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    So I'm on a date and my date orders steak medium well. She got it and apparently it wasn't cooked enough (it looked totally fine to me). She makes a big deal and sends it back. They bring it back. Now it is cooked too much (again, looked fine to me). She makes a big deal and has them cook another steak! By the time it is finished, my food is getting cold. I can't stand it when people are so finicky about their food. I've been known to eat stuff that wasn't even what I ordered if it looked good.

    It really bugs me when people send food back and it makes me a bit embarassed in front of the server if the food gets sent back because of some minor percieved defect. That is a major pet peeve.

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    Well, Im picky with meat. Really picky about cuts but how its cooked Im not as bad.

    I hope she wasnt ordering filet med well.... thats an insult to the cut....

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    The restaurant SHOULD get the food right, that's what you are paying for. I have kept mum on several occasions, and now know that this is the wrong thing to do. Why shouldn't they provide what is being asked for? I hate it when restaurants do a half assed job. I took a gourmet cooking class at a restaurant, and I saw how they saved money, using the same prepared veggies for several dishes, serving same foods a second day, leaving cooked bacon and browned butter out for several days, etc. I I think people SHOULD speak up if they feel something is wrong.

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    ^^^ AGREED. why pay for/settle for mediocre food?? and if she's splurging on steak, chances are she doesn't want a half-ass steak. I have another angle... how well do you know this girl??? Perhaps there is a good reason why she's being picky...

    For example... if I was on a restaurant date (which I'd first try to get out of) I'd end up severely altering some salad dish and get rid of every fatty or carbohydrate thing in it, no red meat, etc... the dish i eventually eat looks nothing like its original form. a first date might classify me as a VERY picky eater. .. NOT TRUE. I'm a bulimic who needs to eat only extremely 'safe' foods in social situations in order to feel comfortable with myself and not be thinking about what i ate for the rest of the night. If anything, appearing "picky" or "finnicky" about food would be a courtesy to my date so I didn't end the night early because I was feeling overfull or uncomfortable.

    Another possibility: the woman is on a diet and allowing herself to splurge a bit on her date, and doesn't want to waste her 'splurging points' on crappy food.

    Possibility #3: she was raised in a family/group who LOVEd good meats/bbq/whatever, and eating something she knew to be badly done would be an insult to her upbringing.

    Possibility #4: she's taken cooking classes and knows better.

    Possibility #5: she's really just a picky, finnicky Steak Snob.

    However..... you won't know what the deal is until you ASK HER!!!! posting on sw won't solve the issue. ask her what her views are on underachieving restaurant food, and maybe you'll learn why she does this.

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    What on earth does someone who reacts that way over a steak on a first date do when confronted with an actual problem? I highly doubt I'd stick around long enough to find out. Send it back once, sure, but twice? Come the fuck on.
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    Hmm.. I get cranky when my steak isn't prepared how I like... but I like my steak blue. How the hell hard is it to throw it on the frypan for half a second? They always overcook that shit. Sizzleflipsizzledone. I don't oder it blue to get it medium.. but medium well? That's a bit less specific than blue.


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    Quote Originally Posted by GentlemanX View Post
    So I'm on a date and my date orders steak medium well. She got it and apparently it wasn't cooked enough (it looked totally fine to me). She makes a big deal and sends it back. They bring it back. Now it is cooked too much (again, looked fine to me). She makes a big deal and has them cook another steak! By the time it is finished, my food is getting cold. I can't stand it when people are so finicky about their food. I've been known to eat stuff that wasn't even what I ordered if it looked good.

    It really bugs me when people send food back and it makes me a bit embarassed in front of the server if the food gets sent back because of some minor percieved defect. That is a major pet peeve.
    I agree with you and find it a major turn off. You might be a princess in another country, but you are not in this one…I think it has a lot to do with how people are raised. If they are raised with their parents allowing them to be picky eaters and getting what they want for food when they want it, and add to that being a pretty girl (though I do know some guys like this) which compounds it, you often get an adult like that.

    My mother had an affective old school way of curing any picky eating habits I might have had: didn’t; like what was served, you went hungry. Cured me fast. I appreciate pretty much anything people are willing to cook for me and will generally eat virtually anything if I have to. Sure, if I am at an expensive steak place and ask for medium rare and it comes out burnt, I may send it back, but that’s rare for me and I will be extremely polite about it and leave an extra tip for the waiter knowing it’s not their fault.
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    If it makes you feel any better, servers love that as long as it doesn't interfere with our tips. I was waiting tables once and this guy sent back FIVE steaks because he kept saying they were overdone. We're supposed to throw them out... fuck that, I took them home and ate them. They went into salads, fajitas, who knows what else. Five free steaks suits me just fine, so don't assume the server thought any less of you.

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    Ackkk, I wouldn't be taking her out again. Wonder what else she is anal about?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    If it makes you feel any better, servers love that as long as it doesn't interfere with our tips. I was waiting tables once and this guy sent back FIVE steaks because he kept saying they were overdone. We're supposed to throw them out... fuck that, I took them home and ate them. They went into salads, fajitas, who knows what else. Five free steaks suits me just fine, so don't assume the server thought any less of you.
    Depends on how the person is treating the server while they are sending back steaks also. Good way to get a cook to spit on your steak also....
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    Oh yeah, definitely don't be an asshole about it. You can tell a lot about a date by the way s/he treats a waitress. But some picky eaters understand that the waitress isn't the one cooking the food.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    Oh yeah, definitely don't be an asshole about it. You can tell a lot about a date by the way s/he treats a waitress. But some picky eaters understand that the waitress isn't the one cooking the food.
    Agreed, you can really tell a lot of a person by how they treat a server. I have known what seemed like really normal people turn into total a-holes when dealing with servers. It seems to bring out the worst in some people. Don't know why, but it's always a surprise. I have actually gotten up and walked out on a few people (not dates) due to how they were treating the server.

    One was so bad I took the server aside, told her I had nothing to do with these a-holes, gave her a $20, and walked out. I refused to eat with these two guys ever again when I saw them at the shows (one is a well known photographer and the other an editor for the fitness/bbing mags) thoug we remain friendly enough. I will not put up with that crap. I have worked at pretty much all positions in the food service industry and my mother raised me better then that.

    If a server sucks, and some do, leave a poor tip (or leave a penny, which is an old school way of saying "you sucked as a sever") and dont eat there again, and or let the manager know on the way out, but being an a-hole solves nothing and does not improve the service one damn bit.
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    First of all, if I were one afirst date, I would not chuck a bitch fest. I guess it depends more on how she sent it back, If she was polite I wouldn't be as worried. I think it showed bad character if she was nasty or superior.

    On a side note, I worked in an upscale resturaunt, and the cook would do bad stuff to your food if you kept sending it back. So I really never do.
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    I've sent a steak back when it wasn't cooked right. I've even sent one back twice.

    If I was on a first date with someone I wouldn't have thrown a fit about it but I believe you should have your food as you ordered it.

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    Why did you let your food go cold? I'd be eating the hell out of mine.

    And yes, extreme pickiness says a lot about a person to me. I had some food taken back the other day. They were fish tacos and tasted horrible and un-fresh. I got a steak salad instead, much better.

    So, nothing wrong with being unhappy if your food is gross. Its a case by case thing I guess. I don't want to date someone that doesn't have a healthy relationship with food. My sincerest apologies to those here who have an ED. Its just one of those things I don't know how to deal with, and do not feel comfortable around.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GentlemanX View Post
    So I'm on a date and my date orders steak medium well. She got it and apparently it wasn't cooked enough (it looked totally fine to me). She makes a big deal and sends it back. They bring it back. Now it is cooked too much (again, looked fine to me). She makes a big deal and has them cook another steak! By the time it is finished, my food is getting cold. I can't stand it when people are so finicky about their food. I've been known to eat stuff that wasn't even what I ordered if it looked good.

    It really bugs me when people send food back and it makes me a bit embarassed in front of the server if the food gets sent back because of some minor percieved defect. That is a major pet peeve.
    I think it's a sign that you shouldn't go out with her again. No one with any class orders a steak medium well!




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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    No one with any class orders a steak medium well!
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    ^^^ Damn truth!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    ^^^ Damn truth!
    I was not going to be the first to say it, but if I take a person to a top steak place like Mortins and they ruin a steak with medium well, it's a black mark on their report card from me....like people who don't drink coffee, how can you trust them!?
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    Alright then, my lovely steak connoisseurs. I'm curious now. Please explain to me how one DOES order a steak in a classy fashion.

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    Chefs SNEER at anyone ordering a steak medium well. It's an utter waste of a good cut of meat. (And "well-done"? Fuhgeddaboudit.) To me, long with everything else, that just indicates that she just didn't know what she was doing period. Some people think that being deliberately finicky and demanding makes them look sophisticated and powerful or some such. I think it's a horrible quality, I just cannot abide it.

    And there is definitely a difference between something being truly wrong and asking for it to be corrected (as others have pointed out, HOW you ask says just about everything), and whining and complaining and insisting on unwarranted attention for no. reason. at. all. I have sent things back before, but rarely & carefully- and I'm always aware that in so doing, I'm throwing off the balance and flow of not just the kitchen but the entire restaurant. Sending something back twice, unless there's a SERIOUS, real problem, means that the timing of other people's food is now going to be affected, and servers for other tables are going to be given a hard time for something that has absolutely NOTHING to do with them, and the cooks on the line will all be thrown . . . I just cannot justify thinking that *I* am so important that I would risk fucking up the night for so many people. A good kitchen brigade will be able to pull it back together, yes, but not without needless stress and angst over it.

    I want to reiterate that there are exceptions. If I ordered something with one sauce and got another, if I got raw chicken, that kind of thing - that's the kind of thing that certainly warrants correction. But between the sending it back twice and the nature of her order, GentX, I think she's just being high-maintenance for the sake of being high maintenance - one thing I cannot tolerate ever in anyone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by stellaforstars View Post
    Alright then, my lovely steak connoisseurs. I'm curious now. Please explain to me how one DOES order a steak in a classy fashion.
    Medium rare (at most) to rare, with a good glass of red wine combined with a killer little black dress and shoes that make a mans back bone soft....
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    Just for fun:

    "People who order their meat well-done perform a valuable service for those of us in the business who are cost-conscious: they pay for the privilege of eating our garbage."
    -Anthony Bourdain

    Furthermore:
    In his book "Kitchen Confidential: Adventures in the Culinary Underbelly" Anthony Bourdain writes that a chef will hold the "well-done" customer in contempt for "destroying his fine food." He said it's a time-honored tradition to pass off a "tough, slightly skanky cut of sirloin that's been pushed repeatedly to the back of the pile" on "some rube who prefers to eat his meat or fish incinerated into a flavorless, leathery hunk of carbon, who won't be able to tell if what he's eating is food or flotsam."

    He also writes that when he worked in New York City's Rainbow Room, if someone ordered their chateaubriand (beef tenderloin for two) served well-done, it was thrown into the deep-fryer until crisp, "Then tossed into an oven to incinerate further until pick- up."

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    Quote Originally Posted by GentlemanX View Post
    So I'm on a date and my date orders steak medium well. She got it and apparently it wasn't cooked enough (it looked totally fine to me). She makes a big deal and sends it back. They bring it back. Now it is cooked too much (again, looked fine to me). She makes a big deal and has them cook another steak! By the time it is finished, my food is getting cold. I can't stand it when people are so finicky about their food. I've been known to eat stuff that wasn't even what I ordered if it looked good.

    It really bugs me when people send food back and it makes me a bit embarassed in front of the server if the food gets sent back because of some minor percieved defect. That is a major pet peeve.

    Yeah, that bugs me too. I have a friend who is a waiter and gets really peeved when service isn't impeccable. I just don't think it's worth making a stink over something so minor. I mean, there are a lot bigger things to worry about in this world than how your steak is cooked.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Will View Post
    I was not going to be the first to say it, but if I take a person to a top steak place like Mortins and they ruin a steak with medium well, it's a black mark on their report card from me....like people who don't drink coffee, how can you trust them!?
    I don't like the taste of coffee but I love tea!

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