^ Yeah..I can't say i was abused, or that things were violent..I didn't get hit often, maybe hmm...few times a month? But when I did it was totally out of anger and impulsive. And my mother was nuts.
My dad hit us cause that was how he was raised. My mother hit me a lot less often, but when she did it was cause she had lost her temper and was just out on control.
a good example:
She used to let me take her car when i was 15, before I had a lisence to drive. No restrictions at all. Well, I went to my boyfriends house one night and discovered my bf smoking pot with his mother. I was very pissed, as I did not do drugs, and was shocked that he and his mom smoked together. So I left in a rage, and when i backed out of his driveway, I backed into his car. His car was undamaged, my mom's car had a busted taillight.
My boyfriend called my mom and told on me.
When I got home she was waiting for me in the garage with a yardstick.
she said Pull the car in the garage, as she smaked the stick in her hands, in a threatening way.
But when I pulled in and got out of the car, she threw the stick down and started pushing me saying, wanna fight? come on, lets go! And she was provoking me to hit her....and I just kinda curled up and waited for her to calm down. I mean if I would have hit her, she would have killed me, ya know?
My mom was just crazy. still is, actually.
But there was just never real punishment for my actions. Never any rules....she let my boyfriend spend the night when I was 14. in my bed. My dad tried to put his foot down on that, and of coure I threw a fit and my mom fought with my dad until he backed down.
I am amazed that I learned right from wrong, and turned out how I did.
My borhter was not so lucky. I molded myelf to be as different from my mom as possible. My brother on the other hand, took his freedom and ran with it, and he is not in good shape now, at age 21. either one of us graduated from high school. Luckily, I went to college. He did not. He can't even hold down a job, and is an alcoholic on drugs. he and my mom party together, and they thjink I am a self ricious bitch because I refused to partake in thoes activities with them. yeah...my mom actualyl hates me cause I am a good person. She likes my brother much more than me. Meanwhile, he hasn't had a driver's lisence ever, caused it was taken off him before he even was old enough to have one, he has wrecked 3 catrs she bought for him drunk driving, he has been in and out of jail...I've never been arrested. She isn't proud of me, she hates me for it. why? who knows.
/threadjack. LOL. oops.
Yeah. on point: discipline your kids. they not only need it, but they want it, trust me. I wish I would have been disciplined.


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