What do you do with a friend who seeks your advice on how to deal with a bad boyfriend, yet constantly ignores it. I'm sure many of you have been in similar situations.
I'm getting frustrated and tired of repeating myself and I want to tell her as politely as I can that I'm really close to being done with giving her advice since she is choosing to ignore it (because its really not what she wants to hear) and I refuse to turn into a broken record on the topic.
She tells me she respects my opinion above all others, but then promptly disregards it as soon as he calls. Is it silly of me to feel a little insulted that I help her to start to stand up for herself and not tolerate this guys bullshit, then she goes out on the town with him and I feel like all the progress that has been made has been undone. In my gut I know he's gonna turn right around and treat her like shit again and its back to the begining.
Part of me feels as if I'd be a bad friend if I told her I was done giving advice on this particular topic, but the other side of me says "if she values your advice so much, she never seems to use it, so why give her something she won't use?"
My confusion comes from the fact I'm a very dedicated friend, but I also believe we can't help people who don't really want help, so why try?




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