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    I recently started dating someone that I really like and want to tell him that I dance however when we went out the other night the topic of strip clubs came up and he said that he didn't care for them and that he felt sorry for girls who dance and I gave him a look so he asked me if I ever danced. He caught me off guard when he made that comment so at that point I felt uncomfortable saying yes. I am not ashamed of what I do but I want to be completely honest with him. Has anyone else dealt with this?

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    i haven't yet, but i'm sure i will. it's nice that you really like him, but if he can't accept the fact that you dance, then he doesn't deserve you. a man will like you for you, regardless of your job.

    i think you should tell him that you dance and say that if he can't accept it than it's his loss. you're a smart girl and this is your job for now.

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    I think its best to spill the beans right away. If he seems uptight about the subject, just emphasise that you are a clean dancer, you go in make your money, and go home to live a normal life. Guys who are skeeved about the idea of dating a stripper are imagining that we are all hookers and drug addicts. If you make it clear its just a lucrative job for you, not a lifestyle, most guys can accept it. The more you lie, the more it looks like you have something to hide.

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    ^^^yep thats pretty much the best way. be totally honest. if you are not honest he might say thats coz your a dancer, or visa versa.
    it might be hard to be straight up, but it really eliminates a lot of pressure of holding it in. Dont worry about his approval, the right person will like you for you




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    Tell the truth. Lies have a way of building up. If you don't tell him you're a dancer, eventually you're going to have to lie and say you do something else. And eventually he'll find out anyway. it can only end in pain and anger.

    If he doesn't like it, big deal. There's plenty of fish in the sea, and it's best to find out before it goes to far and feeling develop into more. Good luck.

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    I couldn't stomach a guy who said he "felt sorry" for dancers. That would irritate me to no end...because, obviously our jobs are so terrible, we're forced into sex acts all the time and need to get loaded to work everynight, and are just struggling to pay rent. I think thats just a sign it'll be hard for him to respect it and his veiws are a little skewed. I'd tell him right away, you're better off fin ding out how he'll feel in the 1st place than getting close to him, then having him find out and freak. Thats when you get really hurt.


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    I think a lot of people who feel sorry for dancers or think all dancers are messed up or whatever just don't rally understand. They've never talked to a dancer in real life before, so how would they really know?

    My boyfriend was talking to his dad one day abotu strippers, because he told them I waitressed in a strip club. His dad said he felt sorry for the dancers. My boyfriend said to him why? Thoes girls are living a great life, they are hard workers, make good money, support their familys....And his dad said yeah, I guess your right..I never thought of that before.

    A lot of people just don't understand, or don't see past " I get naked for men"
    Once you explain to them what it is you do and why you do it...he may come around. He may not....then you know it won't work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    I think a lot of people who feel sorry for dancers or think all dancers are messed up or whatever just don't rally understand. They've never talked to a dancer in real life before, so how would they really know?

    A lot of people just don't understand, or don't see past " I get naked for men"
    Once you explain to them what it is you do and why you do it...he may come around. He may not....then you know it won't work.

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    I meet most men as a stripper and then when we date he tries to get me to quit that has been the pattern so far any way and that pisses me off as he met me as a stripper why would he want to try and change me..I have stripper biz cards made up so if a guy meets me in the street or else where he also knows right away.it mind boggles most men in the beginning if not then the hell with them :-))
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