I have compiled a list of Q and A to start out with. I have removed any personal details like names...please let me know if there is anything on here you do NOT wnat me to use on my new site.
Thanks all!!!
OK here's one for you.
I am an artist, but I haven't drawn anything except a few architectural perspectives and plans for about 2 years now.
What I really want to do is start drawing pinup style art. I have done this a couple times in the past and it turned out really well. And I have done about 4-5 portraits that turned out well, too. The thing is, I don't like drawing pictures from magazines, I much prefer drawing pictures of people I know.
I can work from photographs much easier than having someone pose, that's not a problem.
I would love to draw some of the women I work with, but when I have mentioned it, I often get the impression they are then confusing me with the usual customer/perv DJ type of guy who just wants to see naked women. Nothing could be more repugnant to me, and it doesn't help when it comes to tip time to be mistaken for a perv, either, lol.
Or they might not think it's weird, but they just never bring in any photographs.
Any idea how I can bring this up and get better cooperation?
Try posting something in the dressing room so it doesn’t seem like you are targeting (and such perving on) certain individuals. State that you are an artist and would love it if some of the girls had pics you could use as inspiration. Maybe even put up samples of things you have done in the past so they know what it is you are looking for and that you are actually planning (and capable) of turning the pics into art...and not just jacking off to them at home!LOL!
My ex and I have been hanging out frequently, and might be getting back together. This weekend, we made sweet love twice. I say making love, because that's the type of sex it was, versus hardcore fucking. However, when I really got going, I was thinking of another man. This is a man I work with whom I have sex with occasionally. My ex is much more well endowed than this guy, and a superior lover.
How come I can't stop thinking of my coworker during sex, and why is it the thing that gets me "there"? What can I do do remedy this, or is it a sign that we shouldn't get back together. The coworker and I do not have a romantic relationship and never will.
Confused Unfilled Needy Titillated
What is it about the co-worker that stops you from having a relationship with him? Is there no chemistry between you except in bed? Does the ex know about this other guy?
If there’s no chance for a a relationship with co-worker and ex does not know...my guess would be that its the "naughty" aspect of it that titillates you. You have (from what I know of you) lived a hard and fast party life for quite some time. The thought of being happy (even in bed) with something calmer may terrify you..even on a subconscious level. You may want it..but you are psyching yourself out of giving into it completely. And going back to what you know best (the naughty boy) in your head gives you "permission" to come...its safe...there’s nothing else but an orgasm you have to commit to there.
Ok, I'll take the bait....
heres one issue that I have been thinking of for a few years now, and I'm sure I'm not the only one with this issue.
I just do not like my sister-in-law. yes shes a nice person, smart, caring, etc, great for my brother, but, something about her just rubs me the wrong way. It as if she comes across as being disingenuous when you see her.
Granted everyone in my immediate family likes her, for some reason i can't get over this little issue. I have thought about, and maybe because its an outsider coming into the family, and honestly, I do not think that is the issue as its more or less her personality, not the fact that she is now part of the family.
Just something I cannot place, please help me!
Is this the first or only in-law you have? Therefore the only one to "take away" a family member? Were/are you close to your brother? It could be that there is something about her that IS wrong and she just hasn’t shown it yet...but you are picking up on subtle signals you cant identify yet.OR..your mind just isn’t ready to relinquish your bother completely.
Why not suggest a day together..just you and her...so you can get to know her on a personal level. As HER..not justas your bothers wife. You may find you like her more then you think.
Ok, let's see what you've got for me,...
It's coming up on the 6-year anniversary of my dad's death. For the most part, I've dealt with it. I don't want to say that I'm "over" it, but I am not burdened by grief. My life has moved in a forward trajectory, etc.
However, this time of year always the hardest for me. Friends and family openly grieves... but I still can't bring myself to do it. Yes, I grieve privately. I cry, I get angry, then I calm down and rationalize. I just don't feel comfortable doing this in front of others. I have yet to cry in front of my mother or any of my younger siblings... or any of my other family, for that matter. It's just not the way I am, but I feel like everyone looks at me like I must not care since I'm not in hysterics like everyone else. Is there something wrong with me, should I just tell everyone to shove it, or is there something else I can do to let them know I care, but I just grieve differently?
Everyone grieves differantly..theres absolutely nothing wrong with that. I wouldn’t tell them to shove it unless they are being really rude to you..they just don’t understand. Let them know that you feel it just as mucha s they do...but crying,etc..doesnt make you feel better. It may for them..some people feel much better after they have opened up the floodgates and let it all out. You get comfort from rationalizing. Just tell them that and be there for them to cry to. Suggest sharing stories of him together...some will make them cry and you think...somemayeven make you all laugh in his memory. Either way..you'll be honoring the man together in your own ways. And I'm sure he will be looking down on you all in appreciation.
And hugs to you from me
I really want to move somewhere that doesn't have huge taxes or oppressive heat. I'd like to avoid snow and make decent money stripping. Where can you see me settling down in this here corrupt country of ours?
Okay that's all for now. I'm curious to see what you say.
Thanks
NO oppressive taxes or cold...in this country? Good luck! You'll prob be best off going a bit off the beaten path not a coastal town for sure. I don’t have research for taxes across the country so I cant help you much there..but a bit of research into areas you are interested in would turn up the median tax range for that area.
Ok, I have been looking at this HIV counselor application all weekend. It is a two day course, and you have to volunteer twice a month. But it is between that, and working at a help desk, also as a volunteer, at a community health clinic translating for Spanish speaking patients that have questions on their treatment or whatever.
I like them both. I guess I am drawn to HIV counselor just a wee bit more because it is an area that gets a lot of funding for research, so it could generally be a useful skill and certification to have. Plus it is something different and interesting to me. But at the same time, I really need to work on my Spanish to maintain it.
These positions are both through school, obviously, and I don't think I could handle both and my courseload AND work. Which do you think I should do?
If HIV is more interesting to you...do that one. 1) You’ll get more out of it because you WANT to learn it and 2) HIV is huge when it comes to research grants...if you have a background in it...it could translate into a lot more grant money when you are ready.
I frequently feel really, really lost. I find that I waste a lot of my time. I spent years 16-21 trying to run away from my family situation and go to college in a rural state. Now I have most of the things that I wanted back then. I have money, no debts, and I even have the opportunity to go to college in my current city for FREE. I like reading, writing, analyzing literature, listening to music, going to shows, studying anatomy and the brain, giving massages, volunteering, decorating spaces, and counseling my friends. I'm just not sure what to do now. I have everything I want, yet I'm unsatisfied and can't make a plan. Do you have any advice? Do you think I should put it down on paper? Have a life coach? Just take it one thing at a time? I feel like I focus on too many things at once and get nothing done. Help!
You are def. taking on too much at once. What is it you are looking for now?Career? Hobby? Family?
Take what you are hoping to achieve..make a list and go through it until you find what sparks you.
say its career... Career:stripping, massage therapist,interior decorating,therapist,writer...
Imagine doing them one at a time. Take a week and pursue one...look into massage school, try writing for a week,etc..at the end of the time(1month, 2..depends on how many things are on your list) look back at your notes.Which were you just as excited about doing at the end of the week as you were in the beginning? Narrow your choices down to those.
Same with finding a hobby...do them one at a time and judge your feelings and interest level at the end of the week.
You may find that many are fun only in theory and you got sick of doing them in reality!
I am a horrible procrastinator. I write down what I'm supposed to do, I try to schedule myself times to do it, yet I get overwhelmed and still can't make myself do it. I am pulling 16 credits and full time work hours, and I can't afford to sit around doing nothing. How do I motivate myself? Help!
-Procrastinators Unite....tomorrow
This is an ongoing problem with me too..and I get distracted easily...I’m vacuuming and go into the kitchen for vacuum bags and see the dishes need to be done..so I start doing that..then I dry my hands on a towel, notice its dirty and decide to do a load of laiundry..on my way to get the est of the laundry, I see there is dust on the shelves and think I should dust...etc..etc...as a result I am often exhausted, but nothing got done!
You NEED time to sit around doing nothing. You need to recharge..don’t feel guilty about that.
Make a list of what needs to be done for the WEEK...not the day. So if you spend an hour vegging and the laundry isn’t done...you can check that off tomorrow. Or if you have a burst of energy you can clear half the list in one day and you have guilt-free veg time on other days.


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