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    **caution - venting**

    So last night I decide to try a new club. My evening started off really badly. I waited 45 minutes for the bus in a horrible Canadian winter night. When I got there I was rejected for ID reasons. Apparently a driver's license, health card, SIN card and student card are not enough to prove I am over age 19. So I decided to go to my regular club.

    It's only my sixth night dancing and I've never made less than $180 so I figured I could make some money again. I won't get into all the details but after 2.5 or so hours of hustling hard, I only had one dance ($20) and then I started having an upset stomach and had to go home early. The other girls were also saying they made very very little. Most of them got their dances in the earlier part of the evening when I wasn't there.

    I'm so discouraged because I need money to buy Christmas presents and pay January rent. To get through the month I need to make about $500 dancing. I'm really scared this isn't going to happen.

    Also, the entire night I felt so unsexy and I think that had a huge impact on my sales. When I first started, it was rare I got dressed up in lingerie, heels, makeup, hair, ect. and so I felt instantly sexual. Now that it was my 6th night, it just felt normal to me.

    I don't know if I should go in tonight or take a break and go Thursday, Friday, Saturday. I'm REALLY REALLY scared I'm not going to make enough money this month. Even just making $100 a night would be wonderful to me.

    If anyone has any advice or encouragement I would really appreciate it.

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    hey! aww man it sucks you had a bad night! i've recently been looking into the 'laws of attraction' and basically if you think positivly about money...it'll turn up. i've only been activly turning my thoughts positivly for a few weeks and i swear to god money has just been turning up (yey) it might be my altered perspective but i'm alot more chilled out and happy as a result of changing the way i think

    heres a link that explains a bit better http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_b1GKGWJbE8

    hope things start looking up!! x

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    all i have to say is you've been dancing for SIX DAYS!!! give it some time before you decide!! if you don't like a club, move to the next one- you're not obligated to stay. Find one that seems like it fits your style/scheduling needs, and stick with it for a bit, get some regs, and try your luck. Less than a week and you're ready to throw in the towel??!! Give it a bit more time... I know things can be disappointing, but seriously, if you're ready to call it quits after so little , this may not be for you. You need a THICK skin in this biz, esp. with the economy where it is right now.... be prepared to learn to hustle and deal w/ lots of cheapasses.
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    Thanks for your support ladies!!!

    Colette- I'm not ready to throw in the towel. I'm just scared I won't make money for Christmas presents and rent in January =o( I will definitely keep trying though!!!

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    ahh yeah that's understandable... well like i said- it DOES pay to stick to one place, show up on time & on schedule so you can tell people when you'll be there, and you'll be ok. i know it can suck being new.

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    bah, I feel bad, NewMoon! That's so much BS with that other club. Argh. I wish I would have been there...I would have tried to say something? But some managers are just such dicks. They decide you look young, and that's that. I've heard of it happening before, but not at that place. Really, really sucks. It's cuz they get nailed so hard for having underage girls...they get really, really paranoid. You could try a birth certificate maybe? That's what you need (plus driver's license) to get into the freaking USA...if that's not enough proof for that club, then they're out of their minds. I understand if you don't want to go there again.

    I will say that maybe take a break tonight...Tuesdays blow rhinos. I worked at N's last Tuesday, left with $240 after five hours, but that was like pulling cow teeth. Brutal, and just a stroke of luck at the end there. Basically a total waste of time.

    Weds through Sat is much more worthwhile. Don't give up just yet...I really think it's just the weather that's making it so sucky right now. I can pretty well guarantee you'll make $500 if you work Thurs, Fri, Sat this week. It's much better on those days!

    Also, I know how hard it is to feel hot and sexy when you're having a bad night. I feel absolutely gross when I can't sell dances. And then I have a good night, and I feel like god's gift to stripping. It's silly, but it's true.

    Feel better! Do whatever you have to so that you feel confident again, and then get back on the horse. It's true it's not a job that works out for everyone, but trust me when I say it's not usually bad like this. I've been dancing here for well over 2 and 1/2 years...This is just a shitty week. Record amounts of snow ruins business for everyone.

    (to other people...for real, you should see how much snow we've got here...it would blow your mind).

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    Its starting to get really cold outside. People are staying home, buying xmas presents, etc. It gets REALLY hard to make a buck stripping, so don't stress about it. You might be better off borrowing a little cash from somebody then setting yourself up for disappointment right now. Good luck!

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    mollyzmoon - I PM'd you more about the ID issue.

    I'm taking tonight off to recover and get my enthusiasm back and then I'm going to try and kick butt at my "regular" place Thurs-Sat.

    I'm sorry about the super negative post! I was feeling like shit last night and I'm feeling a lot better now. Thanks ladies =o)

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarlet_is_yummy View Post
    hey! aww man it sucks you had a bad night! i've recently been looking into the 'laws of attraction' and basically if you think positivly about money...it'll turn up. i've only been activly turning my thoughts positivly for a few weeks and i swear to god money has just been turning up (yey) it might be my altered perspective but i'm alot more chilled out and happy as a result of changing the way i think

    heres a link that explains a bit better

    hope things start looking up!! x
    yes, yes and YES. I cannot stress enough how much your thoughts, outlook and mindset affect your earnings. I know there have been threads about the Secret and some people were quick to dismiss it all...but really...how can a negative, pessimistic mindset do anyone ANY good? You've got nothing to lose by turning your outlook and expectations around. Instead of "I hope I make $500 by the end of the year", try "I KNOW I will earn all the money that I need by the end of the year." A bad night (or even a bad week) is a fluke, not a new norm or a prediction of future shifts' earnings.

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    I had a MUCH better night tonight and I am good for Christmas presents and rent. Thanks everyone for your support. You ladies are the best!!!!!!!!

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