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    Default I'm sitting in class and I want to cry

    I am in a mandatory study group with some Australian exchange students... I am sitting in the lecture now...

    Just now when I walked into the class this bitch was telling a group of other foreign students that my contribution is worthless... which sucks because I actually TRIED on my piece for the last 2 weeks.

    Another student got her attention to the fact that I was listening to her, and she shut up... but this is really making me feel like shit / end rant

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    Don't even let her get to you, sweetie. If you did your best then she has no right to say shit to or about you. Evil cow.


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    ^^ what she said. I'm sure your contribution was great. Keep your poise you will definitely look like the bigger classier person.



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    Maybe its just me but I would have opened my big mouth and told her to keep my name out of her big f*cking mouth. But thats just me. Oh that got under my skin for some reason.

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    I bet you are alot more attractive than she is and she is just jealous of you !
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    Audry, if I was anywhere except this building I would have walked right up to her and told her to shut the fuck up!

    That is the part that makes me frustrated so I want to cry!! I can't say anything to her, this is a professional school, and I will look like the hothead!!

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    I figured thats what made you want to cry. Anger and frustration.

    Professional. Oh shes being sooooo professional. Id take her to the side alone after class and tell her very quietly to 'keep' pause 'my' pause 'name' pause 'outta your' pause 'fucking MOUTH'. Im sure shell get the point and then if she says anything its her word against yours and no proof. And if anyone mentions it to you just play stupid. I dont know what shes talking about. *twirl hair*

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    Um, 242, I get you're angry, but I think you handled it way better. I mean, we both know that a confrontation - especially a threatening one - would mark you as worse than a "hothead". On the upside - in classes like that usually when people say your contribution was worthless it is because they didn't understand it. I'm sure it wasn't actually worthless, just an analysis that she wasn't expecting. I'm sure you don't even have to worry about it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 242_fair View Post
    That is the part that makes me frustrated so I want to cry!! I can't say anything to her, this is a professional school, and I will look like the hothead!!
    You did the right thing by not blowing up. Real life situations cannot usually be handled the way we would handle them in a strip club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dusterpilot View Post
    I bet you are alot more attractive than she is and she is just jealous of you !
    I second that, the fat girls in class are always bitches to me..

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    If she says something mean again, just say "This is why he left you!"

    and no matter what, she'll remember some old boyfriend and feel like shit
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    You need to nip this in the bud. People like her can sabotage you if you don't. I'm in nursing school, and some gossipy little bitch's game of telephone could have gotten me kicked out. I played nice and oblivious at first, so she felt no need to stay out of my business. I should have told her from the beginning that she is training to be a professional, and I certainly would not trust such a petty, gossipy nurse with loose lips.

    You can confront her and be professional. Heck, you could have professionally confronted her with an audience. Do not threaten her. Point out that her behavior was counterproductive to the group and the project, and she should have told you to her face rather than broadcast.

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    ^^^ I remember your thread about that. What a biotch.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    On the upside - in classes like that usually when people say your contribution was worthless it is because they didn't understand it.
    I had the same thing happen in a science class last fall semester. I made my presentation for the teacher and the other kids (teens) couldn't understand why I would do a project like that. I ended up getting an A.

    So don't fret over it too much. That bitch isn't the one giving out grades.
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    You know that she's an attention whore who loves to bitch if she commanded an audience and tried to gain credibility at your expense. She loves the drama and used you as an opportunity.

    Seriously, cover your ass. Maybe she has realized that she has stuck her foot in her mouth, but maybe she hasn't. You worked hard for this position. Don't ever let someone jeopardize you.

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    She's just an immature bitch. She made an ass of herself speaking against you in front of a group of people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hatshepsut View Post
    You can confront her and be professional. Heck, you could have professionally confronted her with an audience. Do not threaten her. Point out that her behavior was counterproductive to the group and the project, and she should have told you to her face rather than broadcast.
    Yeah, I agree. I would be like, "I heard you complaining about my contribution earlier. We are working together on this project in a professional setting, and if you have a problem with my contribution you need to let me know. It is unprofessional and counterproductive to tell other people and not me. Now we need to address this right now. What is the problem?" And do it in front of people.



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    There are a million ways to covertly sabotage someone else in professional school - or life in general - so that it can never be traced back to you. Not that I've actually done this, but the ways are out there.

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    You were right not to blow up. That would gain nothing for you.

    If you kept an even and non-confrontational tone. Looked her directly in the eyes and said, "Excuse me (very politely and matter of factly)...please explain. Why is my contribution worthless?" Doing this in front of others puts her on the spot. She is now on the defensive. I have used this tactic in business many times. They usually stammer and cannot come up with a good answer. They end up looking bad.

    The key is to keep your cool. Besides, people that talk like that about others usually have a lot of insecurity issues within themselves. You don't have to actually do much to tear them down. They will usually tear themselves down if you give that little push. Maybe it is an alpha male type thing, but the non-threatening constant eye contact along with the balanced tone is the key.

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    IMO you should pull her to the side and ask her about instead in front of others.

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    Having a confrontation in a study group is not a good use of anyone's time. The young lady in question simply has a negative opinion of 242's work. She's allowed - there is nothing inherently immoral in that. She is likely wrong, but sitting down in a seminar or study group and having it out because you overheard someone say something critical is not something that anyone is going to get on board with.

    242, I would say that you handled this in the best possible way. You overheard something unfortunate and opted not to make it into a problem.
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    Stab her in the face with a pencil.
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    I wouldn't confront her about it unless this sort of thing keeps happening. Yeah, you don't want to let people walk all over you. But if this is an isolated incident thing where someone makes an offhand remark about your work sucking, I'd let it go.

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    Jenny's statement regarding the study group scenario is probably much better than my recommendation. Personally, I dislike rudeness toward myself or others. It is a pet peeve. I am a direct person and I deal with things directly. That is me.

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