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I feel bad for putting someone else's business out there. Thanks for the suppport.




I wouldn't know what to say to her either, but just go see her. I'm sure that you being there will let her know that you care.
First of all, I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this. I've been through this, too, on both ends and either way, it's a horrible experience.
Let her know that you love her and you care about her without guilt tripping her about her suicide attempt. What she most likely needs is support and love from non judgemental people. Let her know that you're there to listen if she wants to talk. Ask her what you can do for her, then if it's something that is in your power, then do it. Alot of times, people who are suicidal feel that there is nobody who is there for them, nobody who "understands," and they feel lonely, hopeless and like there is no way "out." Many times, a suicidal person feels like they are a burden and that the world would be better off without them.
When I think of more, I'll post.
Like I said, I've been through this before on both sides of the issue. Feel free to PM me if you want.
My heart goes out to you and her...
You don't need to plan this out. Just go see her. The rest will occur naturally. Good luck.





You need to talk to her and be her friend don't try to fix anything if she wants to tell you she will, just be there for her.
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."









Slightly longer term, have you considered reading a few basic books on psychology?
They'll tell you something about depression, its causes and its treatments.
As you try and give her some guidance/be her mentor, some insights into how her condition may be of help.
Best wishes...
Phil.
I'm very sorry that you and your friend are going through this. My heart goes out to both of you. Just let her know you love her and you are there for her, and sometimes just sitting there silently with her can be the best thing. I'm in nursing school and they've been teaching that when a patient dies or gets bad news that sometimes it is just best to sit with them or the family silently. Please keep us posted. Best of luck to both of you!
I know how this is, i have had friends with this problem. What i do is give them all the attention they need, even if its a ridiculous amount. Ask whats she is feeling,ask what led her to the decision to try it, then tell her she is wrong to try to end her life, but only contradict her mistake with positive words, only say things that will raise her self esteem and self worth. ex: Don't tell her she is bad that she did this, tell her how bad things would be without her, tell her she is an amazing person and how she is so important to everyone even when she cannot recognize it. Tell her about all the positive things she contribute and how she make a good difference in the world.
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I agree, just being there is the most important thing.
I have been on the other side of the situation, and it was kind of embarrassing when people came to see me during my recovery, because I was afraid of them judging me. Just being supportive will be helpful.
Let your friend lead the conversation, talk about what she wants to, ask "do you want to talk about it?" and take it from there.
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