I know this probably isn't interesting anymore, but I just have to vent somewhere.
I've just broken up with my partner of nearly two years. We've lived together for one year. The problem is all about his crazy ex, who he has a child with. Though I'd hardly call her a mother. I've been questioning her parenting abilities for awhile. The boy is 7 right now. When her son was 5, my ex (we'll call him "Steve") stopped by and found her under the influence of methadone (which she got from a friend) while her child was in her care. She's also been known to leave him alone in the house (at least since he was 5 years old. We've caught her doing this 3 times. She went to a spa once instead of picking him up from school. We found this out when the school finally called us after he'd been waiting for almost 3 hours. She once missed a plane while out of town, and asked if we could just drop him off at her house. She said Rosie could babysit him through the night until she got back the next morning. Rosie is a cat.
then about a month ago we find out she's relapsed into hard drug use- again. She's had a serious problem with heroin and coke, among other things, in the past. But my bf has once again decided to not do anything about it. He still drops his son off with her every other week. He refuses to report her. He refuses to go for custody. He says she's "promised to do better" and not relapse again. Like she always does.
Maybe it's because I grew up with a similar mother, and everyone in my life who was in a position to help decided to look the other way time and time again. But I just can't deal with it. I don't look at him the same way. I can't respect him. In fact, a lot of the time I really hate him. Everything was going so well before this too. I thought we would get married someday. My family wants me to stay with him anyway. I don't know what to do.



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