciting with the same group. Take your mind off things.

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    Definitely create new boundaries. When I was there every year they took me for granted and acted out their craziness! I found that, ironically, the more years I spent doing my own thing during the holidays, the more my family missed me.
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    I'd tell ya to come to portland and be with me! I'm not going to be around family, thankfully... and the holidays have ALWAYS kicked me into breakdown mode!

    I still have no clue what my plans are, probably just sitting at home and being irritable.

    Sucks that your family did that to you! If your interested ingettng your stuff back, and airing "proof" about your cousins wrongdoing, can you print up the myspace pictures of her stuff, and dig up your own reciepts? I dont know about you, but I have reciepts for everything, and most of my outfits I actually have pictures of, since I take them to shoots and such. Plus, you can get whatever public record information there is about her criminal record, and her affair...hitting below the belt, but a persons integrity is something sacred, and if someone insulted MINE, you better believe I would break loose the floodgates of closet skeletons...
    Seriously though, Hope it turns out OK for you...

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    dui's are NOT public record if you were given probation before judgement.,

    Arrests are public record.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Glamazon View Post
    Arrests are public record.
    In California they are, but not all states operate that way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SarahSynn View Post
    In California they are, but not all states operate that way.
    I wasn't talking about CA...I may live here, but I've lived elsewhere, too!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Glamazon View Post
    Arrests are public record.
    the way it was explained to me, by the judge, was that it goes in 3 places. none of those are available to the general public. not to mention, even if they were, you can get dui's expunged pretty easily.

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    Ok, so I just looked it up out of sheer curisosity and DUI *convictions* are a matter of public record in Arizona. (Now, probation before judgment or other circumstances might be exceptions). If I were you I would get a copy and send it to the family--not necessarily to be vindictive, but to say, "Hey, look--no one is perfect so stop taking sides." But that's just me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dottie Rebel View Post
    Ok, so I just looked it up out of sheer curisosity and DUI *convictions* are a matter of public record in Arizona. (Now, probation before judgment or other circumstances might be exceptions). If I were you I would get a copy and send it to the family--not only to be vindictive, but to say, "Hey, look--no one is perfect so stop taking sides." But that's just me.
    yeah, thats what i was saying. pbj is pretty common in dui cases, so that was all. if you get a pbj its not public record.

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