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    K, I need some motivation.

    Some of you on the board actually work with me and you know what it's been like lately at the club.
    Some of you just know...

    Anyway. I'm in a HUGE slump! I hardly work anymore. And I haven't worked out in forever because I've associated working out with going to work. I make excuses. I'm totally lame.

    I've sat down and logically thought it through. I don't want a "regualr" job right now. It wouldn't work with scheduling and money. I know (logically) that dancing makes the msot sense right now. That I could keep going for a year, save up and finish learning web design and marketing and then I could move on....

    But. I. Can't. Go.

    When I get to work, I bust my ass. I'm not broke right now, no one is starving...but I'm certainly not in a good position. So when I do go to work, I work hard. But ugh....

    What is wrong with me? I'm fighting this and fighting this, until I cave and HAVE to go. I need to get my head on straight or figure something else out.

    Any thoughts, anyone who can relat? Anything?

    I don't like feeling like a flake or loser. And right now that's what I feel like. I want to heed my own advice and "suck it up and just get the job done" but it's not working. Would one of you ladies Puh-Leaze come and kick my ass into gear?




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    I feel your pain. Some days I just can't make myself go in because I just know there isn't going to be any $. I'd rather stay at home and get shit done here.
    I've been thinking maybe I need a new club. The $ around here is spotty unless you do xtras.
    I've thought about the regular job thing too - and for me at this point it is senseless. I'd be homeless.
    If you figure it out before I do let me know. In the meantime I have gone back to the gym and it's helping me to feel better.

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    I feel ya! I meant to go to work tonight but here I am...

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    I don't think I'd ever go to work if they didn't force us to do a roster. :/ I hate being on a roster, but I need it at the same time.
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    Im feelin ya. Its just burnout.... thats all - but it comes to a point when it gets harder and harder to get over it. Thats the time you need to really start concentrating on your future.

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    If it makes you feel any better, (I'm sure it doesn't) I feel exactly the same with the working out and everything . I took almost ayear off and now I have to dance which is not a nice feeling to have but I backed myself into a corner. Where are you working now EE ? Pm if you would prefer.

    Dancer burn out is no fun and if you need me to, I will come over and kick your ass (nicely) into gear

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    Maybe try doing just a shift or two at a new club? Sometimes the change in scenery is energizing.... Then again, changing things ALWAYS helps me. If you don't want to go to a new club, maybe try getting a new outfit in a VERY different style than your usual, and see if that can shake it up a little?

    Or I don't know if your a visual person.... I mark all my money on a calandar, and feel guilty as fuck if I look and see a lot of space between numbers. And its easy to say "WAIT... I'm only working once a week. Thats unacceptable". when you might otherwise say "eh, i'll go in next weekend".

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    I think every dancer will face this stage.


    I have another job. something that i love to do and eventually will be my only job.
    i know it sounds silly, but that works for me. it is a freelance job so i can do (almost) both jobs at the same time. or just one at the time.
    and if i take a break from the club, and come back, i make the same money as if i would dance full time.

    hope this helps
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    Just go. Once you get there, then worry about motivating yourself to work. Ya know? I have been loathing work, but once I drag my ass up to the club, somehow I get in the groove with the other girls and then I get to work!

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    Thanks all. Yah, I know the dancer burnout, and it's here for sure. Once I get to the club I do great, I hustle, I have my game face on and stay that way pretty much all night. It's getting myself there that's the problem.

    NTD, I like the caledar idea. Because I can sit here and fool myself by saying "i'm doing fine on money, I don't need to go tonight, I was just there." Then all of a sudden it's been a week since I've gone! So the calendar idea sounds good to me. I'll have to envoke my hubby's help in filling it out.

    Twister, CCT. Yesssssss, come kick my ass! An ass kicking by you may be just what I need!

    Thanks for letting me vent you all. I've been through stripper burnout before, but this has been stretched out quite a bit more. And usually the stripper burnout I've experienced comes with a lo more negetive emotion towards dacning or the club, etc. This time around...I just don't want to go. I find myself cruising through the want ads on monster and stuff. It's time to plan my exit I think, but I have to remember to keep working at the same time or I'll screw myself over in the end.




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    ^^This happens to me all the time, I don't feel like going but I go in anyway and once I'm there I'm OK. Sometimes I get anxious thinking about work, but when I get there, being there makes it more "normal" to me. The best thing is I go to work with a friend (we commute far), and having her is SO much motivation!! Plus, it takes the stress off of driving


    Do you have a friend you can go into work with? Maybe that would make you feel better and look forward to driving with

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    I can relate to you alot! I think my feeling is that the only good nights to work is on the weekend and sometimes I feel like I am missing out on time with friends who work regular jobs, and have the weekend off. But sometimes, like yourself, I find myself just NOT wanting to go and feeling blah....

    I will say though that since starting to work out more again has helped emensly! I do it for myself, not for work. But as you start to feel better about yourself from working out...the better physique falls into play, and the BAM! You want to go to work and show off that killer body and hear all the compliments on how great you look....so it all kinda ties in together.

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    I can definitely relate to this. I know part of the problem for me is that it's been so slow lately at my club and I just dread working when it's slow. I still make my goal but I have to hustle HARD to do it. When I'm not at work thinking about it brings me down, that tedious walking around and around the room until you get that one guy. Hardly the glamorous stripper fantasy that inspires you to want to race to the club!

    Like you, when I get there the stripper in me just takes over and I do make the money I need, but thinking about it before hand....ugh! Because I'm in school and have some other projects going on, the window of time I can dance in is pretty small and I can't blow it off until the next night. There are pros and cons to that. Also, because my exit plan is in effect and I know my stripping time is limited I do make that extra effort to go in. If I didn't know it was limited and something better was taking it over I don't know what I'd do.

    One thing you could try is setting yourself on automated payments to savings each week. This would force you to go in and keep you committed to funding your exit plan. An amount that's manageable but wouldn't cause complete stress. It may be that forcing it is the only way to make it happen, and that could inspire the body in motion stays in motion aspect....

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    What helps me get into it, is doing a search in the "hustle hut" section. I try to make it a challenge for me to try out new sales tecniques all the time, to spice it up and hopefully bank$$$$

    The best advice that ive found for me is to pretend that im selling drinks, not dances.It seems to remove the personal part from dancing and I'm less let down VS thinking that im selling myself and I get turned down. Oh yeas! And alot of RedBull which kicks my arse into gear and makes me fun and spontaneous. ( I cant drink, im on meds permanently!! )

    Maybe visualise a dollar sign instead of his head? it could work! hehe

    Or take a 6moth vacation and chill..Doing the same routine can make u feel burned out, so try something different.

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    EE, why don't you want to go to work? Conditions at the club obviously are the reason you don't want to work.

    Are there more customers than dancers most of the time?
    Is there a lot of rejection in selling dances?
    Are the $100 dollar days/nights more plentiful than the $200-$400 ones?
    Is management and or the girls stressful to deal with?

    I work Mon-Sat pretty much every week, and I just go through the motions and go to work. It's to the point where it is habit to make money every night. I make my bookings where I can a year in advance, schedule my vacation weeks, and unless I am sick an occasional day or 2, religiously stick to my work and vacation schedules.

    I take the good nights with the bad, as slow money is better than no money. If certain clubs start to become a drag, I complete my scheduled bookings, but don't rebook them anymore.

    Most people's jobs become boring or stagnant, just like dancing full time does too, but without full time income, eventually our lifestyles will degenerate, as without steady money coming in weekly, there is no money for bills, recreation, or emergencies.

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