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    how do u deal with guys who grope and fondle u roughly and then make a beline for ur crotch urgggg i hate when they think they r turning u on by trying to cop a rub or feel down there....how does anyone elde deal with this peve with out trying to seem like ur turninghim down and getting his f****** hands off of u while trying to entice another dance?

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    Honestly, if I've tried telling someone sweetly, then told them more sternly, and they won't listen, they're not worth it to me. I walk away. For this reason, I always get at least the first dance paid up front. The money is not worth the feeling of having been violated by someone who didn't give a damn about my boundaries and doesn't treat me like a human being. For all you know, there could be a perfectly lovely customer waiting to spoil you who won't give you trouble. Go find him.

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    First offense: Tell them very nicely that they can't do that

    Second offense: Say it with feeling, tell them no and if they continue it's over.

    Third offense: Walk away.

    If you can get them in line nicely and they behave you could possibly get more dances and $$ out of them, if they don't get the picture after being nice, fuck 'em.

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    For a major infraction: my magic line is "You know you're not allowed to do that." Said gently, firmly, and with eye contact.

    That way I'm not telling them what to do, I'm reminding them of what they already know. Because they DO know they're not allowed to do. If they've been to a club in this town before, they know (roughly) what the boundaries are.

    But honestly, grabbiness correlates so often with cheapness that I don't spend a lot of effort on being gentle. Unless the guy is hemoraghing money, two strikes and I'm out.

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    Whether you are paid up-front or not: before you commence the dance explain the rules to them before-hand. This is classed as the first warning out of three warnings.

    The second warning is you both verbally and physically enforcing the rules.

    The third warning is you finishing the dance.

    If they go for your crotch, forget giving them a warning, leave. They are not worth the money. You need to remember to not always be about the money: think of your sanity in the long term not just the short term.

    As for really rough or grabby customers, I then give them as little opportunity to do so as possible if they have pre-paid a specific amount of time up-front. If they are really rough or grabby, I have no qualms finishing the dance early.


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    The main thing is developing the kind of presence that will tell them they aren't going to get away with that shit with you. When I was younger I had these problems, but I couldn't tell you the last time I had to end a dance or really get rough with a guy. Perhaps it's my bitchy attitude, lol, I don't know, but something I do lets them know that I'm not the one. I think experience is everything in handling this stuff, and if you are still new, follow the advice of the older girls.

    Whatever you do, don't let guys get away with that crap!
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    I wish we could use tasers.
    I don't have anything to add except all the previous advice works well.
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    The first time I tell them not to do that, that bouncers are watching, we are on camera, etc.

    The second time I say "CAREFUL!" and I try to get a door man over to watch from a short distance.

    Usually that stops them, but if the guy is being totally out of line, I motion a bouncer over, stop the dance and collect my money.

    I hate handsy guys. Ugh.
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    If they try to touch you, tell them you are extremely ticklish, and you had being tickled, and that you involuntarily hit at/smack away anything that tickles you.




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    Well if you read my other thread you know I give them two fair warnings, then I beat the everloving crap out of them with their own belt. LOL

    Actually..in MOST instances they get 3 strikes.

    1) I move their hand and say no....bad boy...dont make me spank you

    2) I move their hand and say in a stern voice" ok..seriously...you ar egoing to get me in trouble, thats not allowed"

    3)They get a HARD slap and I move into a position(like on my knees with my breatbone in their lap or back so they are getting an airdance) where they CANT touch that part of me anymore.

    If they accept this, I leave it be. If they continue to try and grab my crotch(or whatever I am not allowing them to do)by trying to pull me up or closer to them or other wise being forceful..dance is over and bouncer gets summoned.

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    For me.... the "Honey, you can really get me in trouble like that" line works like a charm. It places the onus on the club rather than on the dancer. It makes the guy think that you're naughty and that you want to be groped more than anything... but the club won't let you.

    I think it also awakens a bit of their male protective instinct.
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