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    My brother is an alcoholic. He is only 23. He's been drinkign very heavily since he was 15 or so...He drinks with my mom, she's alwyas been drinking buddies with him.

    She just called me in a panic..he's been vomiting bright red blood and bleeding out his butt bright red for several weeks.

    He refuses to go to the hospital. he says he knows he is dying and my mom must accept that.

    I don't know what to do. Im stuck across the country. This is partly why I moved...to get away from them and their many, many alcoholic abusive ways....but he's still my family. My only sibling. I love him...I can't hel phim tho, but I don't want him to die. I feel helpless....

    Gah. Issues Issues Issues.

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    Omg, I'm so sorry. He really needs medical attention immediately. If he refuses to go to the ER, maybe you could call an ambulance to his house. It's extreme, but he needs help. Good luck, babe.

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    Get a hold of the mental health facility in their county and say he's mentally ill and committing suicide by binge drinking. There is a chance can be forced into rehab after he's treated for the issue (a probable GI bleed, my idiot alkie brother had one and recovered after drying out for a time.)

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    My mother is to fucking drunk herself to call anyone. She can barely talk to me.
    She won't call cause she thinks he will beather up.

    Fuck this stresses me out

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    You can still look up emergency medical contacts in their area. Look it up online, or call information. It's incredibly sad that neither one of them is willing to do anything, but YOU should.

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    She said he's sleeping off a drunk now, and she can't wake him up....I told her not to even try, just call 911 and tell them he attempted suicide and was vomiting blood and she didn't knwo why, and they could wake him up, thatway he won't hurt her.

    She doesn't want to call. I said fuck woman! wouldn't you feel guilty if your son bled to death cause you wouldn't call 911??

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    You're freaking me out! Call for help!!!

    It boggles my mind that a mother could do just stand by and watch her son do that to himself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PrettyCurlieQ View Post
    You can still look up emergency medical contacts in their area. Look it up online, or call information. It's incredibly sad that neither one of them is willing to do anything, but YOU should.
    I don't know their address to send an ambulance...my mom is drunk and she can barely talk to me herself, I can't understand half of what she's saying, I don't know how I'll be able to get the address out of her.


    I am soo glad I moved away from this drama bbullshit crap...yet I fuckign hate being so far away and having my hands tied. I called my dad and told him the situation, hopefully he will be able to do something.

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    Yikes what an awful situation!
    I'm so sorry you are dealing with this!



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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    I don't know their address to send an ambulance....

    If it's a landline phone, the 911 operator can get the address off of that.

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    ^ I only know her cell.


    well, the 4th time I called her back to see if she called 911 yet....
    She hung up on me because I said why did you call me? Is it really not serious and your just stirring up shit, or do you just not care? There is nothign I can do here, and obviously, you refuse to do anythign, so why did you call me?
    Obviously, you don't care if your son lives or dies or you'd call. SO she hung up on me.
    My dad knows the address and said he would call and send an ambulance up there. she is worthless. How hard is it to call an ambulance for your son?? I don't fucking understand.

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    Kaylinn YOU can call 911. just call the local operator wherever they are.

    They can get her address from her cell number within like 10 minutes.

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    Nothing is gonna happen. Nobody seems to care enough but me. My dad called the hospital, but they said they can't force him if he refuses. I told my dad to lie and say he was suicidal so he gets a 72 hour hold, but my dad refused to do that.

    I just called my mother and told her when my brother dies, don't bother calling me. Nobody cared to do anythign abotu it when they could..there's not much I can do from Las Vegas.... I seriously can't handle the stress if this. My family sucks ass.

    I seriously am concidering just changign my number and completly cutting ties. I can't handle this.

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    Watching a family member self-destruct is really tough. Sometimes no matter what you say, no matter how well meant, no matter how logical your pleas, people are going to do what they are going to do. Sometimes we can only hope that something happens to change their minds before it is too late.

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    Oh honey, I'm so sorry this is happening. Is there another family friend or relative that can come by?

    Sending you the best warm wished in this tough time. The only thing we can do when our loved ones slowly kill themselves is to be there for the chance that they do land on their feet and are ready to learn to walk amongst the living again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Madcap View Post
    Kaylinn YOU can call 911. just call the local operator wherever they are.

    They can get her address from her cell number within like 10 minutes.
    True hun and remember this for the future. My sister died due to drinking most her life and went on a major drinking binge one night, she was sick all night, i never knew, i lived right down the street.

    That next morning i was working the hospital and security told me my sister just came into the ED. She told me she was vomiting all night and had the shakes. She was not cold, but shakey and still dry heaves at this point...she went into heart failure, and died with me in the ED with her about 2 hours later. Cause, she depleted her Magnesium to zero. Heart stopped. I quit the hospital not long after...but i went back to help others.

    PLEASE remember this. Please.

    PS he can't refuse treatment if he is not coherent.
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    ^
    There's noone that cares. My entire family is composed of alcoholic/drug addicted losers.
    ( Edit that was for Kat)

    My 32 year old cousin just died last year in a motorcycle accident, but as a by product of being a crackhead. The sadedst part of that was..he was the only person in my family that knew he had a problem, admitted to it and desperatl wanted help, and tried many many tmes to get help...the addiction was just to big for him, and eh couldn't get the right help before it was to late....

    my brother...his birthday was just last week. He's so young, he has a chance to turn around befoe it's to late...if only he will take it. This kills me to watch my brother do this to himself....I hardened myself to my mothers self destruct years ago, becaus it was to painful for me to watch....it hurt me a lot back then, but I got over it and it doesn't bothere me anymore so much...but now my brother is gonna do the same thing...The stupid bitch ruined him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pamela View Post
    True hun and remember this for the future. My sister died due to drinking most her life and went on a major drinking binge one night, she was sick all night, i never knew, i lived right down the street.

    That next morning i was working the hospital and security told me my sister just came into the ED. She told me she was vomiting all night and had the shakes. She was not cold, but shakey and still dry heaves at this point...she went into heart failure, and died with me in the ED with her about 2 hours later. Cause, she depleted her Magnesium to zero. Heart stopped. I quit the hospital not long after...but i went back to help others.

    PLEASE remember this. Please.

    PS he can't refuse treatment if he is not coherent.
    I don't have an adderss, all I have is her cell phone, which is not connected to that address where they stay right now. The cell is in a different name. I don't know who's just some guy. I don't have enough details. There's really nothign I can do. Just wash my hands of it.

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    Oh man, that's tough. I'm so sorry you're dealing with that.

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    Oh hun i will pray for you to be strong, and your brother to come out of this.

    I know the feeling soooo much. I was there, my sister depended on me to talk for her and i let her down, i felt like i should have done more.

    But later we understand, it's their choice. It's not ours. It's a disease that affects all of us, but puts no blame on us.

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    I saw an episode of intervention once and once the woman was passed out and unable to wake up thats when they could take her to the hospital. Since she was passed out she couldn't refuse medical help. It was an alcoholic intervention too. If he's passed out and can't deny help there is a chance the ambulance can still take him to the hospital.

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    Kaylinn, like everyone said YOU call and explain the situation. If the paramedics go in and see what is happening they WILL take him. They can not legally leave somebody who is in need of medical help.

    Not to be a cunt but your dad obviously didn't explain the situation very well. YOU can call and explian it or at least have the COPS go out there.

    I know it's stressful but this is your family and YOURE the only one who is going to take care of it so I suggest YOU pick up the phone and call the police department and explain the situation.
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    Kay, if you have the number they can find the cell by satellite. Most cell phones have GPS.

    If all you have is mom's cell, she's a retard, brother's a retard, no house phone, no address... it sounds like ties are already cut. Kaylinn, you are your own woman. You do what they can't, LIVE. And you do it on your own. be proud of yourself. Most people from that kind of upbringing self destruct.

    In your position, what i know of it, what i would do is call my mom and tell her i want an address. No ifs, ands, or buts, you don't give me an address i'm not your daughter. If she's remotely homo sapient, she'll give you one. Kay, you can live without these people (You've proven that) but you shouldn't have to. If they won't let you in, though, what can you do? If you don't have a mailing address, a landline phone number, all you have is a cell phone in someone else's name... What else can be said?

    Sorry you have to deal with this, but there's a point when the world's problems become the world's problems and not YOUR problems. It is good that you care about your brother, though.

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    Oh wow. I'm really sorry to hear about your situation, wish I had good advice to give but anything I could say would just sound like a repeat to you. My family also has drug/booze issues. Most close members of my family OD'd, and the few that are alive quit cold turkey. I hope your brother gets the help he needs, I hope that he'll actually want the help or else it's really no good. Take care hun, keep us updated.
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    I believe PA has it's own version of the Fl Baker Act where someone can be committed against his or her will to a hospital or rehab for 72 hours of evaluation. esp if they are deemed a threat to themslves or others, which..bleeding out of several orifices definatley qualifies as.

    Call the local cops and have them go check on him. Tell them he is suicidal and an alcoholic and your mother refuses to help. They HAVE to go check on him. You can hopefully start the process(or the cops could possibly do it themselves) to commit him to be evaluated.

    And yes, if the cell phone is turned on they can trace the signal. Just on..they dont have to be speaking on it.

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