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    So I've gotten pretty good at random conversations with men and establishing the rapport. I usually ask them if they are from the city, how their week was, any plans for the weekend, ect. My question is, at what point do I pop the question? I used to wait for a pause in the conversation and then asked but then I thought it was a bad idea to ask during the "low" point and I thought it would be better to ask during a high point like after he compliments me or when we are both laughing/smiling. If he pays me a compliment, it's easy, I immediately ask for a dance. But if we are just talking about our weeks and the weather, what is the best way to transition to "would you like to take me up for a dance."?

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    Sometimes I say, "Oh, listen to me, just talking your ear off without even offering you a dance, I'm sorry. Are you ready to go in the back?"
    It works without completely breakng up the vibe of he conversation. If they say no then I will chat for about 30 seconds or so more and then say, "Alright well I'm going to let you spend some time with the other girls, I'll come back around to check on you soon." That way I've excused my self without seeming like I'm all about the money (which guys HATE) and I haven't wasted much time. Plus if I leave on that note, he's more likey to buy a dance from me when he's ready.
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    Thanks Miss_Luscious!!! I love that line and can't wait to use it =o)

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    You don't really need rapport to sell a dance. It's just a dance. Guys buy dances for multiple reasons from girls they don't even necessarily like. If you make a VIP sale based on your personality then in that case I'd sayrapport is important. (I'm not knocking small-talk though...)

    Any time is an okay time to ask the guy for a dance. Don't psych yourself out. You are the one in control. Just remember that. It's probable but not very likely that the guy will say no based on your timing. Ask whenever you want to. It really sounds like you're afraid that he will say no. No one will be able to give you an exact science to always hearing yes. If it existed in sales, everyone would be banking all the time. Just go about hustling and don't consider someone's "no" a mistake on your part. Every sales-person's work day is peppered with no's. So just ask away.

    I interrupt guys sometimes if they don't shut the f up and I propose a dance. Even if they say no, at least I'm not wasting my time (which is $$$). Everyone is different, but this stripper here prefers to propose a dance during the last 30 seconds of a song (for the next one coming on).
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    I like to build rapport too, i can spend even 10 or 15 min. (if i have a good feeling) and usually this gets multiple dances vs if I would have asked too soon and would have only got one dance. If a guy has money to spend you will more likey get most of it if you treat him like someone you like and are interested in , rather than just trying to get the dance. I notice most conversations I have the guy usually asks me to dance for him, i let him bring it up and I know I have him hooked. My rule is to be the one talking most of the time, I don't ask alot of questions, I just go on and on about whatever(usually lies to make him think im perfect for him, lol) so at least I am in control of the conversation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NewMoon View Post
    So I've gotten pretty good at random conversations with men and establishing the rapport. I usually ask them if they are from the city, how their week was, any plans for the weekend, ect. My question is, at what point do I pop the question? I used to wait for a pause in the conversation and then asked but then I thought it was a bad idea to ask during the "low" point and I thought it would be better to ask during a high point like after he compliments me or when we are both laughing/smiling. If he pays me a compliment, it's easy, I immediately ask for a dance. But if we are just talking about our weeks and the weather, what is the best way to transition to "would you like to take me up for a dance."?

    In my experience...you shouldn't be having just random conversations. All interaction with a customer from the moment you sit down until the moment you pop the question should be leading up to the question. Building rapport, yes, and also conditioning him to say yes. There is a difference between random conversation to build rapport and conversation to get him ready for a sale.
    For example, you could say something like:
    So how was your week?
    Ohh....really tough? I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds like you need to relax and get destressed, don't you? I know just the way to do that. After a half hour in VIP with me, all your worries will be gone. You'll feel like a new man. Are you ready to go now?

    Or

    Are you here from out of town?
    Oh your here for vacation, I bet your having tons of fun, aren't you?
    Well, I know you haven't had that much fun yet, because you just met me!
    Let me go rock your world and I'll show you the meaning of fun. Let's go to the VIP room.


    Basicially what I'm trying to say is you need to take control of the convrsation, and make sure that you ask questions and guide the conversation in a dircetion thatleads to the question, instead of just havign a random conversation and then popping the question out of the blue.

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    ^^^ VIP sales and lap dance sales are a bit different. VIP does take more conversation and prepping. Lap dance sales... most of the time you can just say, okay it's time for me to get naked, and you're gonna like it.
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