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    Kaylinn
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    So I had a job interview today, as a hostess for an upscale restaurant. Actually, if anyone remembers the review I did for Panevino Restaurant..I interviewed with them. It pays $10 an hour, 24 hours a week. $240 a week.
    That's not very much
    However, it's a very friendly, nice place, the interview ended with a hug..it seems like a nice, stressfee place to work. All the job is answering phnes and greeting guests as they walk in. I need a stress free job right now. My nerves just cannot cope at all with anythign right now. The other day I cried cause I dropped a taco. I cannot handle stress.
    Plus..I have no job right now, so $240 a week is more than I've got now.
    It just sound like a place I would enjoy. But the low pay is an issue. But I have no pay right now, so some money is bettr than no money.

    OR

    I can go back to the strip club and cocktail. I HATED it there. Major stress, which as I said, I can't cope with.

    So what do i do?
    Take a job I can handle and enjoy with low pay, or take a job I will hate, but get better pay?

    The thign is....The restaurant job won't be enough income. We are 2 grand in the hole every month, so bringing in $850 a monmth isn't really gunna cut it. Sure, it'll help, but we'll always have shut off notices..

    I just don't know. I'll feel guilty if I take the lower paying job...but it sounds so perfect for me right now, with school and my mental status currently....

    So...opinions?
    Low pay + happiness ( but stress because pay is to low to make the bills)
    Better pay+ major stress, drama and misery

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    Take the job. You can always quit if something better comes along.
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    ^ I know, but....I have a very spotty job history, and the hiring dude was concerned abotu this. I had to convince him to take a chance on me and that my inconsistant job history was a thing of the past and I was ready to settle down. He went on about how it's expensive to hire and train new people, and a waste of time money and resources to hire someone who only lasts 3 months.

    So If I took the job only to quit for a betetr opporuntiy, I would feeel like a major ass for doing exactly what he was worried abotu that I convinced him i had changed.
    And he was so nice, I dont wanna be an ass.

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    Take the job... settle yourself down some and maybe one night a week once you've relaxed a bit you can dance. Or just dance a night here and there as needed. I think with all you've been through the stress free job is the way to go for you. Your mental health is most important.

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    By the way, hostesses usually get tips! Not quite like servers do, but if I'm not mistaken there's a bit of a trickle-down hierarchy in most places. Also, with your looks and experience, you could probably graduate to server in no time!

    Then you'd have the potential to be making 100-200 bucks in a night in a place like that, being optimistic of course! I say take the job. It's worth your sanity, and people have gotten by on much less.

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    Hmm for such low pay it just seems like a huge waste of time. That measly job will be using up your time and energy where you could just work one night a week at a club and make much more than that. Is dancing not an option for you right now? Even when I hate work, only having to deal with it on occasion, and according to my own whim is far less stressful than some boss telling me I have to get out of bed when I don't wanna. If you're not up for dancing, I'd at least want a job where you can get tips and make a better wage. Have you ever hosted before? I did and it sucked. I'd hardly call it stress free when there will be waitresses and customers nagging at you all day, and after all that all you have to show for it is some pocket lint. There has to be something better out there.

    Oooh, sorry for being such a negative nancy! I just think there is a better option out there for you.

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    There are tips. He said it's about 10-20 a night. The servers tip out a (small) percentage of their tips. ( he said somethign like, .07%)

    But I agree, cally. If I take this job and calm my ass down a bit, get back into life, maybe I could dance again 1 night a week. Then I would have enough income. and sanity.

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    I say cut yourself some slack.
    You need as little stress as possible right now. I say take the hostess job, something is better then nothing and once you are feeling better you can go back to the club for a night or two. Or find another job that works around this schedule.

    I'm curious if you've ever delt/ worked in a casino, I know your bf does and i'm wondering if you've ever tried it? Its probably stressful but not in an exploitative kind of way.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    There are tips. He said it's about 10-20 a night. The servers tip out a (small) percentage of their tips. ( he said somethign like, .07%)

    But I agree, cally. If I take this job and calm my ass down a bit, get back into life, maybe I could dance again 1 night a week. Then I would have enough income. and sanity.
    I think if you know you have another income your sanity will come back. You wont be stressing knowing the money your making at the club is the only money you have. You need to focus on yourself. This job sounds perfect for you, and hell some money is better then no money right? Don't go back to a job that will make you break down. I don't want to have to visit you in a padded room

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    ^ I was a "Model mermaid dealer"
    I got paid $20 an hour + kept all my own tips(all the other dealers split) and delt 1 game, a very simple easy one that a monkey woudl know how.

    I can't deal games in a casino. My math skills are not even close to good enough. When I did that model dealer thing, they had to lay me off, and offerend to instead teach me how to be a normal dealer and they would keep me on. I tried to learn for 3 days and got nowhere. I know the games inside and out, but I can't figure out pay offs. And you cannot fuck up payoffs. Fuckign with a caisno or a customers money is bad news. Plus I couldn't hadnle the stress of dealign with such large amounts of money. My boyfriend deals and pays wins for hundreds of thousands of dollars. I would have a freakin panic attack trying to figure that shit out.

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    Plus at least for me, just the plain and simple fact that dancing is my ONLY income mildy freaks me out. I think that if you knew you'd be making enough to cover bills through a simple job you can tell everyone about, dancing a night every week or so would be more fun and less nerve-wracking.

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    ^ VERY true.
    That was one of my biggest problems dancing. This stupid fear I would never make enough. If I knew I didn't need to dance to pay the bills, I could dance and make money. When I have to make money, i never can because I can't handle the pressure.

    Yeah, I've made up my mind. This is veruy good for me and workign through my problems. My depression and anxiety is so bad right now, I need the least stressful job possible, but also need consistancy. I don't even get dressed anymore...just having a job I have to show up to will help tremendously. Then once I establish a routine of getting up, getting dressed, leaving the house, interacting with people..it'll help to bring me back up to being a dancer again, which is ideally what i would like to do to get through college.
    yeah. cool.
    Now I hope they offer me the job, LOL.
    He said it looked very good and had other interviews today that he had to keep just as a courtesy, but he would call me monday.

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    Well my fingers and toes are crossed for you!!! I hope you get it!!

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    I was super stressed out in October...I had been going through school and working and pulling like 20 hour days between school and dancing. When I moved down to Florida, I took a crappy job because I couldn't stand to be in the club and I made around the same amount you will a week. I did suffer for a little while but after a month, I was able to go back to dancing and I feel fresh.

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    I hope you get the job
    keep us updated



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    *crosses fingers for Kailynn*

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    If you aren't here mentally and emotionally in life...WHERE are you? (its one of those answer it silently questions).
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    you can only survive by clinging onto trees
    that's your flaw
    put down some roots so you can stand on your own
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    Quote Originally Posted by TigersMilk View Post
    If you aren't here mentally and emotionally in life...WHERE are you? (its one of those answer it silently questions).
    Ooooohhh..how Zen of you...

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    I hated hostessing. I dunno about you but I had to deal with bitchy waitresses complaining they were getting sat too often or not enough (sorry I don't control the amount of customers!!) If my sister wasn't my manager I would have walked out of that place!!! Then at another hostessing job it was always so dead in the place that the other hostesses and I would be bored to tears. Standing around in heels at the podium all day cleaning menus is more like chinese water torture to me. Maybe you should try to get like a receptionist job. They pay the same and can come with benefits.

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    The most important thing you can do is what you want, and trust that the rest will work out.

    By taking the job you WANT to do, you may just gain the motivation to want to make it work.

    When you want to make things work, you find yourself doing all sorts of things you've never done before/never thought you'd do. And if you're good at it, you mayyyyy just enjoy it.
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    yanno, I just realized...If I'm gonna take a job with such little pay...why not go back into the nursing field where I have experience, like the job and it will actually contribute to my future. Plus, I'll get paid more than $10 an hour.
    My nursing experience is very old though, so that looks bad, I haven't been in the field for a little over 4 years...
    But what the hell. I'm gonna go fax some resumes out. I should be able to land that kind of job rather quickly, with the demand and my experience.

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    ^^Didn't know you had experience in that. I think thats a much better path both short and long term. Good luck on your new job hunt!
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    that's your flaw
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    let us know how that goes.

    Love it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    yanno, I just realized...If I'm gonna take a job with such little pay...why not go back into the nursing field where I have experience, like the job and it will actually contribute to my future. Plus, I'll get paid more than $10 an hour.
    My nursing experience is very old though, so that looks bad, I haven't been in the field for a little over 4 years...
    But what the hell. I'm gonna go fax some resumes out. I should be able to land that kind of job rather quickly, with the demand and my experience.

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    this sounds like a great idea!!!
    Maybe you can even get someone to help fund schooling eventually!
    Let us know how it goes



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