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    Last night a guy came to me and asked for a dance for his friend, while we wait for the song to end we start talking and realized we were both from south america, so started speaking spanish. I give his american friend a dance, and before I left the spanish guy tells me to come back later for another dance (for his buddy) An hour later, spanish guy is sitting with a girl, and I came to tell him it was his last chance to buy his friend another dance coz I was about to leave. The girl gets up an leaves... furious! And goes and complains to the manager. I went to explain to her that I wasn't trying to steal her cutsomer, and she acts like a total B**** , saying that that was the rudest thing anybody has ever done to her coz she doesn't even speak our language. Did I really do something wrong????????

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    If you were talking to him in a language which she didnt understand, then she had no idea you weren't trying to steal him(then she would be right). If you were speaking english and she heard clearly what you said to him then you would be right and there should not have been a problem.

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    I can see why shes upset but I'd say shes over reacting a tad. You were within your rights to go back to the guy as he had asked you to go back and it was a dance for his friend and not him but maybe you should have explained this to the dancer first before speaking to him. The way she sees it is shes sitting with a custy then some other girl comes over and starts hustling him. Next time maybe just drop a quick word to the dancer already seated just to let her know whats happening.



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    I think you were in the wrong asking in Spanish, only because the other girl could not understand you, and I can understand how she jumped to that conclusion. That's me. I probably would have reacted in a similar fashion, getting pissed off.

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    You weren't wrong, but she didn't know what you were saying, for all she knew you were saying "why are you sitting with this stupid bitch? come with me and i'll blow you for 50 bucks?" She over reacted though when you explained it to her.


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    I would have been furious, too. IMO, it's rude to walk up to someone who is talking to another person and start speaking in a foreign language.

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    I think it was rude. Even though he asked you to come back and dance for his friend...you dont know if his friend actually wanted to dance with you. He obviously liked the other girl right then. So to take him away because his friend wanted you to dance for him I think is rude.

    You could have gone up and said..hey your buddy looks busy...why dont YOU come get another dance instead before I go.

    I'm going to go with you were wrong on this one...sorry

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    Unfortunately, if you were speaking in Spanish, you were in the wrong. It is dancer rule #1, don't talk to a guy if another girl is on him. If you were only asking him to buy his friend another dance because he asked you to... well it's OK, but the fact that you were speaking another language that the girl who was on him couldn't understand is wrong and very rude. Were you speaking in Spanish?

    How would you feel if you were sitting on some guys lap and I came up and started talking Polish in his ear. You might have saved yourself if you told her what you were saying, but speaking another language while someone else is with you who doesn't speak it is kind of ignorant in general. You might not have thought about it that way at the time, but just put yourself in her shoes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    I think it was rude. Even though he asked you to come back and dance for his friend...you dont know if his friend actually wanted to dance with you. He obviously liked the other girl right then. So to take him away because his friend wanted you to dance for him I think is rude.

    You could have gone up and said..hey your buddy looks busy...why dont YOU come get another dance instead before I go.

    I'm going to go with you were wrong on this one...sorry
    Cam I think you're misunderstanding. The other girl was sitting with the Spanish guy. The American guy with whom Amazonas danced with earlier was not sitting with anyone. She came to collect on her last dance form the American guy before she went home but she had to go though the Spanish guy because he was the one paying.

    I don't think Amazonas was wrong. I think the other girl probably overreacted. Although if she couldn't understand what was being said, I guess she had a reason to be mad at first. However, after the situation was explained to her, she should have just acted like a grown up and apologized for storming off and telling the manager.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_Luscious View Post
    Cam I think you're misunderstanding. The other girl was sitting with the Spanish guy. The American guy with whom Amazonas danced with earlier was not sitting with anyone. She came to collect on her last dance form the American guy before she went home but she had to go though the Spanish guy because he was the one paying.

    I don't think Amazonas was wrong. I think the other girl probably overreacted. Although if she couldn't understand what was being said, I guess she had a reason to be mad at first. However, after the situation was explained to her, she should have just acted like a grown up and apologized for storming off and telling the manager.
    OK...I did misunderstand.

    Then the problem was you were speaking in Spanish and the girl thought you were trying to hustle the guy she was sitting with. You should have spoken in English so she knew what was going on...or at least explained it to her right away.

    You werent wrong...but it could have been handled better. And once she knew what was going on she should have stopped bitching...if you werent hustling her customer...what the hell was she mad at once she understood what you had said?

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    Thanks for your opinions, it helps me understand what I should and shouldn't do. As you can tell I'm new at this, actually last night was my second shift ever..... I think I learned for next time, but sure that girl was a b**ch. She could have been more reasonable once the situation was explained. I think I made an enemy though

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    IMO, it's always rude to start talking to a custie if he's with another girl. It's okay though, we all make mistakes. Hopefully the other girl will cut you some slack since you're new.
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    ^^^ yup. I dont care if youre speaking in English, Spanish or whatever. Do not come up to a guy Im with. Ever. I dont care if its to give his friend a dance. I dont care if he told you to come back.Thats money Im trying to get and last thing I want is him giving it to you to dance for his friend. I want him to give it to ME to dance for HIM. But Im just a bitch like that...

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    Next time you're sitting with a big spender, see if he will go up to her stage with you, or give you a nice big tip to bring to her. That is, if she isn't already talking smack and trying to create a rivalry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LuckyOne View Post
    You should not approach a customer if another girl is sitting with him.
    And that's why the other girl was still mad after you explained things. It doesn't matter what you said; you shouldn't have been cutting in on a customer that she was sitting with in the first place.

    It's understandable, though, if you're totally new and didn't know better. We all make mistakes. And now you know.

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    Hmm. I guess I have to disagree with a lot of answerers. It's always been my understanding that if a customer specifically asks you to return so he can pay for another dance, you do it. If I was talking to a guy and another dancer came back, and it was clear this was a prior agreement they had made, I wouldn't be pissed. I might be a little suspicious is you were talking in Spanish, but I would hold off on freaking out.

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    The only reason I ever interrupt a guy who is with a dancer is if he gave me a significant tip on stage. And I always say exactly, "I don't mean to interrupt, but I just wanted to thank you for tipping me on stage," and then I smile and immediately keep on my way. I've only had one girl crawl up my ass for this and she was just a bitch anyway.

    If you're trying to get any sort of money from the guy a girl is sitting with... too bad, no matter what he told you earlier. Go hustle someone else and wait until he is free. If he walks out the door without you ever having come back to do that dance... well... you'll get used to seeing money walk out the door. It happens because you can't be everywhere at once. Just gotta pick a free target and go for it.
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    I think you were in the wrong, spanish or not. Obviously the spanish point has been made. As for getting the other dance from the American, you could have sat in his lap and asked him if he wanted one, or if he was ready for the dance his friend promised him earlier. Let him be the interrupter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AudreyLeigh View Post
    ^^^ yup. I dont care if youre speaking in English, Spanish or whatever. Do not come up to a guy Im with. Ever. I dont care if its to give his friend a dance. I dont care if he told you to come back.Thats money Im trying to get and last thing I want is him giving it to you to dance for his friend. I want him to give it to ME to dance for HIM. But Im just a bitch like that...
    I totally agree!

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