A friend is asking me to help her get stated dancing, and I don't know if I should get involved.
I have seen this situation go to shit many a time in the dressing room.
Would you help someone get into the industry?
A friend is asking me to help her get stated dancing, and I don't know if I should get involved.
I have seen this situation go to shit many a time in the dressing room.
Would you help someone get into the industry?
nope. I hate to watch them cry and I HATe HATe HATe to have my friends as my competition (it's happened before and almost cost the friendship). I definitely have some hotties for friends and it would break my heart and my bank account if they did better than me
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It would depend on the friend. If she is already insecure and a drama queen, no way. Chances are I wouldn't be friends with a girl like that anyway.
But a few girls on SW have asked me about helping them out locally. I'll be happy to give them some pointers and even go to the club with them. But what more can I do than that?
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Originally Posted by Mia M
It depends how old that friend is. If she's 25 or older, sure I'd help, but if it was my sister or one of her college-aged friends I would advise against it and try to talk them out of it.
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depends on the girl...





no. well, maybe. but ive had it backfire on me a few times. not getting the girl into dancing, but taking them to my clubs. my ex best friend that i used to do drugs with, i ended up begging a manager of ours not to fire her, after they only hired her because of me. when she auditioned on her own, they said no. but i was friends with the manager and owner, so i got them to hire her. i looked pretty bad.
then there was a girl i went with (for moral support, i guess?) to audition at another club i worked at. she didnt get hired, and basically said that if they hired me, she couldnt understand why they wouldnt hire her. (they asked her to lose weight.)





on the other hand, i kind of had help from my friends. i had waitressed and worked at the front door at scores, so i already knew everybody. come to think of it, i have only ever gone in fresh, not knowing ANYONE, to 2 of the clubs ive worked at. i always had waitressed there, or knew the manager, or something. so i had help and maybe wouldnt have done it alone.





It would depend on the friend. Typically I wouldn't, nobody handed me the magical key to stripper land, so I wouldn't want somebody to expect that from me.
I wouldn't.
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A friend got ME into dancing. We adored the arrangement and we're still as close as family.
Of course, I agree that it very much depends on the specific situation--the person you're dealing with and the dynamic you have with them.





I helped a close friend get into dancing. it was an easy quick fix for her and now she's happier than ever, after meeting the man of her dreams at work.
but i told another close friend hell no. it depends on the person. some people just can't hack it in this job!
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this has turned out badly in the vast majority of cases ...
I've done it a million times (or, like 3-5 times, anyways). Worked out fine every time. She asks for information, you provide...it's not like you're suddenly responsible for the course her life takes after you corrupt her into stripper-dom.
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I would. I'd hate to see a friend or relative get into the buisnees themselves and have some of the problems I've seen with newbies. Like sitting with a guy for two hours for free. Or letting a guy get away with extras because,well, that's what you have to do to make money right?
I was actually planning (before the baby) to go down to NC where my sister is in college and dance with her for her first couple of weeks to help get her feet wet. Unfortunately that'll have to wait until next year...
Seeing what she was like under pressure (traveling together to strip) killed a friendship I had since I was 4.
How much do you value the friendship...?





I've done it 5 times. I think I'm done doing it, at least unless I meet someone who seems perfect for it. Two of the girls I'm totally happy I helped (Our lovely LaylaLust from SW) and a friend I just knew was cut out for it. 1 girl I'm mixed about, because although she's a great stripper, she's made a lot of dumb stereotypical dancer decisions and because she's now one of the dirtier dancers in our club, so the other girls resent me a little. 2 other girls didn't make it past their first night.
I like helping people out and its rewarding for me that two of the girls I helped are doing really well, plus the club management likes me even more now since I've brought such hot girls in.





It would definitely depend on the girl. Like Katrine said, if she's insecure and a drama queen, it would drain the HELL outta me and I wouldn't want to help her at all. She would also have to be extremely mature and be serious about getting into dancing. A lot of girls talk about wanting to dance, but never actually go through with it.


I DID help my friend get into dancing, at my club, on Thursday. She has no car or liscence so I am her only ride, therefore she HAS to work at my club. But we don't have a stage fee so it's not like there's so much we HAVE to earn in a night, so that helps.
But she is in the same situation as me; single mom, living with her parents, the dad is a poo, and she just can't do a regular job. So of course I wanted to help her out. I'd like to think she'd do the same for me.
ETA: Plus, our club has NO girls on day shift, so the crowd has been getting smaller and smaller. More girls on dayshift will attract the guys back! Who wants to watch 2 girls all morning?
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I dunno. I don't want to be responsible. And if something happened, in the eyes of mutual friends it will be my fault.
Depends on what kind of help they're looking for, but yeah, I've done it. I gave a friend loads of advice and helped her go shopping during the first few weeks she danced. I was glad she wasn't at my club, though. As a matter of fact, I have another friend who wants me to take her up to my club and introduce her tonight. I'm fine with doing that -- she's a pretty together girl who probably won't make any trouble. Once she's hired, I don't know how much I can do for her, though. I mean, I would help her out if she got in a bad situation, or give her a little advice if she needed it, but she's going to have to just get out there and learn it all the way the rest of us learned it. There's no substitute for experience.





also remember cally's problems she had when she helped a house girl get into featuring.. it did not end well.





I've only read the original post.
I will give them a few tips here and there.. then they are on their own, basically.
Plus I will TRY to get them to not work at the same club I'm working within as I have seen it go to shit too many times.
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Def. depends on the girl. Random aquaintance? NO..I might give her tips and such, but i wont walk her in and vouch for her.
Good close friend I know isnt a druggie whore drama queen...yeah I would and have.It was actually kind of cool to be her mentor and watch her evolve a bit over time(she didnt do it long)...and have her praise me at every chance she got to anyone(dancers, managers, custies,friends)about how I was super-stripper who she looked to for advice didnt hurt either!!lol!
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