K, this is long, and dramatic, so if you're not in the mood stop reading here.
My neighbors, and very very good friends are having some problems. Major problems. The wife, L, came over last night and told me that she's leaving her husband and taking the kids with her. She feels neglected, disrespected and emotionally hurt by her husband. To top it off, her in laws have been staying with them since OCt and treat her very very badly. The husband apparently doesn't do much to stop this.
So I find this out last night.
The husband, P, calls me today and says "L asked me to meet her at Denny's, so we could have a talk. I think she's going to leave me. She's been distant and ignoring me and acting pissed off for months. I know you two talked last night. What did she say? What do I need to prepare for? Help me so I can fix this, or I think I'm going to lose her."
UGH! So they both confide in me, they both have issues, and I love them both. I don't want to see them break up, and there are kids involved as well. This sucks!
So I told P, "She feels hurt, neglected and disrespected. She's really really upset."
I didn't tell him that she plans on leaving him...I didn't know what to say about that. And I think deep down I'm hoping she'll change her mind.
These two people and their kids are like family to me, the kids even call me "aunt", and I hear both sides of the story, and I feel so stuck in the middle! It hurts! Obviously not as much as they are hurting....but that makes it even worse because my friends are in pain and I don't know what to do for either of them without betraying the trust of the other.
The logical thing to do would be to back away from the problem and not get involved....but it's so hard to sit and watch people you care about go through this and not be there for them to talk to if they need it.
Have any of you been in a situation like this? How did you handle it? I'm also worried that when (if) they do break up, then I will lose one as a friend. I feel selfish even worrying about that though.
Damn this sucks! And just before the holidays too!![]()
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