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    I'm giving myself this month to think it over, but I think I might be through with dancing, at least for a while. There are a few different reasons, but mostly the idea of dancing just makes me feel so, so tired.

    I'm almost finished saving for my boyfriend's last semester of college, so I'll have that big financial hurdle out of the way and be able to relax a little more, money-wise.

    I have a dayjob that I love, and would like to be able to spend more time doing it. I'm also getting to the point where a lot of people know me in my more, ahem, professional capacity. I'm starting to worry that someone will come in the club and recognize me. That would really be awkward.

    The stresses of the job have been getting to me more than usual lately. I struggle with depression on and off, and don't want to push myself right now.

    So yeah, lots of reasons. But mostly, I just feel done. I'm not interested in it anymore. I'm not interested in looking sexy, or seeing how much money I can make, or figuring out different ways to hustle. I'm so bored with all of it.

    Anyway, I guess I just wanted to share.

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    Default Re: I think I might be done

    Ditto. I totally feel ya girl.

    See my post (stick a fork........)

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    I remember that feeling all too well. It just seemed like too much work for too little return when stripping was supposed to be a job that gave you freedom.

    I love not having to be sexy at work and I love knowing I'm going to make money whether my game is on or not.

    I wish you well in your decision!

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    Me too. I am SO ready to quit. The only problem is my cat meows at me when I stop feeding him. I yell back at him, "You don't need to eat today fatty" but he just stares at me.

    For real though- I want out.

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    Good luck to you!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by DylanAngel View Post
    I remember that feeling all too well. It just seemed like too much work for too little return when stripping was supposed to be a job that gave you freedom.

    I love not having to be sexy at work and I love knowing I'm going to make money whether my game is on or not.

    I wish you well in your decision!
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    Quote Originally Posted by francescadubois View Post
    DA, you post the realest shit on here. I love you.
    Thanks for saying that FD, it means a lot coming from you.

    And I love you too!

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    Quote Originally Posted by DylanAngel View Post
    I remember that feeling all too well. It just seemed like too much work for too little return when stripping was supposed to be a job that gave you freedom.

    I love not having to be sexy at work and I love knowing I'm going to make money whether my game is on or not.

    I wish you well in your decision!
    Boom. You hit it. Too much work for too little. Weird how it feels this way now, when it used to feel like money for nothing. I've changed, I guess.

    Awkward thing, I'm about six months from where my dayjob should be able to support me. (It's a sole proprietership type of thing, but it's doing really well.) I'm not at all sure what I'll do in the meantime. I do need something where I can make money in a short period of time and don't have a hard-and-fast schedule.

    Maybe bartending or cocktail waitressing. Maybe Pharmaco.

    Hell, maybe when I've had a month or two off, I'll be able to go back to dancing and kick ass like I used to.

    Anyway, like I said, I'm giving myself a month to think it over.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo View Post
    Boom. You hit it. Too much work for too little. Weird how it feels this way now, when it used to feel like money for nothing. I've changed, I guess.
    It's not you who's changed, it's the industry; or should I say, the customers?

    The tide has turned and now they're expecting more bang for their buck.

    And I mean "bang" literally, in some cases.

    A break sounds like a good idea. I hope your business succeeds!

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    I'll be sad to see you go, even though we haven't met in person for some reason.. I do wish you the absolute best in whatever you do

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    If I was saving for someone else I would be over it too!

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    Quote Originally Posted by DylanAngel View Post
    It's not you who's changed, it's the industry; or should I say, the customers?

    The tide has turned and now they're expecting more bang for their buck.

    And I mean "bang" literally, in some cases.

    A break sounds like a good idea. I hope your business succeeds!
    This is SO true. I just got off the phone with one of my friends who still dances at my old club, and she was just going on and on about how she has to do so much more for so much less. It's really terrible, and I feel shitty for her. It was bad when I was leaving, and my friends say it's gotten so much worse. I really hate it for them, but it makes me glad that I stuck to my goals and got out in time.
    "I came in like a lamb, but I intend to leave like a lion."

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    Quote Originally Posted by beautiful. View Post
    I'll be sad to see you go, even though we haven't met in person for some reason.. I do wish you the absolute best in whatever you do
    Actually, when I saw your picture I realized I HAVE seen you. You're the adorable little redhead with the freckles and the awesome outfits...never knew you were a SWer though. I keep to myself at work for the most part, so I never really said hi. I don't work weekends anymore, so I haven't seen you in a while.

    Thanks for the good wishes.

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    Awww, thanks! Which one were you? PM me if you want.. you've just got me all curious now

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    Quote Originally Posted by DylanAngel View Post
    It's not you who's changed, it's the industry; or should I say, the customers?

    The tide has turned and now they're expecting more bang for their buck.

    And I mean "bang" literally, in some cases.

    A break sounds like a good idea. I hope your business succeeds!
    Maybe this is true. Honestly, though, I feel like it's me. I like my club a lot. Not too many extras going on in the club, though I know some girls do take it OTC. Guys actually aren't nearly as handsy with me as they were when I was new; I no longer have the vulnerable vibe, I guess.

    It has been slooow, lately. Just fewer guys in the place over-all. This never used to be a problem, though. I could always find money. I walked around like I owned the place and was one of those girls who could sit down, whisper in a guys ear for two seconds, and drag him off for dances.

    I really think it's me. Lately my bad nights out-number my good nights. My average nightly earnings are down $100 from where they were last year. The thought of walking up to customers makes me want to curl up in a ball.

    I'm under a lot of stress with the dayjob, although I absolutely love what I'm doing and believe in it to the fullest. After a full day of it, I want to relax and do something mindless for a while, not get dressed up and have my game on for eight hours. Yikes. I'm just worn thin.

    I've lost and found my hustle so many times in this job, I suppose it could always come back. But this time I can't stand the thought of enduring the bad times while I wait for good times to return.

    Has anybody tried cocktail waitressing at club? Was it any less stressful? Was the money OK? I know waitresses at my club do a lot of flirting with customers to get big tips. I could probably handle that as long as I got to keep my clothes on and nobody was slobbering on my ear.

    I don't know ladies. Anyway, thanks for listening. I heart Stripperweb.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beautiful. View Post
    Awww, thanks! Which one were you? PM me if you want.. you've just got me all curious now
    I'm another redhead. I'm very tall and have a surgical scar on my torso. I wore white a lot and really kept to myself. You might not remember me.

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    Yes ma'am I do remember you! I only saw you one night I think and at one point there was a group of girls in the dressing room and I think somebody asked you about your scar and I was standing over there. Awwwww, wish I would have known that was you!

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    ^^Heh. I guess the scar is the thing people remember about me the most. That's another weird thing: I used not to be sensitive about it at all, and just recently I've started to feel really insecure about it. Some people barely notice it at all, and for other people it's like it's the only thing they see.

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    You want to know something stupid? I have a birthmark on my back and I'm really sensitive about it. I freaking hate it.. It's not even big or ugly really, I'm just really self conscious about it. I seriously didn't even think anything of it or really take notice of it when I saw you. You don't have any reason to feel insecure, I actually think its pretty cool!

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    Aw man, I'm gonna miss you!

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    All i can say is hang in there! I completely understand where you are coming from- i quit dancing 4 months ago after going back & forth miserably. In fact, i havent been on SW for a while cuz i just couldn't even deal with thinking about anything "industry" related. Reading your post just reminded me that im not alone in my struggle! Sounds like you have plenty of SW friends who love & support you so be happy for that! and you helped me so thanks!

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    Quote Originally Posted by shasta View Post
    If I was saving for someone else I would be over it too!
    I was thinking the same thing. Im sure theres some background to this tho. When dancing became stressful as in I HAD To make $x amount to pay rent or something it was sooo hard. Now that you have this hefty bill taken care of and the proceeds are going to YOU it may not be so bad!

    My hunny and I made the deal that my dayjob will cover the bills. (It will!)

    When I dance 20% I get for ME only - like shopping!!! 40% into savings and 40% to pay down CCs. So for me theres an incentive to dancing. If I make $1000 I get $200 to do whatever I want with. When theres no incentive and it all goes to bills its no fun

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    If you are really burnt out, it is time to quit or take a break. I love dancing but I do get burned out and quit from time to time...Good luck to you and you always have dancing to fall back on....

    On a side note, and I don't mean this in a mean way, but why are you paying your bf's tuition? Just curious. I just see too many girls go to work to pay their men's bills and it makes me sad
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    Quote Originally Posted by VegasPrincess View Post
    On a side note, and I don't mean this in a mean way, but why are you paying your bf's tuition? Just curious. I just see too many girls go to work to pay their men's bills and it makes me sad
    I was wondering the same thing.
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    Yeah, Grace, he needs to be shaking his ass for his bills. If he was your husband I could understand a little better but he can walk the day that tuition check is cashed.

    Congrats on the new business!!
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