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    One of my favorite clubs I'm known as a spender. I won't say a big spender because like beauty that is in the eye of the beholder. Well my problem is now I feel like I'm the golden goose and everyone is fighting over me. Not verbally but you can tell when it is uncomfortable. I must be tipping too much.

    I think I say "hi" and get hugs from around 5 waitresses and couple of VIP managers always talk to me. I won't even talk about the dancers who will sit with me for hours even though, I have made it clear that I'm not interested in them that night.

    The problem is I know everyone has bills but I can't support 5 people per night, but I can make one or two dancers happy plus a waitress. So big question is how do I go about not getting so much attention without pissing people off. Before you say go away for a while, I was actually gone for a year at one point and I still got the same treatment when I got back.

    The weird part is that this club is not small and it always look like there is good money out there. I know my tips couldn't be keeping them from making more money.

    How can I get a do over?

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    Default Re: Can I get a do over?

    Sounds like you're getting great service at the club, why would you want a do over? Be prepared to be approached when you walk into a SC. Period.

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    Really? It's a problem that you get too much service from the waitresses and too much free attention from the dancers? Excuse me a moment while I wipe these tears.

    OK, maybe it bothers you because you somehow feel obligated to tip everyone who waits on you. But of course, there is no such obligation. Shake it off. If you break down and tip girls you don't want to tip, they'll keep coming around. Dancers are like pigeons. If you don't want pigeons around you, don't throw down crumbs.

    Pick a particularly good waitress (by whatever standard is relevent to you) whom you will ALWAYS have wait on you. Have a back-up waitress or two, in case Waitress #1 isn't there one night. Tell other waitresses that you are waiting on Tanya, but thanks for coming by. Say it gently, but firmly. Do not relent. It's your money, you can spend it how you want.

    Repeat the procedure above with dancers, also. Pick a few that you like and consistently tell everyone else you are waiting on them.

    If you are ARE a good spender and tipper, your girls will flock to you as soon as they know you are in the club. Their presence should effectively discourage the presence of random other dancers and waitresses. If you're a really REALLY good spender, your waitresses and dancers may even deploy subtle but deliberate displays of hostility to repel other girls from landing at your table. At least, that's how it works at my club.

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    Heh..... you can't really unring a bell. However, like Pavlov's dog, the people at this club will eventually catch on.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GuyPOV View Post
    The problem is I know everyone has bills but I can't support 5 people per night, but I can make one or two dancers happy plus a waitress.
    Okay, let me get this straight. You think you're obligated to make other people happy by giving them your business? Since when are their bills your problem?

    Just cut those out of the loop whom you want in it anymore. Its that simple.
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    Um, stop spending money on the girls you don't want to spend money on. How well this will go over should not be a concern of yours. Trust me, they want your money, if you are not spending it they will find someone that is.
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    Default Re: Can I get a do over?

    The OP probably feels like he would be an asshole if he cuts off some of the girls. But, really that is the only action that works. As yoda and doc have stated, if you are spending it is unreasonable to expect the strippers not to be flocking at your table.

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    Well you can't take advantage of the free attention and stuff and THEN not tip them. So clarify at the beginning whether or not you plan to spend the money.

    Was that the problem? I can't imagine what else you might be asking.
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    Ah shit, it seems like everyone is hitting you up for cash? I hate to say it but it's time to be an asshole. Make it clear that so-and-so will be your waitress and so-and-so will be your dancer for the evening and that you would appreciate privacy. The girls won't like it at first, but they have to realize YOUR entertainment is not about them or their bills.

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    You're going to have to be kind of rude at first and let them know that you won't be getting dances with them and you're waiting for another dancer. Don't tip them and if they don't get up, get the waitress you like to alert the manager. You're there to have fun and anyone who can't remember that isn't worth losing sleep over.
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    I would repeat after me:

    "No-oh-oh."

    Or keep all your money at home.

    You sound like you feel a need to spend on every woman that comes to you. There's nothing saying that you do. Give money to who you feel deserves it the most. Otherwise, keep it to yourself.

    It sounds sexist and mysogynistic at first, but this is a job. Dancing for you is "work" for them. And nothing says you have to give them money.

    I don't mean disrespect, but I don't imagine that any of the dancers on here just expect loads of money from every customer. They realize, above the other visitors, that what they do is a job, and they work hard for their money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GuyPOV View Post
    The problem is I know everyone has bills but I can't support 5 people per night, but I can make one or two dancers happy plus a waitress.
    The problem is that you have a twisted view of what your role is in the club.

    Let me ask you this - If you went to a restaurant, would you feel this angst over the fact that the waitresses, and chefs have bills? Of course not.

    Your role in the club is not to support everyone financially. This is your entertainment time. Your money. Spend it how you want to, and make you happy.

    As for the rest of it... you can't have your cake and eat it too. Spend less or less openly and you may well find that the club's faked happiness to see you dies down some. And you care about this why?

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    I tend to agree with everyone that has replied in this thread. I have had the same experience and I know a few of the other customers that have replied here have gone through it also.

    You do need to take control of the experience you want when you are in the club. I don't think you need to be rude about it though. Just be consistent. For example, you enter the club and a dancer hits you up. Maybe she is not your favorite. She starts chatting you up. Once you get past the intial "hello, how are you doing phase" then make things clear to her. Ask her if so and so is around tonight. If she says yes, then ask her to tell so and so that you are here. If she goes along with this nicely then the next time she is on stage give her a little extra tip. I am not talking big money, just enough to show appreciation for her politeness. Do this one time.

    I had one club in particular that I really enjoyed and almost stopped going to because of the exact scenario you are talking about. This "method" worked for me. After a few times, they all got the picture without the drama. Plus, I was able to retain a "good standing" with everyone there. Everyone "won" in the case. My favorites got my return business and the other dancers got my better than average stage tips. It was all good.

    Just food for thought.

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    Um, stop spending money on the girls you don't want to spend money on. How well this will go over should not be a concern of yours.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer View Post
    Indeed. Who do you think you are, Stripper UNICEF?
    LOL, Good one CO....

    I took some crap from an old fav a few months ago when I returned to her club after a two year absence. She was expecting the gravy train to resume but it didn't. I had returned to the club to see a new dancer. Well I was back yesterday and the fact is the old fav was so busy all afternoon she didn't even make half of her stage sets much less even nod as polite hello to me. She did just fine without my money and, though she was pissed at first on my initial return a while back, I didn't waste one second of her time letting her think she was gonna make any money off of me. Will she chat with me or give me a big hug when I come in? No, but that is as it should be.
    In spite of inferences to the contrary on other threads these girls show up to work. The best thing you can do if you don't want to spend money on a girl is make that crystal clear as quickly as possible so they can go mine another shaft...
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    OP, they are happy to see your money, not you. Even those you ultimately do spend your money on. So remember that and it may be easier to do what you have to in order to insure your own good time. You are a good man, but people will exploit that as long as you let them.
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    Okay maybe my comment about bills was overused. I'm not crying that women are paying attention to me. Plus I don't ask them to sit with me. I have never asked anyone to sit with me.

    Straystripper and FBR, you understand my situation completely. I do like to take care the people taking care of me. I don't want to upset anyone because this is a very "cliches" club. You can be treated like a King, if they know you or you could actually go home thirsty and a pocket full of money if they don't like you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GuyPOV View Post
    Okay maybe my comment about bills was overused. I'm not crying that women are paying attention to me. Plus I don't ask them to sit with me. I have never asked anyone to sit with me.

    Straystripper and FBR, you understand my situation completely. I do like to take care the people taking care of me. I don't want to upset anyone because this is a very "cliches" club. You can be treated like a King, if they know you or you could actually go home thirsty and a pocket full of money if they don't like you.
    YOU are the customer. Unless they are the only strip club in a 500 mile radius, if they won't treat you right from the door they don't deserve your money. Tell them to kick rocks and you'll find another club.
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    Really? It's a problem that you get too much service from the waitresses and too much free attention from the dancers? Excuse me a moment while I wipe these tears.
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    I think Grace had it right. You're not obligated. If you don't want someone's attention or company, let them know you're waiting for so-and-so. You don't have to throw money at everyone. But by all means be sure to show the girls in your favor that they are so favored.

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    Sound like you started off on the wrong foot. You may like that club but you are in Dallas so there aint no strip club shortage. Just go somewhere else and don't throw anymore cash around than what is expected. You may run into a dancer that switched ships which would blow your cover though.

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    Why don't you pick a couple of girls you want to see each night and tell the others very politely that "I'm just here to see these girls tonight." Most dancers appreciate the heads up, so they can go make money elsewhere. If any of the girls give you shit, get a manager, drunk crazy chicks need to be dealt with or they affect everyones money.

    Also it sounds like you are a good customer as well as a good spender, which will get you a warm introduction from many even if they aren't gonna be making a lot off of you that night. If I wasn't too busy I always said hello to all the nice regs, even the ones that didn't spend on me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GuyPOV View Post
    Straystripper and FBR, you understand my situation completely. I do like to take care the people taking care of me. I don't want to upset anyone because this is a very "cliches" club. You can be treated like a King, if they know you or you could actually go home thirsty and a pocket full of money if they don't like you.
    Well dude, seriously, if you are in a strip club and no one in their wants to serve you a drink or dance on your lap you have no one but yourself to blame.
    Dancers dance, bartenders tend, and waitress waitress to make money. Figure out who you want dances from and buy them. When a waitress or a bartender brings you a drink tip them. It's as simple as that. You probably think I am over-simplifying this but I happen to think that you are over-complicating it.
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    I agree. Your behavior would have to be quite rotten before they won't serve you at all.

    The sentence "You can be treated like a King, if they know you or you could actually go home thirsty and a pocket full of money if they don't like you." suggests to me you have bought into the fantasy hook, line, and sinker (as the saying goes). It's like saying it is a special privilege they are letting you spend money there. What club is this? Because honestly, I've never been. Even the most "Gentlemen" oriented clubs in Vegas still operate on the same principle as the most blue color - assuming you are not a complete ass, they want your money and are even willing to put up with a degree of crap to earn it. Not an indefinite amount, but again, you'd have to be a real ass before you are going to home with a pocket full of money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xdamage View Post
    The problem is that you have a twisted view of what your role is in the club.

    Let me ask you this - If you went to a restaurant, would you feel this angst over the fact that the waitresses, and chefs have bills? Of course not.

    Your role in the club is not to support everyone financially. This is your entertainment time. Your money. Spend it how you want to, and make you happy.

    As for the rest of it... you can't have your cake and eat it too. Spend less or less openly and you may well find that the club's faked happiness to see you dies down some. And you care about this why?
    Well said, and so true.

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