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    Do you guys ever get tired of having to be someone completely different at work? I mean I'm very good at my job, I have a nice number of regulars, I rarely have trouble at my club.... I hate being fake whether it be to myself or other people. I feel like I'm almost leading a double life. At work, I'm A****, and at home I'm Lucki. The two are so different. I used to have no problem separating the two, but now I'm just getting so tired of having to put on a "persona" at the club. I can't make real friends at work because I'm not my real self at work, so they get to know my "stripper self".

    I guess I'm not really asking for much advice really, it's just a rant. I wanted to see if any of you could relate. This job is getting to be a royal pain in the ass. I'm 22 and I want to be DONE by 25. I want to get in school so bad in 2008....That's my New Years resolution.

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    See it can work both ways. I am pretty much the same personality-wise and it has backfired on me for "being too real". So that sucks.

    But I can understand you getting frustrated. Look at the long term goals you have. Just put your mind to that and smile all the way to the bank.

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    My stripper self is just me amplified by 100. I've never been good at faking anything, but I sometimes wish I could. Don't get me wrong, I don't really let custies and other dancers know the real me, but I don't go out of my way to lie and make myself out to be someone else entirely.

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    I'm with everyone else. Stripper Vanessa aka Vanessa Stacy is just select portions of me that I have amplified. It isn't the real me by a long shot yet just one of the many faces I wear in life. It isn't a problem with me as I am still me.... just not the "whole" me plus I do amplify certain personality traits.

    This is why I find it hard at times to leave what is happening with me in my life "at the door". I'm human, not a robot without feelings thus sometimes what IS happening to me outside of the club will and can leak into my stripper/work life.


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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl View Post
    This is why I find it hard at times to leave what is happening with me in my life "at the door". I'm human, not a robot without feelings thus sometimes what IS happening to me outside of the club will and can leak into my stripper/work life.
    this is my biggest problem. i'm dating my manager (yeah, i know. shut up.) so sometimes i like working better on days he isnt there just because it's easier. also, if i was, say, fighting with him or something, but he wasnt working, it would still be on my mind and not like i could just go to work and forget about it for the time being.

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    I agree with the gals above (well, except for the "dating my manager" part! Britt!)...on one hand, yeah it's kind of like being an actress at work. But on the other hand, the best actors are those who channel their own personality into their character. It's me when I'm "on," and I like that me. So it doesn't get me down. Maybe re-examine why you feel uncomfortable with your stage personality--is it someone you really don't like? Or do you not like feeling "obligated" to pretend to be someone else? If that's the case, think about what we're saying--it's NOT necessary to make up a whole new personality to be a happy successful dancer.

    Just my thoughts.


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    I don't get tired of it - my stripper self is a much better person than I am, I wish I could be her every day! Hahaha; she's more fun, she talks a bit slower, has a nicer accent, flirts perfectly and even eats daintily (I always spill on my lap - ALWAYS)... fuck; I think that's probably WHY I like working so much... I just want to spend as much time as I can around LysondraTheStripper, 'cause she's a cool person! I'm not too fond of LysondraTheWoman, she's a bitch..and talks too fast.


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    I don't think I ever get tired of being a completely different person when I'm at work; after all, that's what allows me to make money. Pretending to have a completely different personality (depending on which customer I am talking to) can sometimes be pretty amusing. Also, by having a different persona at work, I find myself feeling more resilient, confident, and sure of myself.

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    if you're changing your persona at work anyway, you could always mix it up a bit! don't always have the same act. keeping it different might help you stop resenting it so much, and maybe you'll end up finding a work personality that you enjoy more than want to rant about.

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    Meh I love Ashley Tyler... shes an outspoken super flirty classy bitch. Shes outgoing loves to have fun and can tease and flirt and make everyone love her but she can also be a super bitch and stand up for herself as needed.

    The real me though... super shy, a total push over and very to myself.

    I spend so much time as Ashley though that I don't get to see the real me very often.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Callyish View Post
    Meh I love Ashley Tyler... shes an outspoken super flirty classy bitch. Shes outgoing loves to have fun and can tease and flirt and make everyone love her but she can also be a super bitch and stand up for herself as needed.

    The real me though... super shy, a total push over and very to myself.

    I spend so much time as Ashley though that I don't get to see the real me very often.
    Hi, are we the same person? I reallysuperhonest need to meet you in person; 'cause we could really get along!...or ignore the shit out of eachother for work and because we're shy,


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    Lysondra its rather funny how alike we are.

    Its odd though cuz Darcy and I are convinced we're twins as well.... I think im meant to be in Australia...

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    Which is weird, because I don't think I'm like Darcy at all. Hahaha... just get yer ass to Australia.


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    This is one of the reasons I got so burned out...I got exausted playing a fake so often. I almost forgot who I was. I am a much much nicer person in my opinion in real life. Im not a money hungry greedy....I dunno. At work. I want money. period. I dont care about your probelsm I dont wanna hear any one complain. I just want the money.
    At home, Im a nice, compassionate, caring loving person.

    But yeah. playing someone IM not..wore me out. it was tiring...

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    Eh, I"m having some issues myself. I've worked on perfecting my stripper self so much, and I've forgotten what my real self was and don't talk to or interact with many people outside of work that will remind me of the original me.

    Not entirely the same issue... but still as complicated because I'm paid to be a personality. I feel like an empty stripper robot at home that gets reanimated when I walk through the back doors to the dressing room.
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    Through necessity I have several 'identities' - obviously not as a stripper, but in my work, political and private lives. There are many reasons why someone should wish to keep separate different aspects of their lives, and many ways in which this works on the outside but can be confusing on the inside.

    I tend to assume the different identities according to where I am as much as what I am doing. When attending a political function I have one face, when sitting in my work room - which is completely different to the political work area - another. My surroundings make the changes easier, and make it possible for me to completely separate all the identities I require.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LuckiCharm View Post
    Do you guys ever get tired of having to be someone completely different at work? I mean I'm very good at my job, I have a nice number of regulars, I rarely have trouble at my club.... I hate being fake whether it be to myself or other people. I feel like I'm almost leading a double life. At work, I'm A****, and at home I'm Lucki. The two are so different. I used to have no problem separating the two, but now I'm just getting so tired of having to put on a "persona" at the club. I can't make real friends at work because I'm not my real self at work, so they get to know my "stripper self".

    I guess I'm not really asking for much advice really, it's just a rant. I wanted to see if any of you could relate. This job is getting to be a royal pain in the ass. I'm 22 and I want to be DONE by 25. I want to get in school so bad in 2008....That's my New Years resolution.
    I can totally relate to this. I've only just gone back to working full time but I don't know how long it will last as I find the whole 2 personas thing really hard. My work persona has a completely different life from me. Shes from a different place, has a different job, has a brother, (I'm an only child,) has lived different places from me. I know it sounds like a lot of bother for nothing but I don't like guys knowing too much about me. I don't change the info, I have a very strong idea of the specifics of my stripper self so I never get confused. You probs are wondering why I tell so much lie and its mostly to relate to people. If a guy tells me he's from London/Birmingham/Aberdeen, I can say, oo I used to live there, where abouts are you from? If he says he likes rugby I can sat, oo my brother plays rugby, what position do you play? I just find it helps me get them on my side a lot faster but the two personas are definately exhausting. If I work too much I just start to feel really fake, like the real me is fighting to get out.



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    It's tough...it really, really is. The biggest problem I ever had as a dancer was not getting tired of being someone else at work, but totally turning into that alternate personality. It was like having two completely different people living inside the same body, and the stripper persona was so much stronger at that time than I thought I was so I let it become me all the time. I'll never forget the day that I crumpled to the floor in my kitchen sobbing and shaking, saying "I can't do this anymore...I don't even know who I am." I quit a few months after that, and it still took another six months after quitting to completely let go of that other personality. It was even longer until I could be a dancer without losing myself. Believe me, I feel your pain hon and I hate that you have to deal with this.
    Stripping was my Mr. Big....the best bad relationship I ever had.

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    I can't even pretend to be somebody else at work, so I just act like myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Passenger View Post
    The biggest problem I ever had as a dancer was not getting tired of being someone else at work, but totally turning into that alternate personality. It was like having two completely different people living inside the same body, and the stripper persona was so much stronger at that time than I thought I was so I let it become me all the time.
    ^^That sounds exactly like me. I like my stripper persona so much more than my real persona. Dancing changed me so much for the better. I used to never be able to stand up for myself or start a conversation with anyone, let alone keep a conversation going... now I'm the life of the party... and don't want to let that part of myself go in my personal life either now that I've learned to access it. I'm not sure what I have to return to when I quit dancing though. It'll be an odd transition for me personally.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    I don't get tired of it - my stripper self is a much better person than I am, I wish I could be her every day! Hahaha; she's more fun, she talks a bit slower, has a nicer accent, flirts perfectly and even eats daintily (I always spill on my lap - ALWAYS)... fuck; I think that's probably WHY I like working so much... I just want to spend as much time as I can around LysondraTheStripper, 'cause she's a cool person! I'm not too fond of LysondraTheWoman, she's a bitch..and talks too fast.
    Oh. I feel ripped off. You didn't spill that Pumpkin Soup on your lap!
    Plus I all accents and the way my friends speak.. it is what makes me like you as such (if that makes sense).

    LysondraTheWoman isn't that bad, from my end. I am the last person to expect her to be perfect as I'm the last person to expect ANYONE to be perfect.

    back to the thread....


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