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    Default i guess it needs to be said

    i have been on this board since 2002. i can honestly say i have never seen so many mean spirited snide remarks and general nastiness here ever.
    i dont know what has caused this trend. i would respectively ask that you all please cut it out.
    that its all. thanks!

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    Default Re: i guess it needs to be said

    Hear, hear!

    This is supposed to be a place where we in the industry can support each other and share experiences.

    I know I haven't been perfect, either--sometimes it's easier to disagree when writing in an internet forum than it is in real life. In real life I am a lot more easygoing than I am here, believe it or not. I wouldn't have lasted a day in my last club if I wasn't. But let's not get into that again, sorry.

    Anyway I agree with Velvet, I think we should all make an effort to chill, myself included.
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    For sure. I remember the first time I ever posted, I got my eyes clawed out for a totally innocent remark. All of a sudden I was a "racist" and a bitch and all I wanted was some advice. "Cyberbulllying" is sucha cop-out, cowardly thing. You can be so bad ass and all behind a keyboard and a screen, but in real life....? We are all here for the same reason. I agree people need to lighten up and not take internet forums so fucking serious. Freekin RELAX! Right??

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    Thanks for saying that, velvet!

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    I agree, completely. I've been here since '04, and I remember when it used to be a really encouraging community. I considered this forum to be my "stripper web family." But it seems like in the past year or so, the general tone of the board is very catty and immature. It seems like some of the ladies here are just looking to get into a piss-match with each other.

    I don't know. It kind of bums me out to see the change.

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    thanks. And I'm sorry the thread I posted that you closed started a whole bunch of mean-ness. That really wasn't the point.


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    I guess I haven't noticed. I'm pretty oblivious though. I try to be civil!

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    Quote Originally Posted by tampadancer View Post
    I considered this forum to be my "stripper web family." But it seems like in the past year or so, the general tone of the board is very catty and immature. It seems like some of the ladies here are just looking to get into a piss-match with each other.

    I agree, and I get enough of that BS at work!

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    Quote Originally Posted by tampadancer View Post
    I agree, completely. I've been here since '04, and I remember when it used to be a really encouraging community. I considered this forum to be my "stripper web family." But it seems like in the past year or so, the general tone of the board is very catty and immature. It seems like some of the ladies here are just looking to get into a piss-match with each other.

    I don't know. It kind of bums me out to see the change.

    Ahhh yes, back in the day. I miss when it was like that.

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    I've been a member since 03 myself, under my old stage name and since 05 as this name.

    What a change in the tone around here now. I'm wondering if the pressures that are put on you ladies these days are so stressful that they're starting to cross over into real life?

    Either way, I'm glad someone said something. The support is diminishing rapidly around here lately. What ever happened to thinking before you speak (or in this case, type)?

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    Thanks, Velvet.
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    Yep, I've noticed stuff like that since I posted my first intro coming out thread. I guess it just depends on the topic being discussed and what time of the month it is.

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    ok, i know this has come about over something i posted, and is not *just* directed at me, but here goes anyways...

    1, thanks for the infringment notice, i do deserve that.i was out of line calling someone a cunt outright.admitted, owned up.accepted. moved on.

    2, why is this site a place to support and not negotioate? so some people disagree with whats being said, where and when can they post this? i want to support fellow swers, in fact i wholeheartly agree with many threads brought up, but recenty theres been loads of bs too. i dont think as a community of adults we should sit there and shut up if we disagree with points.

    3. if ya'll could see the messages of support coming into my inbox.....seems im not the only one who thinks the sw clan have been bitching about the stupidist things lately, and breaking laws and rules left right and center only to brag or question it later on.

    yes, sw has changed, in the past 5 years alot of things have, the indursty certainly has... the negative undertones suck, but its healthy. before it was too polite.everyone agreed with everyone to keep the peace, im sure if you really looked back at old threads without the rose tintred glasses on, youd see things you would have/could have argued on. its one thing to be polite, its another to bullshit fellow dancers into a false sence of belief that what they done was ok cos the masses on sw agreed with them.

    girls here constantly say "treat stripping like a real job' well if that was the case im sure we all would have been fired many times over by now, and im sure some of us have been!! if we worked at maccas could we honestly say we wouldnt be fired for purposly tipping a coke on a customer? or if we worked at a supermarket and didnt feel like packing groceries that day, it would be ok? hell fucking no.

    if girls are going to write bs threads, ill write a bs reply. this industry gets pulled thru the mud enough as it is without some stripper breaking the law or acting out of line to customer, enforcing the steryotypes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mermaidnz View Post
    3. if ya'll could see the messages of support coming into my inbox.....seems im not the only one who thinks the sw clan have been bitching about the stupidist things lately, and breaking laws and rules left right and center only to brag or question it later on.
    and that is one of the biggest problems. that these girls who are PMing you dont have the balls to say it out in the open. there are times when i send a PM saying i agree or i appreciate someone saying something, but i also have no qualms about posting how i feel in a thread, either. it frustrates me to no end that some people end up looking like the bad guys because no one else will say what they really think.

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    ^^ totally.

    and the reason girls feel bad about agreeing with something the masses have already disagreed with? cos obviously it will inevitably make them look like as much of a douche as the person first saying it. sucks to be outted by association lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by mermaidnz View Post
    ok, i know this has come about over something i posted, and is not *just* directed at me, but here goes anyways... [etc.]
    Mermaid, Velvet was taking the high road and not mentioning names. Your suspicion is probably correct; it isn't just about you. Thus, turning this thread into a personal platform for vindication/absolution seems, to me, to be counterproductive.
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    ^^^ Maybe you're right, but let's not give this thread another chance to turn sour, OK?

    Maybe Mermaidnz could start a thread about her concerns?

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    Well while agree that being nasty doesn't get us anywhere , I have been a member on here on and off since 2003 and I have to say there have always been those few that will gang up on someone . I actually have left here a few times do to hurt feelings over someone completely just tearing me down . My whole point is that this is not NEW at all and as for Internet forums this is the nicest one I have seen that is highly active .
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    Quote Originally Posted by mollyzmoon View Post
    I guess I haven't noticed. I'm pretty oblivious though. I try to be civil!
    Me, too. I see the drama here and there but not an overflowing mean spirit. But I'll watch what I type fo sho Velvet.

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    I think there are times where we all have to resist the urge to tell someone off, to be curt, rude, or just plain snippy. The internet gives us this veil of anonymity and I think some on here may exploit that.
    If we pause for a minute and ask "what does my post contribute?" we may hold off on hitting the reply button and causing a drama-storm.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Calendar Girl View Post
    Ya I saw that post...that girl was totally out of line to go and say something so bold and rude to you like that. It was so obvious she wanted to start a fight...what a loser. I wanted to say something to her so bad but I didn't for the sake of just wanting to stay out of the drama.
    There's no need for that. She was out of line in name calling, which she owned up to so it's fine. Thankyou for coming to my defense, but don't start the whole cycle over again.


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    Stop it!

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    I suggest a naked group hug....with random fondling and some heavy breathing thrown in for good measure.

    Whadya say?




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    Quote Originally Posted by ExoticEngineer View Post
    I suggest a naked group hug....with random fondling and some heavy breathing thrown in for good measure.

    Whadya say?
    I think thats a wonderful idea and would really help us all get along better .


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    ^Seriously! And if some of us have some pent up aggression that needs to come out, I will volunteer to let you whack me with a pillow immediatly after the naked group hug. Because I care.




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