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    Okay, GoldCoastGirl was right - I was a workaholic. I need to find a way to balance pleasure and work instead of working purely because I feel the need/pressure/love to.

    I have lost a few friends because of my addictions to work recently; I was going so far as to take far away work events when I knew it wasn't worth the money ($60 two hour waitressing shifts when petrol there and back + tolls costs $35 and 1.5 EACH WAY hours driving! No way - no more!).

    For the New Year I have quit all pub shifts; I will only do private waitressing now (I am SO good at upgrading private parties, so I still do those). I am trying to make appointments with friends so I can't work Thursdays (it will be our 'gym day' so we can hang out, gossip, work out and have a day I can be with someone other than a coworker!).

    I just feel like I'm shooting myself in the foot though. Like, I know those pub shifts were definitely hurting my money more than making it (I swear the damage on my car cost more than I was making each trip!)... but cutting out Thursdays? Setting a stricter 'only work Friday and Saturday shows and weekday private waitressing' seems a bit...much. I always said to myself 'you're not going to get the work if you don't put in the hours'...but I think I need to learn I'm -okay- 'only' making $1500 a week (my slowest weeks, where I'm usually relaxed and happy and have plenty of free time).. that the world WON'T end if I deny a shift or stop working ONE day a week to have to myself.

    It's hard. All the girls on here say 'work your ass off because you won't have it forever' and lord knows I really do honestly love this job...but I'm losing myself and my dignity in some aspects of it.

    Maybe this is my New Years resolution? Find a happy medium? I dunno.

    I will still accept far away shifts and do those 'omgpleasehelp' favours for my boss (can't deny it, I get thrilled when she calls me a 'legend' for being there for her)... learn to say no and that it ISN'T the end of the world and, hey, if I only get five cheap shows a week, that's still little over a thousand dollars in my pocket and only about ten hours out of my week.

    So the world won't end...right? Right?

    I'm not insane wanting to stop an addiction to earning money...right? I work hard but I relax/play hard, too...

    I dunno; this thread isn't just about me, either. I know some girls here have the same problem; but probably don't see it as a problem! Maybe we can all tell eachother we're not nuts and that it's okay to miss a night of work and relax?

    (Hah, opposite job most strippers, hm?)


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    I am nuts, aren't I? I'm not burnt out... I'm just losing so many luxuries in life. No time for friends, no time for myself... I love my job and still do it just as well as day one... so I shouldn't stop, right?

    I mean, a work addiction isn't SO bad, right?

    Man I feel AWFUL because I know so many girls on here would rather be me than the 'afraid to go into work' types....

    I'm sorry.


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    I am addicted to work and saving money. I play hard, too, so I try not to feel so bad about it. I just had a convo about this topic with a friend. I can work and work, 6 days a week, as long as I have something to look forward too. This summer I was looking forward to Europe for the past Fall. Now I am looking forward to Aus. and Japan for the Spring. I am deff. of thr philosophy that we have to make it while we can as strippers, but i started much later than you (at 27ish).

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    Its a Cancarian trait isnt it to work, work, work? If my ex lover is anything to go by youll just never stop to rest until your body starts giving out :-P
    Happy new year btw! (-:

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    Hahaha... I should've known better than to try giving up working on a board filled with people who work with me.

    Hahahahaha


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    i have fridays off. i try to work 6 nights a week, but usually, do 5, or go home early one of the nights. you need to have one night to yourself, i usually spend my nights off having a lush bath with my So and share a bottle of wine.

    once you get into a pattern of relaxing every now and then youll love it, and your mind and body will love you for it, so when you do work you have more energy!

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    I so love you Lysondra! Yay! You've established boundaries!

    There is nothing wrong with loving what you are doing for "work"! I'm not against that and encourage it... just that you didn't have any boundaries... thus other people did and could suffer due to it. That's all you need is one day a week you devote to YOU and all about YOU and wanting to do what YOU want to do.

    Plus you do need to learn the value of saying NO especially with bookings that are NOT worth it (as you are running a business and need to take care of your profit margins).

    Your relationships with people outside of work and your non-work life was suffering and that is why I was concerned. You were becoming one of those people who had no interests outside of work and working thus, in a way, you were loosing out on life IMO. (emphasis on becoming...)

    Having that one day a week devoted to you will be to your benefit in the long term. Take it from me... Sunday is my usual "me" day each and every week.


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    Heh... how bad is it I was offered work the morning I was supposed to see you and I almost took it? That's when I realized it was pretty bad. Here I promised to go out with you weeks in advance and I almost cancel it for a few dollars? Plus I really wanted to see you. Boo.


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    Im a workaholic... I work all the time not because I have to but because its the only thing I have.

    I know this fact... my agents even say I am. I can't stop though.... I've managed to squeeze a tiny bit of a social life between shifts n stuff but yea umm... yea...

    Good for you for working on getting control of it though. I wish I had your control.

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    See, I knew you'd understand. You know it actually can be pretty bad... you just take every shift they give you, every show, every job... and then you have nothing else. Hahaha, this is probably more of a showgirl problem than a stripper problem. A regular club girl could work 20 shifts in a row but nobody would call her a workaholic. Heh.


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    LoL no shit Lysondra.

    I can't understand this... I work 6 days a week noon till 1 or 2am... I take Sunday off...people tell me I work too much....

    Yet if a regular lap dance girl worked 6 nights a week no one would think twice.

    Odd isn't it? LoL

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    I think the difference is because we're 'given' the shifts, we don't make them ourselves.. so it's like the regular house girl can stop anytime.. whereas we base our work on not making the agents unhappy.

    But I'd think the former would be worse; because they could stop anytime but don't.

    Weird.


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    Personally I think both are as bad as each other if the other girl is working because she doesn't have anything else to do except work.... it doesn't matter whether you are a feature, showgirl, house girl, club girl, private party dancer... whatever.

    The fact that you value working (your work relationships) over forming and keeping relationships with non-work people and not establishing boundaries so you can "get a life" outside of work is the point.

    Plus there is a huge difference between someone becoming a workaholic for a week to a month compared to someone who does it year round. One situation is temporary, the other is not.

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    Heh... how bad is it I was offered work the morning I was supposed to see you and I almost took it? That's when I realized it was pretty bad. Here I promised to go out with you weeks in advance and I almost cancel it for a few dollars? Plus I really wanted to see you. Boo.
    I would've been very sad if you had backed out on me for work as then that makes you UNRELIABLE to me. You may be reliable to your "boss" however UNRELIABLE to those who you call "friend".

    Plus.. c'mon.. that was a great day out. I know we both spent a shitload of money however I enjoyed having you along my dear. I really did. It was great.

    I could've done it by myself except having you there made it more fun and enjoyable


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    I had a great time! It was totally worth it. <3

    But omg, I've already seriously LOST my new shoes I bought that day. Like.. I took em off to paint my nails and...no shoes! wtf? How do I lose a $400 pair of shoes?


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    I'm a cancer, too.

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    ^...*giggles*


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    I though this first quote was cute (-:

    * when older, Cancerian children seek any kind of job to earn money and save it


    Can be enterprising and will work from sun up to sun down, the Cancerian will run not walk.


    Not very helpful though huh? :-D

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    Haha; I accepted two shifts today. I had nothing better to do, why not make $500...damnit, I just can't say no! Heehee. Oh well, I used that money toward good!!... to buy more boots and costumes...for work. Oh my!

    Thanks Qwerty; now I know my need to work is just wired in me.


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    In my next life maybe Ill come back as a Cancerian to make up for my Libran lazyness in this one
    Honestly, I wish I had your drive sometimes! I only get it every so often and in this job its way too easy to take it easy if you just feel like it.

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    No blaming being lazy on being a Libra.... cuz im a Libra too

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    I wish I had some of your problem. I'm lazy
    Sexy Jasmine after getting fucked over at work:

    God loves strippers and when guys do things like that its an automatic ticket to HELL!


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    I'm not lazy, just my priorities have changed thanks to what has happened to me in 2007. I'm always trying to devote time to working on some long term income projects thus I want to work smarter not harder


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    To be honest cally, there are times when Ive just worked, worked and worked and not wanted to stop when Ive had to - it just wore off thats all
    I wanna see your palms now though! Mine are "Libra positive" and my general observation is that we tend to be the more procrastinated types and often dont have any idea what direction life is going to go, where as "Libran negitives" tend to work harder, have a clearer direction in life. (The negitive and positive things dont mean one is better or worse than the other, theyre just different traits.) Tell me, cos Im feeling curious now, do you have 3 main lines on your hand or 4?


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    No blaming being lazy on being a Libra.... cuz im a Libra too

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