Ladies:
Is Dr. Kerner giving sound advice regarding "Booty Call Protocol" in the following excerpt from Cosmopolitan's "Sex & Love" column? IMO, it seems a bit dated (pardon the pun)...
Just curious:
- If the sex rocks, wouldn't calling once a month or less be self-deprivation?
- Should the protocol apply year-round, or can exceptions be made during the holiday season?
Booty-Call Protocol
If you're going to indulge in no-strings-attached nooky, you'd be wise to follow a few rules.
Booty-Call Rule 1: Once a month is enough. When you suggest meeting up more than once every few weeks or so, it will come across as more of an obligation than a friends-with-benefits thing.
Booty-Call Rule 2: Avoid the redial button. If he doesn't answer or call back after you make the first attempt, don't keep hitting redial. He could be sleeping or spending time with someone else...and you're not allowed to mind.
Booty-Call Rule 3: Don't overstay your welcome (or let him overstay his). Sleeping over or brunching can feel awkward when you're just shagging. Stay within your boundaries by skipping the couple-y stuff.
Booty-Call Rule 4: Be honest with yourself. It can be emotionally taxing to have uncommitted sex, so once in a while, have a truthful talk with yourself to make sure you're still okay (really) with the casual encounters.
Sources: Sexologist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., and Alexa Joy Sherman, coauthor of The Happy Hook-Up.



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