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    Does this sound to desperate or anything??? I really do value the opinions of the ladies ( ok some of the guys too) of this forum! I posted this on a dating site and am just wondering how it sounds, Thanks for any feed back!

    I need a strong emotional connection.

    I need someone who accepts me at my worst.

    I need someone with financial stability.

    I need someone with a heart.

    I need someone full of kindness.

    I need someone full of compassion.

    And on top of all that I need someone full of loyalty.

    Only then can I reach the point where I can say, while looking at the ring on my finger, "It's not that my partner is perfect; it's that she's perfect for me."
    "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

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    Honestly, it sounds needy. What do you have to offer?

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    It sounds great except for the financial stability part. That sounds like you are wanting a woman to support you financially. Any questions as to her ability to handle money can be answered quickly on the first date by a couple of well placed questions on the topic.

    I don't mean that you should each show up on your first date with current credit reports or anything, but you can tell if a person has financial stability in her life by asking questions about how she feels about the stock market/ housing market/ availability of social security in the future/ bank fees/ rich people etc.

    You asked...


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    Honestly, I think it sounds needy and desperate. Specially the finance part

    IMO erase that whole thing and talk about yourself instead.

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    I was wondering about that part too but I have read lots of womens profiles and they say a little something about wanting financial stability. I don't mean that I want someone well off just someone who can handle their bills and money. How should I word it?

    Honestly, I have all those things to offer. I'm by no means rich or well off but I'm paid up on everything and have money to go out on or what not. I guess what I ment was I don't want a mooch but tried to be as nice as I could be about it. I have a woman very intersted in me but she cant keep her financial things up to date or in order and I can't be the fix it guy in that dept.
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    What if it said want insted of need??
    "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

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    I would drop the word need and put in want or would love to meet.
    Drop the word strong in emotional connection.
    A woman who is financially secure is great.

    Put up about you, and what you want in a woman. like "I am an honest man and would love the same in a partner" Words like that.

    Good luck.

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    Beat me to it....but you got it!!!!

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    I have an ad on Pamla08 Check it out. It works but i don't fuck around.

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    So more like this.........and I have described my self on there and what not, this was just something I added

    What I want....


    I want someone who accepts me at my worst.

    I want someone with a heart.

    I want someone full of kindness.

    I want someone full of compassion.

    And on top of all that I want someone full of loyalty.

    Only then can I reach the point where I can say, while looking at the ring on my finger, "It's not that my partner is perfect; it's that she's perfect for me."
    "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

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    I like it
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    maybe say something about meeting your equal? You want a strong woman since you are a strong man.

    Then list your attributes in resume fashion:

    *I long for strong emotional connection with a life partner.

    *we all have flaws, I'm happy to put up with yours if you'll put up with mine, too.

    *I am financially stable. I'd like to meet a woman who is control of her own money, too.

    *I have a big heart.

    *I am full of kindness.

    *I am full of compassion.

    *And on top of all that I am full of loyalty.


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    Yea your heading down the right path, be you and say what you honestly want...Gosh i just checked out my profile....i sound like a bitch. But i met alot of nice friends on that site. Wish you luck. It's tough.

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    It sounds much better with the word want, but you still need to work on selling yourself.

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    How about substituting the word want / need for "I am looking for"?
    To be honest it sounds like youve been hurt and still have some emotional pain to deal with which may or may not be related to a past relationship. If that applies, it may pay to have a big think about that and work on it somehow. (And you know the theory about like attracting like...) Either way maybe its worth writing something with a touch more detail. I understand the financial stability thing, but some people might read it the wrong way for instance (-:

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    maybe say something about meeting your equal? You want a strong woman since you are a strong man.

    Then list your attributes in resume fashion:

    *I long for strong emotional connection with a life partner.

    *we all have flaws, I'm happy to put up with yours if you'll put up with mine, too.

    *I am financially stable. I'd like to meet a woman who is control of her own money, too.

    *I have a big heart.

    *I am full of kindness.

    *I am full of compassion.

    *And on top of all that I am full of loyalty.
    I like this one. In the first one you wrote you sound really vunerable, this version sounds much stronger.



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    Quote Originally Posted by big_daddy View Post
    I want someone who accepts me at my worst.

    I want someone with a heart.

    I want someone full of kindness.

    I want someone full of compassion.

    And on top of all that I want someone full of loyalty.
    Pretty much every man wants all those things in a woman, and pretty much every woman thinks she has all those things when the right guy is there. This doesn't convey any useful information, in my opinion. I'd be more interested in what makes you unique, what you bring to the table, and what kind of woman flips your switch. Just something more original and thoughtful, I guess.

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    Thank you ladies, I'm useing all the info and writing some new stuff. Thanks again!!
    "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

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    Good luck!

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    Hope he does well. It's more tough for a guy on a dating site imo.

    He's got a great attitude

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    Yha, who doesn't want someone kind and loyal ect. I like Paris' one the best so far.

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    I am using it right now. I know what my set backs are and I'm working on it but it's going to take a while to "fix" them. I believe I have tons to offer, and it is hard for a guy these days.
    "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

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    Obligatory guy's take:

    OP: Yeah, all that stuff seems pretty standard as to what most people want. Yek's on the button, here.

    Funny enough, I find it a major pet peeve when people are too ambiguous when describing themselves in personals. Two things that always stick out are: "I like to have fun" or "I like to laugh." I mean, damn... that should be up there with things that are constant like death and taxes! What makes you laugh? Seeing people be clumsy? Sharp-tongued wit? Irony?... What is fun to you? Activities are good to know... You get the point.

    Think of random-ass scenarios that would prove (or have proven) your compatibility/devotion to a gal (gonna' lay down your jacket over a puddle and stuff? Recall that one time you went out of your way to make a gal feel special? Oh yeah, milk it.)... or vice versa (think of extraordinary things a gal has done for you). You can be as light-hearted (or semi-serious) as you want, but by giving examples, it paints a more complete picture, IMO. It's what makes you... you.

    As far as wording... Less "I". Gives the connotation of "me first, gimme gimme". "We, not me" as they say in those adidas ads. Even flip it to make it all about the reader, with something like: "If you appreciate someone who will..." (and fire off a handful of scenarios that would paint your personality) ~ and you can fluff the rest.

    G'luck man!


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    "I need someone full of loyalty" is an interesting request from someone who is so fond of strippers and strip clubs.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Pamela View Post
    Hope he does well. It's more tough for a guy on a dating site imo
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