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    ok. i found one i am in love with. literally, in love. i played with a ton today (yes, rescue kitties!) and when i held this little guy i had a feeling. i knew i wanted him. i already picked out his name. eddie!

    here's my problems:
    -im scared of jasper's reaction. as you guys know, jasper was a TOUGH kitty. hes so normal now with olivia, and im afraid to throw that off. i would feel absolutely terrible if he was unhappy. plus, olivia and jasper get along FABULOUSLY, but when shes around her brother (my brothers cat) she hisses at him and cant be in the same room.

    -3 cats? i feel like it needs to be an even number and there is no way im getting 2 more.

    -my apt only allows 2 pets. this would bring me to 3. on the other hand, though, they only know about jasper, not olivia. and my last apt didnt know at all. so i figure they wont really find out. its not like dogs, that would be easy to find out.

    -my dad is PISSED. he told me he wont help me at all (i asked him to come over and feed them when im in nyc for a weekend in december) and he wont drive my brother to help either. i live alone, but he cosigned my apt. i feel like its unfair to him to get one when he really doesnt want me to. but its MY life, MY apartment, and MY decision.

    but on the bright side..
    -if it doesnt work out, REALLY doesnt, i can take him back. not that i want to do this, but its always an option if things REALLY didnt work out in time.

    -i love him. i have a feeling about this one. i didnt get like that over olivia. i wasnt sure if i wanted her or her brother, i just knew i wanted a new baby. i got her because she was there. i wanted a brand new kitten, and i wanted one i could take right away. that was her. i love her to death, but there was nothing special that drew me to her. this little guy, i played with 5 before him and when i got to him i knew it had to be him.


    for the record, jasper is probably around 14 months (dont know for sure) and olivia is about 6-7 months. this little guy is 11 weeks.

    please help! the little guy is on hold and im supposed to go back at noon tomorrow. i wanted to cry when i left him and i still want to even though i left there an hour ago. i cant stop thinking about it.

    (please, PLEASE dont say i should get him just so he has a home. they are kittens and will be grabbed up soon. i need to think about what is best for me, my cats, and him.)

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    Default Re: please please help - should i get another kitten?

    I think you should only get the kitty if you can really make a decision not to take him back. It will work out if you really do everything you can to make it work out. I think it would be very unfair for the little guy if you decided to give him back one day.This kitty is going to start to love you because you will save its life, so it wouldn't be nice to reject him when he becomes attached to you & the kitties if your mind is changed.

    with that said..


    I think you would make a great owner. Kitties will learn how to get along. it might take a while, but i think its good to have multiple friends for your kitties.
    If your apartment doesn't know anyway then just keep it on the down low.

    If your dad is gonna act like a poop head then ask one of your friends to feed those kittehs. There are ways to work around difficulties.


    added: I think you should follow your instincts. Maybe you were meant to find him
    Last edited by pookie; 11-10-2007 at 02:58 PM. Reason: added




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    Default Re: please please help - should i get another kitten?

    Idk what to tell you. It's like you keep having kids!! lol

    If Jasper and Olivia are happy, maybe you've got a good mix. And you want to be able to take care of them without any problems. Can you give the older cats the attention they need when you're taking care of a new kitten?

    And you're probably right about the pet/apartment thing. They won't know unless maintenance comes in or something and a sea of cats comes swarming out.

    Also, is there a chance your cats are going to mate? I don't know about the ages when they do that or whatever, but don't get more kittens if Jasper is just gonna seduce Olivia and give you more kittens anyways. lol

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    Default Re: please please help - should i get another kitten?

    i know i would never be able to take him back. its just good to know that if i absolutely, 100% had to, i could.

    my biggest problem is im scared of how jasper will react. he is so happy now and he used to not be. i would feel like the worst person in the world if i messed that up for him. he isnt your average cat, so its hard to predict how things will go.

    god, i wish it was like with dogs where you could take them in and introduce them, haha..

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    Agree with Pookie. Don't take the kitten unless you are absolutely sure you won't take him back. That's a lot of uneeded stress on a kitten.

    And your dad unfortunately as a cosigner has some say in what goes on in the apartment...

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    Quote Originally Posted by pookie View Post
    If your dad is gonna act like a poop head then ask one of your friends to feed those kittehs. The are way to work around difficulties.


    added: I think you should follow your instincts. Maybe you were meant to find him
    i totally agree about being meant to find him! but i still have this nervous feeling in my stomach and as for my dad.. the only reason i am worrying about that is because im not allowed to have them in my place. he cosigned. so it wouldnt be just me dealing with the consequences if somehow they did find out, you know?

    Quote Originally Posted by PrettyCurlieQ View Post
    Also, is there a chance your cats are going to mate? I don't know about the ages when they do that or whatever, but don't get more kittens if Jasper is just gonna seduce Olivia and give you more kittens anyways. lol
    nooooooooooo way! both are fixed and this guy would be too if i get him.

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    Default Re: please please help - should i get another kitten?

    I don't think you should get another one, especially if it's a boy. When I moved in with BF, I had 2 cats, a girl and a boy, and he had 2 cats, 2 boys. Putting another boy in the mix caused all of them except the girl to go on a pissing spree ALL OVER our house. If you must get another kitten, I'd suggest a female. Out of respect to your dad though, especially since he cosigned your apartment, I wouldn't do it. Plus, it would suck to get evicted because of an extra pet.
    I believe you Dottie and you have my support

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    ^^^this can be fixed with proper training




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    Default Re: please please help - should i get another kitten?

    yeah, i talked to my mom's friend. she said it would prob be best to get a boy because boy kittens are easier. she loves cats and has 2, but shes had more in the past. she took care of my kitties when i was on vacation this summer. i called her bc i wanted to get an objective opinion before i could get home to sw lol.

    i think olivia would love it. like i said, i just dont want to leave jasper out or upset him.

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    I have three cats as you know. My big kitty is 8, so it took her even longer to get used to the babies. She is very set in her ways. Now they all get along. Well, they wrestle non-stop, and it occasionally gets ugly. Katya had a wonky scratched eye the other day. But they all also sleep together and groom each other.

    OTOH. its more responsibility, and also more expensive. If you are trying to save your pennies now, then another mouth to feed and buy litter for is going to increase your cash outflow. Not to mention the costs of shots, neutering, flea sprays, etc...


    It isn't too expensive, but isn't free either. The choice is yours.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    yeah, i talked to my mom's friend. she said it would prob be best to get a boy because boy kittens are easier.
    My boy is a huge pain in the ass! Not all boy kittens are better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    i think olivia would love it. like i said, i just dont want to leave jasper out or upset him.
    Jasper will be better off in the long run not feeling lonely while you are at home.
    If you give him the all the attention he wants then it should be fine.

    can you tell I'm pro kitty




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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    My boy is a huge pain in the ass! Not all boy kittens are better.
    I agree. All my girl kitties have been better behaved than the boys.
    I believe you Dottie and you have my support

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    Default Re: please please help - should i get another kitten?

    But each cat has a different personality regardless of it gender




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    If you are capable of taking care of all three (that can be a lot of $$ at the vet!) then yes.
    But don't stretch things, then everyone suffers.



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    Default Re: please please help - should i get another kitten?

    another thing that i think might be really cool is that jasper might end up loving it. olivia has a VERY overbearing personality. if i throw a toy for her and then one for him, she goes for both. she eats first. she is basically the queen around here and he lets her do it. the new baby could end up being jasper's friend before olivia.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hardkandee View Post
    If you are capable of taking care of all three (that can be a lot of $$ at the vet!) then yes.
    But don't stretch things, then everyone suffers.
    i think money wise i should be fine. im planning to dance more after graduation this semester, plus maybe try substitute teaching or getting some kind of supplement to have a little extra just in case.

    im just always so impulsive. i got my 1st car the first time i looked. i got my new car immediately, didnt wait and think it out, and now i wish i had. i picked the first apartment i saw (even though i love it, still an example). i looked at new couches today and went for the first one i found. im the kind of person that if i see something i want, i go for it. why wait and possibly miss out? but that impulsiveness can backfire too, which im scared of.

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    Default Re: please please help - should i get another kitten?

    Impulses with cars can be a lot different with kitties.
    I really doubt you'll regret taking home the cat - if it was your first, then maybe you wouldn't know what you were getting into, but as your third...

    What are the consequences if the rental agency finds out?



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    remember, there is nothing wrong with being the cat lady!




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    Default Re: please please help - should i get another kitten?

    im not sure exactly about the consequences. im assuming either move out or get rid of one of the cats. i really cant move. i mean, i could. i love my place though, in the area i live its as cheap as i can get pricewise, but its still super nice. i dont think theres a chance they'd find out, though, because when maintenence comes in they have to warn me first and i close the cats in my bedroom so they cant run out. so if they went in my room to see that there were 3, that would be kind of a problem anyway.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pookie View Post
    remember, there is nothing wrong with being the cat lady!
    haha, i was thinking that! im totally going to be one.

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    Default Re: please please help - should i get another kitten?

    Other than the problem of having more pets than your apartment allows, you have to think of the expense of another cat. We have FIVE of the critters now, and just the annual expense of shots and examination has become a problem. The cat I had castrated two years ago cost $160, but the one I had castrated last year cost $360. This is after bloodwork and anesthesia, etc., and you CAN have it done cheaper if you don't have those "extras," but why would you put a pet you loved through all that pain just to save a few bucks?

    Then, years down the line you will have the medical expenses of their old age, as well as the pain of having a sick and dying old friend. A couple members here have written of the difficulty of this.

    If you bring a third cat into this, they will hiss and spit and fight and eventually establish a new pecking order. They may nor may not become friends--Evil still does not get along very well with the other cats and is basically a loner. Once in a while one of the other cats will sleep on the other end of the couch with him, but they never cuddle up together.

    But think about the expenses involved. We go through a big bag of cat food every week and a half, and a bag of that crystal kitty litter every ten days. Right now, two cats are due for their shots, and the new stray ought to be castrated and get his shots. If you can deal with all this, get the new kitten. If not, enjoy the ones you have.

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    Default Re: please please help - should i get another kitten?

    I've only read the OP of this thread.

    I vote NO.

    I volunteer at the local shelter and there are always heaps and heaps of cats and dogs I would so adore to give a home. There was a greyhound, called Eddie, that I was in love with from the moment I put my eyes on him ... I so so wanted him.

    Yet, in the end, it is about the animal in the end NOT YOU!

    You are only allowed 2 pets thus keep with that requirement. I can tell you that "what the landlord doesn't know won't hurt him/her/them" is NOT the way to go !

    No matter how much you may want another cat, you can't have one. Don't do it.

    Leave it at the shelter. Taking it out of the shelter to only bring it back a week or three later is horrible for the cat.


    I'm in a similar situation so I can empathise to a certain extent. I really desperately want to have another animal esp. a dog now (not a cat) in my life yet I'm only allowed one animal per household where I am. I'm thankful I'm even allowed that since the gold coast is pet UN friendly (most rentals are "no pets").

    So as much as I want an animal for me, I have to "make do" with Puddy - my flatmate's cat. Until Puddy transitions as he is now past 10 years old which means he is at the age where the introduction of any new animals to this household will not go well.


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    Quote Originally Posted by UtahMike View Post
    Then, years down the line you will have the medical expenses of their old age, as well as the pain of having a sick and dying old friend. A couple members here have written of the difficulty of this.




    I can definitely attest to that! (http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=77880) Even my flatmate can attest to it as Puddy has now exceeded by a long shot all the expense of my cat!

    Puddy is diabetic. He was diagnosed a few years ago (whereas prior he was fine supposedly). He has had quite a few "emergency room" trips which are far from cheap (last one was $400+)...

    Are both your current cats insured? Honestly, insure them. I know my next animal I will insure if it able to be covered. Otherwise, if you don't want to pay insurance... start an "old age cat" fund.


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    Default Re: please please help - should i get another kitten?

    ^ how do you insure a cat? ive never heard of that.

    as for old age.. well, im sorry, that sucks, but it is no reason not to get an animal. i already have 2 that i'll have to deal with, and i'll deal with the deaths of my brother's cat and my mom's 2 dogs eventually too. things end, people die, animals die.. you cant protect yourself from pain and hurt and it only will make your life miserable if you try to.

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