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    My stepdad told me my parents are breaking up and my mom is threatening to commit suicide and is saying that I just "made it easier for her" because I obviously dont love her because I didnt talk to her about moving.

    I cant deal with this right now.

    What the fuck...

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    Take care of yourself first and let your mom have a shoulder to cry on things will get better even if it doesnt feel like it .

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    the holiday season is a bitch (haven't been up on your current family drama, so I don't know if it's holiday related or not-- however, going through similar unnecessary family crap during the holidays you have my sympathy)

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    Pooka, sweetie, I'm so sorry...

    I just want to point out, though, that even though your mom is going through her own pain, it's emotionally abusive for her to make you feel responsible for her suicidal thoughts or threats. I'm sure you're worried about her, too, but try not to let her lay that on you. I don't know all the details, but it is not your fault that your mom is feeling the way she is.

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    Thank you guys so much. I jut feel sorta explodey.

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    Ultimatums are mainly used by people who feel or are weak and powerless. Often when they don't know what else to do.

    She probably just wants to be more involved in your life and this is her way of getting that point across. If she makes a fuss and some serious threats, you will - hopefully - come running to her.

    Bless her. And you.

    Good luck.

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    pooka pooka of the shell
    I hope things start going well
    keep your chin up don't you cry
    things get better as time goes by
    when you're feeling sad and blue
    stripperweb will help cheer you!

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    I am sorry Pook.
    Remember, its not your fault and she doesn't really mean the mean things she is saying




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    Quote Originally Posted by Nicolina View Post
    Pooka, sweetie, I'm so sorry...

    I just want to point out, though, that even though your mom is going through her own pain, it's emotionally abusive for her to make you feel responsible for her suicidal thoughts or threats. I'm sure you're worried about her, too, but try not to let her lay that on you. I don't know all the details, but it is not your fault that your mom is feeling the way she is.

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    Agreed. It's not right that she's blaming you for her troubles.

    Hope things get better.






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    I think it is a time for you to be strong, Pooka, and do what needs to be done. I agree with Nicolina that your mom shouldn't be putting that pressure on you: I don't know what is going on with your mom, and I hope she'll be all right, but it sounds like this is a long standing problem--is this right? I have found that when you try to change your life many around you will object to it, because you disturb their normal way of doing things. But once you've made your move and settled in things will settle down, and eventually when you are on your own track you will have the energy to help your mom if it is needed. You are the one who is hurting now, and that needs to be paid attention to. Go forth with your own plans and don't be afraid.
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    Just let us know if there is anything we can do to help.
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    Your poem made me grin so hard.

    You guys really help me out when I need it most and I truly do appreciate the support.

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    Just read this, so *hug* (late) I hope you are less explodey.

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    It sucks when parents are more immature than their children. I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this right now, I know it's rough. Don't let them put you on a guilt trip. Problems in a relationship are between the two people involved, not anyone else.

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    *hugs Pooka*

    Be strong, Sweetie.



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    Oh hun this is terrible! You definitely don't need this shit right now. But when it rains it pours...

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