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    Default Why do I feel like such an idiot? Re: lingerie

    I can't believe I'm asking these questions in my 30's, because I should already know. But believe it or not, I have never worn any kind of lingerie to bed other than bra and panties. I'm pretty much clueless when it comes to what is sexy and what is not. Hubby and I were watching tv last night and this girl had on a full length red & black silky gown and was trying to entice her husband with it. I asked him if he liked things like that and he said no, the gown made her look old (which it did). So he says he likes stockings. I asked if he was talking about the kind with a garter belt and he said not necessarily, just stockings in general.

    So my question is this...what looks good? I looked on vs website and they just looked so 80's to me...like what I buy at walmart when I don't feel like wearing full fledged hose. If you're walking into the bedroom wearing nothing but these "stockings" and bra & panties, do you really wear shoes too? Because I would feel really stupid doing that, but I'd feel even more stupid not doing it if that's what you're supposed to do. Help?

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    Default Re: Why do I feel like such an idiot? Re: lingerie

    When I get dressed for sex, I always wear shoes. My husband loves body stockings, fishnet of any kind. I buy soft silky nighties to actually sleep in, and he loves to touch the fabric slipping over skin.

    So if you think about lingerie as "dressing for sex" then you will be able to find what you and your partner like best. Just like you dress for other events, dressing for sex is just as fun (or more so) than getting ready to go out.


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    Default Re: Why do I feel like such an idiot? Re: lingerie

    Get yourself to Victoria's Secret store and pick out some nice thigh high stockings. They will stay up on their own without a garter belt and you can totally wear them with just heels, a bra, and panties. Classic and sexy.

    I LOVE fishnet thigh highs!

    Have fun with it!

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    Definitely wear heels with your stockings, at least at first. You can kick them off once things get going. I'd also suggest wearing a nice sexy bra and panties set because it's fun for him to undress you - like unwrapping a present.

    You can wear stockings with a garter belt if you want (just put your thong on over the garter belt so you can take it off without removing the garter belt). Or wear stay-up thigh highs. Leg Avenue has lots of beautiful stay-up stockings with lace tops, backseams, and other embellishments.

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    Default Re: Why do I feel like such an idiot? Re: lingerie

    Ok I'm starting to feel better about this since you girls wear that stuff too. So, are stockings and thigh highs one in the same? When I did a search, most stores had "stockings" and "thigh highs" in different sections and it was confusing me lol.

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    Default Re: Why do I feel like such an idiot? Re: lingerie

    Stockings require a garter belt, thigh highs will work with or without a garter belt.


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    Default Re: Why do I feel like such an idiot? Re: lingerie

    These are thigh highs which stay up on their own. http://www2.victoriassecret.com/comm...ZZZ&rfnbr=2903

    These are stockings which require the garter belt and such. http://www2.victoriassecret.com/comm...ZZZ&rfnbr=2903

    With your little hot body I am sure both would nice on you. I am sure he will like it too.

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    Default Re: Why do I feel like such an idiot? Re: lingerie

    I think the OP is pulling our leg, but I'll play along...

    Ties... ties are something to un-tie and it's a turn on.

    Slits ... Just because slits scream "look at what is revealed"

    Colors ... Black, Red, White are always hot. Pink.. maybe, depending on the girl. Once you start getting into Blues and Greens, careful, you may be entering Grandma territory. Yellows, Oranges, whatever. Jungle prints can be hot on the right girl. And I'd avoid mixing colors.

    Coverage... it's all about hiding something, revealing something... this though depends entirely on the Woman''s build and there is no one right thing. A bigger woman needs to hide a bit more. A smaller woman can get away with showing more. I can't explain it. There is proportion here showing too much vs too little.

    Materials ... silky, shiney, sleek = good. Flowery prints = bad (because Grandma wears flowers). And watch out for too much lace. It's itchy and can scream "good girl" to a point that is a turn off.

    I could go on, but maybe that will help...

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    Default Re: Why do I feel like such an idiot? Re: lingerie

    She's not pulling your leg xdamage. I know her and she was just asking me about it this evening before I posted a visual aid.

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    Default Re: Why do I feel like such an idiot? Re: lingerie

    Quote Originally Posted by greenidlady1 View Post
    She's not pulling your leg xdamage. I know her and she was just asking me about it this evening before I posted a visual aid.
    Uhm okay, in that case... if the goal is to turn on a guy, then take a guy with you whose opinion you trust. Do not play it safe. The whole point of lingerie is to sexually excite. A grandma-friendly lingerie item is worse then nothing at all. It basically says to your man, you and I are safe, we are good friends, I trust you so much I am going to dress like grandma around you and we will be happy until we are too old to have sex. This is NOT the message you what to communicate.

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    Default Re: Why do I feel like such an idiot? Re: lingerie

    I agree men love thigh highs. Get black sheer ones not the opaque ones those aren't as sexy. Also the crothless bodystockings (available online or in sex shops) like Paris mentioned -men like those. I also say wear black heels with the stockings.

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    Thanks everyone. Green, thanks for setting xdamage straight Now I just need to go shopping! Do you have plans for next Sunday?

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    Default Re: Why do I feel like such an idiot? Re: lingerie

    I don't have sex clothes. Most I've ever done for my bf is sexy panties. I feel weird dressing up for sex cuz I dress up at work, and I just.. idk, it's weird to me.

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    SOme good advice here.

    My only addition? No teddies. Ugly. very.

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    ^^^lol, yeah for some reason I've always thought teddies look a bit trashy, and not in a good way. Maybe it's just the ones that I've seen, but for whatever reason they remind me of Peggy Bundy (from married with children) lol.

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    In my opinion as a boy, I recommend all panties be thongs. It's okay if it has frilly lacy stuff attached as well but the thong on the butt is key.

    Sorry to any ladies who don't like thongs.
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    In my opinion as a boy, I recommend all panties be thongs. It's okay if it has frilly lacy stuff attached as well but the thong on the butt is key.

    Sorry to any ladies who don't like thongs.
    I think you have to find out what your man finds attractive because my man likes full underwear way more than thongs. I have tons of full underwear now, but before I was dating him I barely even wore underwear.

    To be honest, I think I would feel kind of awkward to wear heels in the bedroom, especially on my carpeted floor. I will have to try getting all dressed up for my man, heels and all, as his B-day's coming up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OdysseusNJ View Post
    In my opinion as a boy, I recommend all panties be thongs. It's okay if it has frilly lacy stuff attached as well but the thong on the butt is key.

    Sorry to any ladies who don't like thongs.
    This is kinda silly... while you are, of course, entitled to your opinion/underwear preferences, NOT all men prefer thongs... hardly.

    And remember there is a LARGE and very sexy, playful area between "granny panty" and itsy bitsy thong. It all depends on the shape of a woman's body and her curves, and what she wants to play up, maximize, minimize, etc.

    For example... There's a tiny brazilian girl at my club who has a great little bubble butt and no hips... she looks fantastic in those burlesquey ruffle panties. There's another tall, curvy girl who looks wonderful in side-tie bralizian-style underwear. One dancer looks fabulous in little boyshorts... For me, my torso is a little shorter and I want my hip-tats to show, so I like thongs or low-rise tace tanga panties or side-tie t-backs. For the bedroom, playfulness is fun... if anything I'd wear a corset and no underwear. (Lionness, have you thought about something like that??? An underbust, a full corset, or bustier?? Those are so sexy... curve enhancing.... and anything that laces up the back looks VERY appealing in... certain positions.... )

    ... oh, and LOL @ Peggy Bundy. hah.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Embyr View Post
    And remember there is a LARGE and very sexy, playful area between "granny panty" and itsy bitsy thong. It all depends on the shape of a woman's body and her curves, and what she wants to play up, maximize, minimize, etc.
    EXACTLY!

    There is no one size fit's all here, it depends on the woman's body shape/type.

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    Were you watching Til Death?

    I'd take him w/ me to the store to help me pick something out.
    I don't know why, but I've always found back seam stockings very sexy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Embyr View Post
    This is kinda silly... while you are, of course, entitled to your opinion/underwear preferences, NOT all men prefer thongs... hardly.
    I wasn't trying to claim some kind of keener male insight or anything if that's how it came off, quite the opposite in fact, kind of a "take this with a grain of salt for what it's worth." No matter what sh0t says, I'm quite aware of whose opinions count for what on this board...

    Anyway most of the women posting here could wear just about any type of panties and it would look amazing. Hot girls can wear men's boxers and it will look cute. Actually I see that all the time in commercials. So the OP probably doesn't have to worry too much about choosing something wrong.

    Also to the OP, have you asked your husband if he'd like to go shopping with you at the lingerie store? That could be really fun for you two and solve the issue nicely.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PrettyCurlieQ View Post
    I don't have sex clothes. Most I've ever done for my bf is sexy panties. I feel weird dressing up for sex cuz I dress up at work, and I just.. idk, it's weird to me.
    Oh, you two might be missing out, one of my favorite aspects of when my ex started dancing was how much hotter her bedroom wardrobe became. She seemed to like that aspect of things too. But I can see why it might seem weird.

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    ^^^ that's kinda funny... (a sidenote) since i started dancing i realized that all my "real" underwear is insanely boring and all my $$ gets spent on work undies. maybe if i had a bf things would be different.

    oh, +1 on taking hubby shopping.

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