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    Default How to deal with difficult management.

    I'm currently having a problem with the general manager at the club I am at. I have worked with the GM at the same club about two years ago when he worked as a bouncer and never had a problem with him so when I found out he was made GM I decided to come back to the club to give it another try. Ever sinse I have returned I have had a lot of problems with him and I'm not quite sure what to do about it and I'm hoping for some advice. Let me give you a few examples and maybe there is a better way to deal with it than I have been.

    1. We are not allowed to drink straight alcohol at the club, it has to be mixed with something. Okay no problem. Last week I ordered a vodka and sprite from the bartender. About 5 minutes later the GM comes storming up to me pulls me away from the customer and starts yelling at me for trying to get his bartender in trouble by ordering straight liquor. I tried explaining it was mixed with sprite and handed it to him to try so the bartender didn't get in trouble. He stormed away without even looking at the drink.

    2. We sell showtimes, uptimes, reviews whatever they are called. Last Saturday I was sitting with a gentleman who wasn't doing dancer but was giving me money for sitting with him. Okay so a showtime comes up and I go over to the customer I'm sitting with and he handed me the money and bought me out of the showtime. I went back, explain to the bouncer that I already sold and handed him the clubs cut of the money. I go back to my customer and the GM comes over and starts yelling at me for not trying tosell it. I explain that I was already sold and I had already given the bouncer the money, his response is how was I supposed to know I haven't checked the list yet. Okay I let it drop go back to my customer and forget about it.

    3. A few days ago I had a customer I have known for years come in. The GM comes up to me and tells me this guy does lots of champagne rooms. I smiled said thanks for the tip and go back to this customer. I was talking to the guy for awhile and asked about the champagne room and he told me he was really tired and a little buzzed and didn't feel like doing one. I tell him okay no problem I understand and he gets a couple hundred dollars in funny money and just hands me the money, last night when I walked into work the GM comes up and starts telling me I have to work more dayshifts because they don't have enough girls. I told him I don't mind working dayshift, however I have a hard time making money on it because some of the girls are willing to go a little further in the back that I am willing to - well he told me I obviously need to learn how to do my job better and just look what happened last night, I sat with a customer who always does champagne rooms and I couldn't even sell him a dance. At this point I was totally aggrevated and just said okay, I'm sorry let me get back to work.

    I have never had problems like this with any other managers I've worked with and I'm afraid that I may end up snapping at him one day and saying things I'll regret later.

    I have tried approaching him a few times to talk to him but he tells me hes always to busy to talk. I'm actually running out of patience, I work a lot, never cause problems, get along with the rest of the staff and dancers, don't get drunk etc...
    Alexis



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    Default Re: How to deal with difficult management.

    Make a plan B in case things dont work out. I have had to deal with management changes and usually in my expereince, its never worked out. It sounds like this guy is not really such a good buisness person. What he told you was so rude!! whats this about "doing your job better" is he implying that you should be going the extra mile as well? Dosent sound like a good situation at all.

    What happens in the industry (under bad management) is that the girls end up being treated like a name on a list, they forget that we are HUMAN and they assume that none of us have standards. *sigh*

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    Have you heard of anyone else having problems with him?
    I had a similar situation with a manager at my club. We would always bump heads. Then, he got fired cause apparently there would be several complaints a night from girls about him "picking on them" or treating them with disrespect.
    So turns out, it wasn't just me, he was just an asshole. I would say ask around (to people you trust of course, cause you know how drama can start from one little comment to the wrong person) and see if this is a unique situation between you two, or maybe he really is just a jerk.
    If it turns out that it's just between you two, I would continue to try approaching him about it. It understandable that your patience is running thin. From what you said you seem like a good employee, and there's no reason for you to be treated this way.

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    He sounds like he's hitting the coke a little hard. When a manager is irrational and cocky like that, I'm always suspicious.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tina View Post
    He sounds like he's hitting the coke a little hard. When a manager is irrational and cocky like that, I'm always suspicious.
    That was my first reaction!!

    My second reaction is that he's probably trying to impress whoever his boss is by doing a good job. And to him, to do a good job, he thinks he has to micromanage and ride a few asses. I've seen this happen before when a host/bouncer gets promoted to management. It seriously takes about a year in the job for them to relax a bit.

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    [quote=Glamazon;12782

    My second reaction is that he's probably trying to impress whoever his boss is by doing a good job. And to him, to do a good job, he thinks he has to micromanage and ride a few asses. I've seen this happen before when a host/bouncer gets promoted to management. It seriously takes about a year in the job for them to relax a bit.[/quote]

    Yep. This could also be a big possibility. There's a doorman at my club that got promoted last week and I haven't seen him smile since. He was actually one of my favorite people. Now he's always so wound up he looks like he's going to explode any minute. I used to get big smiles and a "hello" every day from him, now he won't even look at me (or anyone else) and anytime I have to ask him something he speaks to me all pissed off.

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    It'd be nice if strip clubs hired managers with some business sense instead of just moving the bouncers up.
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    I swear, every time I hear a bouncer's been moved up to management all I can think is "'damn I really liked that guy'.



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    That is so unprofessional of him. Is there another club you could work at?
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    I don't know where the hell they get the stupid idea to promote BOUNCERS to management instead of puttin ads in for real club/restaurant managers! How do the owners conclude that whippin' ass all night is a good qualification for a manager then look shocked when they act like abusive knuckle-draggers.
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    Oh God. The ex-bouncer-managers are the WORST!

    I had one that was a hard ass jerk off who thought that intimidation ='s management. He treated everyone like shit, veteran girls, long time bouncers, newbies. All the same. He hassled everyone for house fee like he was gonna break their legs or something. Really macho roid-rage (possibly coke now that you mention it) shit.

    I started having nightmares about not making house fee and his reaction. All imagined, of course. I had to leave... for my sanity.

    Turns out that 90% of the bouncers left (since he was being a dick) and a good portion of the dancers ran off too.

    Sucks to be that club. Oh well.
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    Surprise surprise this guy happens to be a bouncer turned manager. I ended up quitting Friday. At that club we have a non private bathroom in the dressing room and a regular bathroom for female customers. If we want to use the private bathroom we have to ask permission. Anyway on Friday I had to go potty so I ask permission to use the private bathroom. I get permission but he made a waitress follow me in to make sure I was actually going potty. And yes she had to wait for me to finish. I don't know who was more embarrassed me or her. Then I finish up and I'm walking to the dressing room when he yells in front of customers at the bar - were you able to sh*t okay.

    That was pretty much the last straw for me. I had talked to other girls and he gives them a hard time too so at least it wasn't just me.
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    WOW! He is a head case.
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    Now see that's just damn ridiculous. What a douche!!
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    Ugh... the manager is a fucking freak. You made the right decision, IMO. Hopefully, his reign of terror won't last long. Let's just hope that he doesn't mess things up too bad. Some managers cause significant damage to the club's customer base, dancer line up, atmosphere, etc. so bad that a club tanks.

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