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    Is it possible..

    To love again? After cutting off the person you loved so much & considered your soul mate/the one true love of your life.

    Is it possible to feel like that towards someone again?

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    If you allow yourself to be open to it ...yes

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    Yes. It'll take time. But yes, undoubtedly. And it will likely be stronger for having gone through the pain of loss.

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    Yes. But it just happens. Nothing you can prompt or figure out. Part of the pleasure of Love is its mystery: "Why did I fall hard for this person, not that one?"

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    I agree. But to move on again with that person you need to forgive (not forget) and agree to start over, never to bring up the past. This can be tough, many of us have an argument and we bring everything bad that ever happened right back into a new argument. Keep the relationship in the "now".

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    YES!!! I think a huge part of being able to do that is to first morun the loss of the relationship you were in, then become your own person again, independent of your previous relationship. Go out and do things on your own, discover new (or rediscover) interests, hobbies, and passions. Also, open your heart and your mind to the possibility that there is someone else out there that you can love as much, if not more than the one you're no longer with.

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    I'm 26 now. I was with my last exbf close to three years. He's the first person I let my guard down to. And while I was with him, I thought this was it & that he was def. the one. I felt like I was married to him. And I was so done with everything(stuff younger single ppl enjoy), and the feeling felt wonderful. I loved doing the "boring, chill, coupley" stuff, I still do. I got use to it.

    I'm single now & I can't fathom the idea of dating again. It makes me think they're like job interviews. They make me nervous. Not that I want to date at the moment either. I'm taking time to myself, for a while.

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    I was with my ex for 5 years. Lived together, engaged....thought we'd be together forever.

    When I realized it wasnt working and I left I didnt want anything to do with relationships.

    Met my now husband 3 months later. Started dating a month after that. He had just got out of an 8 year relationship so we both said this was JUST fun and we wanted nothing serious.

    Well....we fell in love, he proposed 7 months later and we've now been together almost 10 years.

    It IS possible. When it is right.....you'll know it.

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    Every response so far has been YES! and I totally agree. This must be some kind of proof . We are capable love loving many different people, not just one 'soul mate'. I think most would agree that after losing the one they thought they would be with forever, someone even better comes along.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post
    To love again? After cutting off the person you loved so much & considered your soul mate/the one true love of your life.

    Is it possible to feel like that towards someone again?
    "Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies."
    - Aristotle

    IMO, "Love," as defined by you and ^Aristotle, is difficult to find and quite devastating to lose. Longing for that rare balance of lasting attraction, comfort and shared ideas after it's gone can create a hollowness that some people can never fill...

    When I was 20-years-old, I took a leap of faith that I sometimes regret--and will always be grateful for--when I defied common sense, literally followed that "one true love" across the globe, and then failed to realize our dreams. Even today, she's my favorite mistake! She's not so much "the one that got away" as the one who showed me the way...

    The way I see it is that for 3 years, you had the opportunity to identify and savor the qualities that you'll desire/avoid in a lover. Because your ex raised the bar for your future mate(s), he may always occupy a special place in your heart.

    I wish you the best, Vyanka. From what I've read elsewhere, you are a beautiful, vibrant and accomplished woman. Consequently, the laws of attraction should operate in your favor...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Budai View Post
    "Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies."
    - Aristotle

    IMO, "Love," as defined by you and ^Aristotle, is difficult to find and quite devastating to lose. Longing for that rare balance of lasting attraction, comfort and shared ideas after it's gone can create a hollowness that some people can never fill...

    When I was 20-years-old, I took a leap of faith that I sometimes regret--and will always be grateful for--when I defied common sense, literally followed that "one true love" across the globe, and then failed to realize our dreams. Even today, she's my favorite mistake! She's not so much "the one that got away" as the one who showed me the way...

    The way I see it is that for 3 years, you had the opportunity to identify and savor the qualities that you'll desire/avoid in a lover. Because your ex raised the bar for your future mate(s), he may always occupy a special place in your heart.

    I wish you the best, Vyanka. From what I've read elsewhere, you are a beautiful, vibrant and accomplished woman. Consequently, the laws of attraction should operate in your favor...
    Thank you, & everyone else too.

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    Yes... it is possible. It took me 4 years to get over my ex-husband after our separation, he was the first true love I had ever known ... (it didn't help that the asshole kept popping back into my life every 6 months or so )... but after I went and seeked FINAL closure with him... I fell in love again. Closure is very important. You always want to feel like you did everything you could. Once you feel this way... with time, it is easy to let go and move on.



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