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    Why is it every time I sleep with someone that I really like I still get that incredible urge to run like hell when it's over? I always ignore it and things are awesome afterwards. Do girls get this feeling, other guys? What is it?

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    Default Re: that incredible urge to run like hell

    I only get that feeling if the sex was bad.

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    If I'm too warm or feel squished, yes. Or it's bad.

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    now that i thought f it, i think every man i have been with i had the urge to run afterward.

    Not just if the sex was bad, but in general.

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    There are a few (but mostly similar) Evolutionary Psychology theories why men often feel this way. Suffice it to say you are not the first guy, nor will you be the last.

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    GX:

    IMO, for certain males, it's a relatively simple equation:

    Affection + Sex = Intimacy ÷ Disappointment = Vulnerability x Pain

    I had the good sense to ignore the math when I met my wife over 17 years ago. However, prior to meeting her, I'd already validated the equation more than once with some disastrous outcomes...

    Even today, when we're bickering, I sometimes review the original math lesson and shake my head at the answer.

    Ahhh, yes, The School of Life...

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    Default Re: that incredible urge to run like hell

    ^ nicely said.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GentlemanX View Post
    Why is it every time I sleep with someone that I really like I still get that incredible urge to run like hell when it's over? I always ignore it and things are awesome afterwards. Do girls get this feeling, other guys? What is it?

    With out saying to much, but maybe it is emotional block. Now everybody gets them, but not in the same way!
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    I run out of courtesy. People have shit to do.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Budai View Post
    GX:

    IMO, for certain males, it's a relatively simple equation:

    Affection + Sex = Intimacy ÷ Disappointment = Vulnerability x Pain

    I had the good sense to ignore the math when I met my wife over 17 years ago. However, prior to meeting her, I'd already validated the equation more than once with some disastrous outcomes...

    Even today, when we're bickering, I sometimes review the original math lesson and shake my head at the answer.

    Ahhh, yes, The School of Life...
    You are such a cool cat and an amazing asset to the site! Thanks for all your contributions Budai!

    With that said, I get this urge sometimes, and I am sure my partners have had it with me. I get it when I am not comfortable sleeping in a new place with a new person....or if I'm really gassy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sh0t View Post
    I run out of courtesy. People have shit to do.
    +1. Lingering is impolite. Some guys get the 'lingering for more than 8 hrs is impolite' from me....

    yeah, i get the urge occasionally... not so much to run, just that i lose interest VERY easily. no idea why. not necessarily looking for new things, just... not... interested... i don't think it's just a guy thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Budai View Post
    GX:

    Affection + Sex = Intimacy ÷ Disappointment = Vulnerability x Pain

    Wow! I finally have the answer to that equations.

    Thanxs Budai
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    Definitely not just a guy thing. I've done this a few times. They were all pretty much one night stands, and I just wanted to fuck, even though I liked them/found them attractive. That's it, nothing more, nothing less. No cuddling, no morning sex, no exchanging of numbers, no NOTHING! ... Kbyethanx...



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    If your talking about run afterward. Definitely. All the time. I always hated being cuddly after sex, and sleeping with someone is hard to adjust to.

    Run permanantly? Only if the guy did something stupid like try "I love you." way too soon, or the sex sucked.

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    I can say that at times i can't wait until i get out of there. A few guys have slept at my home, and i can't wait until they get out the next morning. I always say i will call, i do but not to go out again. I don't know, only a few have kept my interest long enough to want more of a relationship. The others i lost all those feelings of perhaps wanting to be with them LT after sleeping with them, not sure why, they are good guys, and the sex was ok.

    I am single now, probably because i just look for excuses to not be in a relationship. Still have feelings for an ex who treats me like shit anyway...

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    Somebody needs to watch this
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    ^^ Shot! It's your dream girl! Or . . . is that you in drag? Hmm . . .

    Quote Originally Posted by GentlemanX View Post
    Do girls get this feeling, other guys? What is it?
    Girls most definitely get it too. Believe me. PEOPLE get it sometimes, period. Like you said, if you choose to override that "flight" urge (assuming there are other reasons to stick around, compatibility-wise, which there aren't always), it can be awesome, as you said. But certainly not always.
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    i had a good laugh at the responses. i think it'd be funny if two people were just hanging around to be nice but really both wanted to get the heck out. I wonder how much that happens..

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    Fuck yeah. I hear Pink Floyd in my head. " RUN. RUN. RUN. RUN.....you'd better..."

    and you're taking your girlfriend out tonight.. You'd better run !!!!!!!

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    I'm nowhere near consistent the cause/effect/outcome of this idea. All I can say is that it always seems to have a lot more to do with where I am in my life than it has to do with the other person and how much I like them or not. Sometimes you're a fertile ground, sometimes you want to help people dodge the bullets...
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    This is why no boys come over to my house anymore. I sleep with them and not only do my sheets smell like boys but they stay for too long. So I always make sure to do them at their house and I can leave whenever I want. Then if its bad sex I can leave right away or if its good I can stay the night, cuddle and then leave.
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    It's smarter to run before sex.

    But sometimes instincts are slow to kick in:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zkaZDxO_v30
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    Quote Originally Posted by TigersMilk View Post
    This is why no boys come over to my house anymore. I sleep with them and not only do my sheets smell like boys but they stay for too long. So I always make sure to do them at their house and I can leave whenever I want. Then if its bad sex I can leave right away or if its good I can stay the night, cuddle and then leave.


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