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    Default The elusive lap dance

    So.... I nailed my audition tonight. Danced for one song, there were only two guys sitting at the stage. Made exactly a dollar from each , but it was 4pm. Funny, I thought I would be nervous, but the song actually went by pretty fast. Considering it was "We Are Family" , I think I did pretty well. Got hired, and I start tomorrow.

    Most of the money to be made at this club is in private and lap dances. Except.... I HAVE NO CLUE HOW TO DO ONE! Most of the girls I saw in the club were just writhing on the guys, but I half-remember some great lap dances were the girl's face was in my crotch a bit, and there was some leg-grinding, etc.

    PLEASE help a girl out!

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    Default Re: The elusive lap dance

    What happens in a lap dance is extremely variable from state to state and from club to club. Assuming that your club has a bouncer or other staffer that watches over the girls doing laps, maybe you can observe over their shoulder for a while to get an idea of what's allowed/expected in your location. What makes me happy besides any obvious contact is attention to detail: when the dancer nibbles my earlobe or rubs/pinches my nipples. Good luck to you!

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    Default Re: The elusive lap dance

    talk to the other dancers that you work with and they will help you out as far as what can be expected.

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    maybe you can look forlap dance vieos on youtube?
    everybody reallydevlopes their own style of lap dances.
    here is one idea.
    http://youtube.com/watch?v=c-XjJUMexdM&feature=related




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    Default Re: The elusive lap dance

    The most important thing really is knowing the standards of you club. Just watch what the other girls do or ask someone friendly. Usually the manager will tell you what is not allowed. So aside from that just be creative and have fun.

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    This falls into the "watch-and-learn" category. Observe what the other girls do. You'll catch on quick!
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    Default Re: The elusive lap dance

    just a suggestion:

    IF they let dancers dance for eachother at your club. meaning, they allow the guys to purchase a dance for a dancer from another dancer...

    you could always ask a customer to buy you a dance from another girl. say that you wanna be "shown the ropes". try and do it when you're sitting a group situation with another girl who seems friendly and helpful. some girls might not want to do it, but i assume plenty will.

    this will also help you make "friends" since she will making money off of it.
    of course, what happens will depend on the dancer and will be different since you're a girl and not a male customer..

    but it could be helpful

    .... and fun

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    ditto what penny said ^

    the only way I learned how to do a "couch dance" (a very strange way of giving a lapdance here in oregon) was by getting a dance from another dancer... it was very enjoyable.. haha. It took me about 2 weeks to be confident giving one, and now it's super easy and enjoyable for me too.

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    Check the rules. At my club you'll be fired if caught touching your butt or boobs to a guy or touching him below the arms/shoulders. Also have to keep at least one foot on the ground.

    I would buy a dance from another girl. Another idea is to get with another girl and ask around if any guys want a double (again, check rules, here we can't touch each other's boobies or anything). It takes the pressure off you a bit and I just did my first private dance yesterday and it was a double.
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    Hey, lapdances cost at LEAST 5 chickens. If you be offering them for one chicken, you be lowballin' girl.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aubreyyy View Post
    Most of the money to be made at this club is in private and lap dances. Except.... I HAVE NO CLUE HOW TO DO ONE!
    Firstly, remember us custies have different priorties from you. We're interested in getting the maximum fun from our $$$'s and you're interested in earning $$$'s - the two are not the same.

    Before you can do a dance, you have to talk us into buying one - a trip to Hustle Hut might be benefical.

    What's very important to remember is talking to you costs us customers nothing - but cuts into your earnings. Beware of guys who talk and time waste. The dancers on this board will advise you only to spend a couple of songs with a guy before moving on.

    Also don't believe all we tell you - most guy's want mileage, and will BS you to get it. Being told "the other girls let me do X, Y or Z doesn't mean they actually do so. Some guys are predatory about mileage and will focus on new girls because many aren't confident enough to stand up for themselves - be sure you know how to say "NO".

    As to the actual dance, guys want to see you naked, and having a good look at your qualifications for the job is probably the main priority. We also like to think you enjoy it and you've taken a bit of a liking to us - so comment accordingly. A happy (if BS'd) customer may come back for more dances - one with a let down feeling won't.

    As to learning moves, watch the other girls - there are only a limited number of variations on the theme - and you'll gradually pick them up. In the mean time, you could do worse than let guys know you've just started. Some custies like buying dances from new girls - and it means they won't be fussed if you're a little clumsy in your first few dances.

    Finally, be aware of your personal limits and stick within them. You're the person that has to get up next morning, look at yourself in the mirror and think "Am I comfortable about what I did?"

    Good luck...

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    Quote Originally Posted by pookie View Post
    maybe you can look forlap dance vieos on youtube?
    everybody reallydevlopes their own style of lap dances.
    here is one idea.
    http://youtube.com/watch?v=c-XjJUMexdM&feature=related
    Sorry to be off topic but the comments of that video are so funny haha! I love you tube...you can find anything. Some great pole dancers on there but I hadn't seen any lap vids before.

    I agree with the other ladies about getting some lap dances for yourself. Best way to learn!
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    Quote Originally Posted by pookie View Post
    maybe you can look forlap dance vieos on youtube?
    everybody reallydevlopes their own style of lap dances.
    here is one idea.
    http://youtube.com/watch?v=c-XjJUMexdM&feature=related

    Oh dear... I recommend moving a lot slower and more sensually than the woman in that video! The comments are hilarious though. Oh, youtube.

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    The one thing I noticed about 99% of newbies is, while on stage and during LD's, they tend to move way too fast. Slow it down... a lot! The grind is only half of what the custies enjoy... for me, moving really slowly, giving a good eye fuck, breathing on thier ear, getting my face close to thiers, and acting like the whole thing is really turning me on is what sold multiple dances. While everyone else was mindlessly dry humping thier occasionnal custie with a vacant stare, pretending that my customer was the only guy in the room and that his company was making me all hot and bothered kept me constantly busy.

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    Mia ended up at my table once. Quite magical. Listen to her.

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    Watching is definitely a good way to learn. Slow is usually better than fast. It's a must to know the rules of the club, don't just guess because when you're new guys know. I know when I started, and I have seen it with other new girls, that guys will try to take advantage of the new girl and try to get away with things hoping that she might not really know the rules. Don't let this happen because then it's harder to get away from. Even with the rules, you haver to decide what you're comfortable within the rules. My club allows contact (no tits or pussy touching though) I know girls that aren't comfortable letting guys touch their ass, and that's ok. It's about personal boundaries and staying within the rules.

    Here's what I found guys love:
    ~lots of eye contact
    ~a light touch of the hand to the back of their head
    ~soft skin (if it's a contact club)
    ~SMILE
    ~never talk negatively about anything or anybody ... you are there to make money and talking about your drama will cut into what you take home at the end of the night... guys are there to be made happy, not to listen to drama
    ~confidence ... don't be afraid of being rejected, it happens to everybody ... I set a goal to try to hit 20 no's in a row ... it has never happened and probably never will
    ~don't tell anybody else what you made ... keep your money your business

    I have a lot more, but I gotta run out the door. Good luck and congrats!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mia M View Post
    The one thing I noticed about 99% of newbies is, while on stage and during LD's, they tend to move way too fast. Slow it down... a lot! The grind is only half of what the custies enjoy... for me, moving really slowly, giving a good eye fuck, breathing on thier ear, getting my face close to thiers, and acting like the whole thing is really turning me on is what sold multiple dances. While everyone else was mindlessly dry humping thier occasionnal custie with a vacant stare, pretending that my customer was the only guy in the room and that his company was making me all hot and bothered kept me constantly busy.
    +1000000, some dancers dance way too hard and not sensuously enough, and start at full throttle.

    Also if you want to see how a club's dances are regarding amount of contact or whatever, go as a customer with a guy friend and buy a few dances. I mention the guy friend b/c the girls will probably dance differently for him than for you. Sorry - this advice may be a bit late in this situation!

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