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    Default My first night!

    So I finally got the courage to go in and get on stage. I did a lot of research first and stopped by the club prior to scope it out before going in for amateur night this past Wednesday.

    The staff seemed helpful and the DJ was awesome at making me feel comfortable. All the girls seemed friendly (well except one.. but I guess every job has people like that ) and talked with me when we had a moment. They were especially helpful in informing customers that it was my first time when I was on stage making them tip me better. And being on stage was so much fun that I forgot how nervous I was.

    Talking to the customers was a little difficult because it seemed like most of the girls already knew them and I had been informed by another dancer that regulars are how they make money so I didn't wanted to interrupt. Then, when I did sit with a guy I found conversation to be pretty dry and a lot of customers asked what school I went to. I found a lot of topic starters throughout the site but not too much about how to handle questions like that without having to end the conversation. Any quick suggestions besides lying?

    In all, it was a great experience and I'm now on their schedule so I'll be there tonight. I'll probably end up working at a club that's closer but they're still in the process of reopening it so I guess I'll gain some experience here for now.
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    Default Re: My first night!

    First of all, good job! Its had to go in for the first time ever.

    Quote Originally Posted by orchidflower View Post
    Any quick suggestions besides lying?
    A good way to do this is by answering the questions with are specifically answering and then ending it with a question.
    here is an example:
    guy:Where do you go to school:
    you: I go to a community college and i study... blah blah you:blah.. did you study this? what do you thing of it? what did you study?

    *Try to get them to talk about themselves so you focus less on yourself. If you have have something normal in common thats not too personal, say that you like that too, that way they feel they are getting to know you, without really knowing you.

    hope this helps




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    Default Re: My first night!

    Pick a school (one you don't go to) and go online to learn about it. Give them a basic major like Communications. Yo can talk freely about something that has nothing to do with your real life. If they ask your real name, give them something like Nicole or Christina. NEVER TELL THE OTHER GIRLS ANYTHING REAL ABOUT YOURSELF. Tell them the same stories you tell the customers. I don't care how well you think you get to know the girls, they will do any and everything they can to ruin any money you make. Don't talk to your man on the phone or about him. As far as ANYONE in the club (including the manager), you don't have one. If he picks you up he's your gay roommate (which means don't kiss him hello when you get in the car). HTH!
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    Default Re: My first night!

    Yeah poaching is bad (Only go up if it's indicated that you should... but you seem to get this already - which is very cool!!)

    I'm not comfortable with lies either so what I did was have a multifacited fabrication of 'my life'. It consists of the truth, smudgy details that mislead, lies by omission ect. Just like a real person - you know?

    But for ANY question that heads in a direction you aren't interested in just answer without a smile in a vague, non-commital, disinterested kind of way and then change the topic or ask a re-directing / throw off type question but now smile... Most people follow your lead - unless they had a specific reason for asking.

    They're likely just making conversation and figure that's safe (like that old favorite "So what do you do?") and they will just as happily talk about anything you care to talk to them about!!

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    Default Re: My first night!

    Congrats! You sound like you've already got your head in the right place, which is pretty rare just starting out.

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    When someone asks something I don't want to answer I just say "Guess!" and then cutesey giggle as they guess until I find the right moment to change the topic.

    May not be good advice since I'm new but it's worked for me.

    Julia

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    Lying might save your life. Don't be fooled about what this job is. Telling too much truth could get you hurt.
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