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    Default Whats the best way to ask a stripper to move on?

    I understand why the ladies will just walk up and ask for a dance, I don't mind, I don't have some grand expectation of them sitting down and chatting to me for hours before I ask them for a dance. Often I will say yes when first asked for a dance. But just as often, I want to make a choice myself.

    Yet their are times when I just got into the club, or I've already spent a good bit of money, or a host of other reasons... I hate to think that my answer pisses anyone off, or "brands" me in some way.

    So what are yall's suggestions for a nice way to tell a girl who offers a dance that your not interested in to keep on moving? Or, when you offer up a "maybe later" and they either; check back every 2 minutes, or just sit down and wait, not talk mind you, just sit.

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    this thread is similar

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    I would have to suggest "No, thank you". Saying "maybe" will have her under the assumption that if she asks later you might change your mind, but if you have your mind made up you should just state your opinion directly.

    But you can still be polite, smile and try to make the "no" as gentle as possible.

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    Default Re: Whats the best way to ask a stripper to move on?

    I like a little tip woth the "no."

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    "I'm waiting for someone" is a good answer.

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    Default Re: Whats the best way to ask a stripper to move on?

    ^^^^
    This response has worked best for me. Most dancers won't step on another dancers "action." A polite, "I am waiting for someone, but thank you for the offer" usually does the trick.

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    Default Re: Whats the best way to ask a stripper to move on?

    Quote Originally Posted by Lola Rose View Post
    "I'm waiting for someone" is a good answer.
    Isn't there a good chance of that kinda backfiring? I mean, I usually hit up different strip clubs as I travel for work, often times just because theres not a lot to do in a strange town on a thursday night. So if I go to a club more than once, theres probably going to be a bit of time in between. I mean, I probably just won't know anyone to be waiting for, should they ask.

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    Quote Originally Posted by crizgolfer View Post
    ^^^^
    This response has worked best for me. Most dancers won't step on another dancers "action." A polite, "I am waiting for someone, but thank you for the offer" usually does the trick.
    I love it when guys say this to turn me down! It's super easy on both of us... he doesn't have to feel like an ass, I don't have to feel outright rejected, and he's not being a liar and leading me on so that I might come back later and bother him again.

    This is the PERFECT "no" line, IMO!

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    Quote Originally Posted by jester214 View Post
    Isn't there a good chance of that kinda backfiring? I mean, I usually hit up different strip clubs as I travel for work, often times just because theres not a lot to do in a strange town on a thursday night. So if I go to a club more than once, theres probably going to be a bit of time in between. I mean, I probably just won't know anyone to be waiting for, should they ask.
    Nothing in life is 100%. My experience as a customer is also usually when I am on the road. I have rarely been asked, "Who are you waiting for?".

    The usual response is a smile and a "you have a nice time." If they do ask, then I guess you will have to come up with a little conversation. If I was truly not waiting for anyone specific I would go along the line of "I was here a couple months ago. There was a dancer I enjoyed. I can't remember her name, but I want to watch the rotation and see if she comes out."

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheTempest View Post
    I would have to suggest "No, thank you". Saying "maybe" will have her under the assumption that if she asks later you might change your mind, but if you have your mind made up you should just state your opinion directly.

    But you can still be polite, smile and try to make the "no" as gentle as possible.
    I totally agree with Tempest here. "No, Thank You" is all that's necessary. I really don't think there is a need to elaborate any further. When someone tells me "maybe later" I ALWAYS come back, unless I get busy. If I get told "No, Thank You" I won't bother the guy again. Then again, this is just me. I know some girls will keep pressing and pressing even though the guy has communicated his disinterest to them.
    And yes, always be sure to make your rejection as polite as possible!

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    Quote Originally Posted by shasta View Post
    I like a little tip woth the "no."
    Tip the dancer and say "Thank you for the offer however I will have to decline. Hope you have a great night".

    The "I'm waiting for somebody" line doesn't work with me as I will ask "Who are you waiting for? Can I help by going to get her for you?" thus putting you on the spot.

    I say stick with tipping the dancer and a polite respectful no will do the trick!


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    Tell her that you are waiting for "insert name here" . Make sure you know that the girl you named is there. Most dancers will not try to stay with you after that because of some dancer's code that prohibits them from taking custy's from one another. HONOR THE CODE!!!
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    just say thanks but no thanks.

    A dollar tip is at that time is a nice touch and will keep you from being labled a jerk and go along way to help to ensure polite service in the future by various club staff such a waitress or bartender.


    Why is it worth it to do the dollar tip some may ask. The reason is because we all talk to eachother- in the dressingroom, bahtrooms and at the bar. If a guy is seen for whatever reason as rude, word travels fast.

    Also here is why the "I'm waiting for someone" line doesn't work too well many times is because unless you really are and can tell us who we just think your being cheap. Right or wrong that is the way it comes across. If a customer tells me he is waiting for another dancer I WILL ask you who it is and if you can tell me I am happy to let her know she has a waiting customer. Many of my co-workers do the same for me too. It helps us waste less time and make more $. If you go blank when I ask who then I'm going to assume you are some jerk trying to get a free show. Might not always be true but experience has taught me it's true more often than not.

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    I can understand the rationale in politeness in turning a gal down. I don't understand the rationale in tipping her to go away gracefully when I never asked for her to come over in the first place. If people mislabel me as a "jerk" or "cheap" go tattle in the dressing room, and screw not only themselves, but their co-workers out of money over a misinterpreted gesture with one person, well thats their fault. Its supposed to me their job to impress me after all, not the other way around.
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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish View Post
    I can understand the rationale in politeness in turning a gal down. I don't understand the rationale in tipping her to go away gracefully when I never asked for her to come over in the first place. If people mislabel me as a "jerk" or "cheap" go tattle in the dressing room, and screw not only themselves, but their co-workers out of money over a misinterpreted gesture with one person, well thats their fault. Its supposed to me their job to impress me after all, not the other way around.
    well right or wrong a guy who is turning down even the basic "hi, how are you tonight " opening line from a dancer is often seen as a cheapo looking for a free show and that gets around a club real quick.

    Experience teaches us to notice the signs and what you called a tattle is not screwing eachother over it's actually a way of saving ourselves from wasting time and energy on a guy who came in with zero intention of spending anything at all

    The tiny $1 tip is not about impressing anyone, it's a show of good faith that you are there to actually be customer and not some peeping tom like guy. If we think a guy is a cheapo looking for a free thrill we are going to warn eachother. Pretty simple stuff here.

    The tip suggestion is just a way to ensure good future service, that's all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tara_SW View Post
    well right or wrong a guy who is turning down even the basic "hi, how are you tonight " opening line from a dancer is often seen as a cheapo looking for a free show and that gets around a club real quick.
    Okay, let me get this straight. If I turn down a gal whom I don't desire to have any company with because...

    A. I can free up space at my table for a more desirable entertainer (who isn't going to approach as long as the first gal is there)
    B. Sending her off to another customer she has an actual prospect of making a sale with ASAP would seemingly be the polite thing to do.
    C. I don't want any dances, but will tip the ladies on stage.

    ...then I'm cheap. Interesting conclusion.

    Experience teaches us to notice the signs and what you called a tattle is not screwing eachother over it's actually a way of saving ourselves from wasting time and energy on a guy who came in with zero intention of spending anything at all
    Okay, just a paragraph ago you're complaining about us turning you down promptly, now you're worried about us wasting your time which turning you down promptly would seemingly prevent. So which is it?

    The tiny $1 tip is not about impressing anyone, it's a show of good faith that you are there to actually be customer and not some peeping tom like guy.
    I can show my good faith at the tiprail where I can spend on whom I choose, not whom happens to walk over. Thank you very much.

    If we think a guy is a cheapo looking for a free thrill we are going to warn eachother. Pretty simple stuff here.
    A guy who comes in intent on spending money will show his true colors in time. What you can't seem to get past is that we do not pay a door cover and overpriced drinks to be equal opportunity donors. If there are 26 dancers in a particular club, each defined by a letter of the alphabet, and I came in to spend money only on A and B, I'm not overly concerned with what C through Z think of me. And if A and B know I'm good for money, I doubt they are concerned that I didn't tip C thorugh Z to walk away because doing so would mean less money for them.

    Now if dancers C through Z do something for me, or I watch their stage set, that's another matter.

    The tip suggestion is just a way to ensure good future service, that's all.
    Yes, but were talking about an instance where you don't want any future service from the person that you would be tipping. The thing is that I don't tip to ensure future service, I tip to reward past and present service.
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    I'm talking about future service in the club in general. Like I said we all talk to eachother about the customers.

    Door charges mean zip, nada, nothing to the dancers. We see none of it and we pay the club too so that excuse is the LAMEST one ever created by customers.

    I'm not going to bother explaining my reply to Jester's request for advice and suggestions to you yet again. Either you understand the logic or you don't.

    If whatever you do to get rid of an unwanted dancer is working for you the good for you.

    I made the suggestion because it really can and often does make a difference in how a customer is going to be treated in a club. It's just a suggestion though. Take it or leave it. I really don't care that much and was just trying to help someone who asked for advice from the dancers posting here.

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    Just treat people like human beings. That always works for me.

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    I usually say "No, But thanks for coming over *and smile*."

    I'm not going to tie up a lady's time, If I'm not going to buy a dance, drink or food.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tara_SW View Post
    The tiny $1 tip is not about impressing anyone, it's a show of good faith that you are there to actually be customer and not some peeping tom like guy. If we think a guy is a cheapo looking for a free thrill we are going to warn eachother. Pretty simple stuff here.
    Tara,

    I can't help but think you're being a tad unrealistic here. To take your suggestion to extremes, if there are 100 guys in the club, and you approach each 3 times in the course of the evening, you're going to walk out with $300 for just saying "Hi, how are you".

    There's a difference between a guy sitting at the tip rail - who should tip - and a guy not in direct line of sight of nudity.

    Most guys who come into SC's will come in with some sort of spend in mind, and will spend that sort of amount during the course of the night - however as Doc Catfish says, that money may be spent on dancers A & B, not C - Z. That's human nature.

    And a little thought for you - have you considered that expecting each guy in the club to tip you $1 for saying "Hi, how are you", then feeling disappointed when he doesn't may be hitting your earnings a little?

    We all tend to broadcast our emotions through body language - although most of us do it sub-consciously. You may be sending out "I think you're a cheapo" vibes as you walk away, which could be a bit counter productive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moodmaster View Post
    I usually say "No, But thanks for coming over *and smile*."

    I'm not going to tie up a lady's time, If I'm not going to buy a dance, drink or food.
    This is great advice too!

    No matter what, do NOT say "maybe later" or some other bullshit if you don't mean it!!!!!!!!!!!

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    A dollar tip is at that time is a nice touch and will keep you from being labled a jerk
    I'd rather be labeled a jerk than encourage "Wanna dance?" approaches from dancers that have no business dancing by tipping every dancer I refuse $1.
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    I don't expect every person who says "no" to me to tip ... but when they do they're super nice.

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    To the men bitching me out on the tip idea and saying stuff like I have no business being a dancer,

    In my first responce here I said a tip was A NICE TOUCH and then explained why it can serve in the best interest for some customers. I never said it was required or that I get pissed when it doesn't happen to me. Nor do I think every guy who doesn't tip when I say hi is a cheapo.

    I've been doing this job for a very long time now. I can usually tell the differnece between a cheapo looking for a free show and a guy whose type is something other than me.

    I am ALWAYS nice to the customers. Even the ones who are straight up assholes. I kill 'em with kindness as the saying goes. In other words, I know what the hell I am doing and have been a success in this line of work for 11 years.

    The tip idea was just a suggestion for the guy who ASKED for various suggestions about how NOT to get a negative lable for turning away dancers. A small tip with a no thankyou is a sure fire way to reach the goal of getting rid of an unwanted dancer without any risk of being labled a jerk. It doesn't mean every guy who doesn't tip is a jerk. It was just a bloody suggestion on one way to avoid the possibilty of being mislabled as one

    Also uhm, I was not the only one who suggested the tip idea either. So lay the fuck off me already. Geez!
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    I get a good laugh when I say:
    "I'm waiting for someone..."
    "Who?" (working a trap)
    I mention the Lady's name...
    "Oh, she's not here...I am"
    And it never fails, as she says that. my girl appears out of her line of sight ...
    "Oh really??" is all I say. Game over.

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