I am so mad right now at my mother. I have never really had a good relationship with my mother she has made it very clear to me that my brother is her favorite. And that is fine with me now. But sometimes it still hurts!
My mom and dad are not together anymore, but my dad thinks they might get back together but that is what my mother has been telling him to get money out of him, something that I do not agree with. So we have been talking about what to get my dad for Christmas and no one can think of anything. Finally I remembered my dad wanted a new camera that was smaller than the one he already had. So I called my mom and told her my idea, she thought it was a good idea. So I looked up cameras and stuff online and found the camera that I have for a really good deal. Now when I was getting my own camera at the begining this year I researched cameras for a long time and picked what I thought was the best. So I called my mother and told her what I found and that I would send her all the info and that I would go in 50.00 for his gift. Well first she starts with "I can see how much you love us with how much you spend on us" This pissed me off. Every year my mother tells me how she does not have any money and only wants to send x amount. And I agree, she knows that I spend 20 on friends 50 on family, but more on her and my husband. My husband and I don't have a ton of money we are buying a house right now and saving for the baby so I am making sure to stay in my budget. And I don't think Christmas should be about how much you spend on someone. So that makes me mad that she says this. Whatever
Next she says you go ahead and buy all this stuff about 400 dollars worth of stuff and we will all give you money for it. I say no, I said I know you and grandma will give me money buy with my brother sometimes I have to wait months for the money or I never get it. With my brother he either forgets or just goes and get something else after he told me to buy it. So now I only will buy a gift from him if he gives me the money up front. I don't think I am being mean about that. But one year my brother and I wanted to get a dog for my mother for her bday. The dog was 2400.00 he told me to go ahead and get it and he and all his friends would pay for half. I said okay knowing that I did not have the money but did it anyways. He finally gives me 200.00 and said that was all he had.So I ended up paying 2200.00 myself, and he has done that to me other times as well. And this August we went to Vegas together and we were at the pool and we were ordering drinks and putting in on the room which I was paying for and he said he would pay me half of the money when we got back home. So 4 months later he finally gives me the money after I have been calling him about it and I had to go over to his house to get the money. So now I don't buy stuff for him to give to other people. My mother said I was being mean and that my brother just gets busy because he works and as a lot of stuff going on. I said that was crap and that I work and always pay someone back with in a week if I owe them money.
So then last night I called my brother to see what he wanted to do about his bday and he is at my mothers house, and tells me that he liked a different camera better and that my mother got that one and that he is going in 50 and I don't have to worry now. This made me very upset, and when I got off the phone with him I broke down and was crying. I don't feel I was being mean about the money thing. I don't let people borrow money from me if they don't pay it back and I won't let my family do it either anymore. But my mother said that rule should not apply to family because they love me and I should understand. No I don't think so I still have to pay my bills! I am just so mad and don't know what to do!![]()



So I ended up paying 2200.00 myself, and he has done that to me other times as well. And this August we went to Vegas together and we were at the pool and we were ordering drinks and putting in on the room which I was paying for and he said he would pay me half of the money when we got back home. So 4 months later he finally gives me the money after I have been calling him about it and I had to go over to his house to get the money. So now I don't buy stuff for him to give to other people. My mother said I was being mean and that my brother just gets busy because he works and as a lot of stuff going on. I said that was crap and that I work and always pay someone back with in a week if I owe them money.
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