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    Yea, so meeting my bf's family on x-mas eve... first time ever... they don't know what I do and he doesn't want to lie to his family!!!!! He wants to tell them that I stripped my way through college. He thinks that since I'm in between college and a "real" job, that this is okay. I am so not okay with this. What to do? Part of me is like, okay, I'm just not going to meet them until I get my internship and then I can use THAT as my "job". So yea, that would basically be, "Fine, then I'm not going", which seems really really lame. I can't even begin to think of a way to water it down enough to make the story okay. He said that they would be happy that he was bringing ANYONE at all... somehow, I think he is mistaken. Remember, I've never met any of these people.
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    Gosh! If you are not stripping now there is no good reason to tell them of your stripper past. Even if you are stripping now. If you have another job or any good excuse that explains what you do with your time, I'd go with anything else. This is the first time they are meeting you. It'd be better to let them get to know you as a person and think of you a as a "nice girl" vs first impression is STRIPPER and they'll never see past whatever stereotype that word conjures up.

    I agree I think your bf is mistaken, I'd keep quiet until you feel them out a bit more. Why rock the boat right away?

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    It's freaking me out! I also work at a peepshow that has an adult bookstore up front... so I'm going to see if he'd be okay with "I work at a bookstore".
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    Yeah see if he'll work with you a little and say that. My bf's parents are fine with my stripping...but they knew me for 2 years before they found out and we were very close. First impressions usually last, and parents can be harsh.


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    I talked to another friend of mine... His opinion is that stripping is *my* story to tell and I should be the one who decides to share it and that it's totally okay to say, "I am not comfortable with (or willing to) share that information". I hope it wouldn't lead to me not being able to go... but I don't want to feel pushed into it, yanno?
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    You're overthinking it. If he's okay with telling the truth, you should be too. He knows his family and obviously doesn't see it as a problem. If they ask you outright what you do, say, "I work in a night club." And leave it at that, unless they pry for more information.

    Have you considered having your BF talk to them about it first?

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    BTW, the "I work in a night club." Answer worked very well the first time I met Boyfriend's mother. But everyone in the family already knew I was a stripper long before then. It's all worked out fine...in fact, she was over here last night and we were discussing my options for clubs when I return to work!

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    I'm also one of the lucky ones with cool in-laws who have never given me trouble over my job, but yeah, it's your call and he needs to respect that sometimes we just don't want to explain or have the 20 questions conversation about it that so frequently follows.

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    I'd personally divert into other stuff you do--hobbies, classes, pasttimes. Or what you plan to do with your internship and beyond. This is kind of what I do when I'm talking to the Hubby's faculty. Focus on what you do besides stripping and there's no foul, no lying.

    But I think Glam has a point--if he really thinks they'd be fine with it, maybe they are just that cool. He'd know better than anyone. But make sure he actually KNOWS this and is not just projecting his own security onto them!


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    ^That's what I was thinking last night. "Oh, well, he knows them better than I do"... but what if he's wrong?! I mean, he's the coolest bf I've ever had concerning my job... but it's not like he LIKES it... I don't think I could expect any better from people I don't even know. Sure, best case senario is that they are all (his parents, his bro, and his sister in law) totally cool with it. But...

    I also thought that he should just tell them beforehand if he insists on it. But, it's also an issue (to me) that MY parents don't know. What if they met? It's something I planned on my parents never knowing.

    Seriously not appreciating being put in this position right now...

    EDIT: *bell sound goes off in brain* He never said that they'd be okay with it, he only said that he didn't want to lie. Okay, definately not okay with it then.
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    stripping is *my* story to tell and I should be the one who decides to share it
    Exactly.
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