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    Do you ever feel guilty for taking time off? When you feel stressed or low on energy do you feel guilty if you take a few days off of work or a week? I don't know why but sometimes I feel like I just can't deal with the job mentally..and take time off...I rationalize that when I am at work I put 100 energy into it and usually do pretty well because of that...I just can't be there if I am feeling tired or emotional or like I don't want to be looked at...I have been dancing for five years and I feel like I need to pace myself otherwise I will burn out fast and want to quit again...I love my job and greatful for all the things it grants me but it takes alot out of me sometimes..I wish I could be more consistant but sometimes I just feel like I can't deal with it.

    Do you guys think I am doing the right thing..or should I just try to make it every week despite how I feel and get through each night and try harder to be harder working and ignore my low energy?

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    I do greatly, and because I always feel like I'm missing out on great money when I'm not there. Usually, I work 12 hour shifts 5-6 days a week. We're closed Sundays, but if we were open, I'd probably work them too. It's only been recently that I've started to take some nights off.
    The management is starting to get mad at me and telling me to take some time off so I don't burn out. I just keep telling them to give me nights shifts so I don't work the days and then have to work nights to make up for it.

    Maybe try working only 1-3 shifts per week, and really enjoy your time off, and once you feel revitalized again, try upping it to 4 days. And try having them as scheduled days for yourself, so you don't slack off. And, it's just a job, deep breath, and clear your head. Go for it again! Try not to let it drag you down. Maybe a little break over the holidays would be good for you, to recharge and then go back at it refreshed?

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    Yes, I feel guilty for taking time off. I've worked maybe two days from October to now. However, I'm supplemental income and we aren't really hurting without my help. That may not be the case for everyone.

    There are lots of valid reasons to cut down on dancing. But there comes a point when you have to decide what you want out of it. If you want to make enough money that you can retire and not have to worry about the next job, then cutting down is probably a bad idea. Work hard now, enjoy big payoff later, right? If this is a part-time gig for extra cash, then don't feel like you gotta push yourself to the breaking point. *shrug* Ultimately, you're the only one who can decide if your guilt has a basis or not.

    I do know that the more regularly you keep dancing, the easier it is to stay on that schedule. The more time off, the more you get used to having time off. It's an ugly spiral that I'm quite stuck in.


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    Nope, not at all. I take weeks off all the time.... I need it or else I would go nuts..

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    I'm taking a month off right now (mostly because I'm in another state visiting my family for the holidays) because I was getting really burnt out and frustrated. I did feel a little guilty at first but I let the manager know and he was cool with it. I had so much on my plate this past term and dancing was really taking a toll on me. I'm going to return in January with hopefully a better schedule that I can handle better than what I was doing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AudreyLeigh View Post
    Nope, not at all. I take weeks off all the time.... I need it or else I would go nuts..
    After I came back from Melbourne, I took a week off. No guilt. I've been doing this far to long to feel guilty about taking much needed time off for mental health reasons. I learnt a huge lessons earlier this year and I think last year too about setting boundaries for myself, allowing myself to say NO to money.

    I see my breaks as "mental health breaks" as well as a way for my body to not be over-worked thus cause me too many troubles. I'm usually productive in that week break and concentrate on catching up on projects I may have missed or left on the back burner because work takes it out of me.

    You are your own boss. You are owner and operator of your business. Why feel guilty about looking after the number one asset of your business: YOU ?


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    Yea and you NEED time off. You NEED vacation time or just a week to not worry about work. No dancer should be working 52 weeks a year.

    Lucky if you find me working 52 days a year... LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by AudreyLeigh View Post
    Yea and you NEED time off. You NEED vacation time or just a week to not worry about work. No dancer should be working 52 weeks a year.

    Lucky if you find me working 52 days a year... LOL
    lol.... me too. well, maybe I do 100 or 80... ya......

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    I don't feel guilty. In fact I look forward to it. I do love my job but it is very high stress.. I deserve time off! One more week until my 2 week long vacation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Habinairo View Post
    The management is starting to get mad at me and telling me to take some time off so I don't burn out. I just keep telling them to give me nights shifts so I don't work the days and then have to work nights to make up for it.
    My old club managers did that too. I was so burnt out. Then I found Reno. Now theyre lucky to see me because I only work once in a while.

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    no. because it's because i'm either physically or mentally worn out, and i think either of those is a perfectly healthy acceptable reason to not go in.

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    Yes, I feel VERY guilty for not working. It's why I don't have any time off until the middle of March '08, I can't tell the people that book me 'no' when they call to book me somewhere. I have to be so sick I can't move before I'll not go to work.

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    I always feel guilty. I have a self-imposed schedule and I make myself make up the days when I miss them.

    I hate that I try so hard to justify taking time off of work... although being physically and mentally run-down is a valid excuse... I often find myself justifying it to my boyfriend who doesn't even care if I go in or not.

    This is a job where you really do have to get good at checking in on yourself internally to see how you're doing... and make an honest evaluation on your mental and emotional health. Then you have to decide whether or not the adrenaline rush you'll get at work will be enough to cover the exhaustion you're feeling physically. Why is it so complicated!?!?!
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    I know when I used to work all the time its because I was addicted to the money. I wanted more and more and more. It was like my crack... I LOVE money. Luckily Ive moved out of that. I mean of course I still love money but its not as important as it used to me.

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    i do. im not even supposed to work on thursday nights, but i said i might come in, and now i feel guilty that im not planning on it even though im sick!

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