Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 37

Thread: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

  1. #1
    Veteran Member Sauske's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2005
    Location
    Planet Earth
    Posts
    645
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 6 Times in 4 Posts

    Angry FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    So my boss is a douche- it's my boss's brother but over the past month he has officially taken over the club. anyway he said something condescending to me and I kinda *praised him* sarcastically and he told me to get my coat and leave. Ive been working at that club for 3 years. he told me I wasn't respectful to him or the club.

    my thing is, i'll show respect to you if you show it to me, and he's been nothing but an ass to every staff member and dancer in the club and everybody pretty much hates him.

    was I wrong? should I have just kissed his ass and vented elsewhere? Idunno... Im the type o gal where if something bothers me, ill say something. I will stick up for myself. im so angry.ggrrr

  2. #2
    Veteran Member Sauske's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2005
    Location
    Planet Earth
    Posts
    645
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 6 Times in 4 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    p.s/ I was there until the end of the shift just drinking as a customer and it was making him very...VERY uncomfortable

    (contributes to me posting this)

  3. #3
    God/dess Taylorlila's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2007
    Location
    Somewhere cold
    Posts
    2,175
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 33 Times in 17 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Well I don't know what he said, or what you said so it's hard to say if you were outta line. I'm sorry you got fired though.


    Quote Originally Posted by RoseWhite View Post
    Boner Man, Boner Man,
    Here comes Sweatpant Boner Man,
    Getting some love the only way he can -
    Boner Man.

  4. #4
    God/dess Silverback's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2004
    Location
    On board the Kobayashi Maru
    Posts
    2,387
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Well, there may be a few details missing, so it's a bit hard to tell, but I'm sure you were in the right.
    "He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"

  5. #5
    Veteran Member Sauske's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2005
    Location
    Planet Earth
    Posts
    645
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 6 Times in 4 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    he's just a jerk. always telling me how to do my job and today he said after I went outside to smoke a cigarette break "You are only allowed to have ONE cigarette break the whole evening and when you take it , you come and find ME." I was NOT having that.
    So I asked him if I had permission to use the bathroom and he thought i was completely serious.
    later in the evening (tonight!) he had said something about doing somethig for me and I litterally praised him with both my hands flailing in the air like an idiot.

    i am a bitch, but I am female hear me roar? that sounds so lame..im a little tipsy!

  6. #6
    God/dess Polekitten's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2005
    Location
    Uk
    Posts
    2,222
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Its a tough one coz I'm also the sort of person that doesn't like being talked down to and will always speak my mind if I feel I'm having the piss taken out of me but when working as a dancer you really have to learn to hold your tounge. There's a manager in my club who is really condesending to everyone and is on a constant power trip the way so many other strip club managers are. Last night he gave me a lecture for something that wasn't even my fault, (its a long story, I won't go into it.) Even though I knew I had done nothing wrong I just had to suck it up because I'm all too aware of how fragile your job is as a dancer. If one manager decides he doesn't like you, thats it. I was so mad and had to hold it all in till I got home and vented it all on m bf, (poor guy.) I really feel for ya hon, so sorry you lost your job. Is there any chance you could call one of the other managers and appeal for your job back?



    "I don't take a piss without getting paid for it." - Harlan Ellison

    Life is movement, movement is life.
    To live is to move, to move is to be alive.
    - Mirka Knaster


    Quote Originally Posted by pixierocksonthepole View Post
    "tampons are proof that God exsists."

  7. #7
    Veteran Member kitty69's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2007
    Location
    U.K
    Posts
    529
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 4 Times in 2 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    I know it sounds naive, but I was under the impression that dancers pay the club to dance there and that happy dancers made more money. So doesn't that mean happy dancers = more money for the club? amazes me that loadsa managers haven't caught on yet.

  8. #8
    God/dess Deogol's Avatar
    Joined
    Dec 2003
    Posts
    5,493
    Thanks
    120
    Thanked 50 Times in 35 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Respect or employment - which is more valuable?

    Many people in many types of jobs know the meaning of "smile and nod" with a good dose of "Sorry sir it won't happen again."

  9. #9
    God/dess Deogol's Avatar
    Joined
    Dec 2003
    Posts
    5,493
    Thanks
    120
    Thanked 50 Times in 35 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Quote Originally Posted by kitty69 View Post
    I know it sounds naive, but I was under the impression that dancers pay the club to dance there and that happy dancers made more money. So doesn't that mean happy dancers = more money for the club? amazes me that loadsa managers haven't caught on yet.
    When someone finally gets the guts to hire a lawyer for "breach of contract..."

  10. #10
    cameron_keys
    Guest

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Quote Originally Posted by Deogol View Post
    Respect or employment - which is more valuable?

    Many people in many types of jobs know the meaning of "smile and nod" with a good dose of "Sorry sir it won't happen again."
    Not in stripper land where "fired" means you cant work til Tues.

    Or theres 101 other clubs around.

    Respect means more. We get enough disrespect from custies..not ONE of us should smile and nod while we are being disrespected by staff as well

  11. #11
    Curious Guest
    Joined
    Jan 2008
    Posts
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Quote Originally Posted by Deogol View Post
    Respect or employment - which is more valuable?

    Many people in many types of jobs know the meaning of "smile and nod" with a good dose of "Sorry sir it won't happen again."
    This is the difference between principle and preference.

    If respect is a principle part of your character, than no manager like that will ever be compatible. If respect is a preference, you'll make a good lap dog for this guy to abuse.

  12. #12
    AudreyLeigh
    Guest

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Quote Originally Posted by kitty69 View Post
    I know it sounds naive, but I was under the impression that dancers pay the club to dance there and that happy dancers made more money. So doesn't that mean happy dancers = more money for the club? amazes me that loadsa managers haven't caught on yet.
    Honestly. Yea, it IS nieve to think that. Kidding. I mean theyre powertrip assholes. You are easily replacable in their eyes so they dont care. And, because you are independant - they can tell you not to come back. They dont want to let you rent their space to do your business anymore.

  13. #13
    AudreyLeigh
    Guest

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    Not in stripper land where "fired" means you cant work til Tues.
    LOL. soooooooo true. Or just go somewhere else.

  14. #14
    Veteran Member kitty69's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2007
    Location
    U.K
    Posts
    529
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 4 Times in 2 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    I did get that some managers are dicks I just don't get why if they have got good dancers who earn THEM money why they wouldn't look after them a little better.

    Thanks Audreyleigh is the first time I have ever been quoted in a post makes me feel like I belong

  15. #15
    God/dess Bella21's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2003
    Location
    SoCal
    Posts
    7,772
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked 40 Times in 35 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    There's a guy at a club I work with who I currently don't get a long with. He hasn't done anything specific... he's just a douchebag. Like, getting paid to work at a strip club for minimum wage makes you better than me? Well, when you're so low on the foodchain already, there are only so many people left to pick on.
    If you think school is hard, try being stupid.

  16. #16
    AudreyLeigh
    Guest

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Quote Originally Posted by kitty69 View Post
    I did get that some managers are dicks I just don't get why if they have got good dancers who earn THEM money why they wouldn't look after them a little better.

    Thanks Audreyleigh is the first time I have ever been quoted in a post makes me feel like I belong

    LOL.. funny. Well, its because theyre douchebags who think their holier than thou because were 'just' strippers. Im so glad I have great management and owners at my current and last club...

  17. #17
    Pamela
    Guest

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Quote Originally Posted by Deogol View Post
    Respect or employment - which is more valuable?

    Many people in many types of jobs know the meaning of "smile and nod" with a good dose of "Sorry sir it won't happen again."
    Respect! Fuck their employment. There are other clubs, no one deserves to be treated without respect, especialy when you make the club money!

    She was there for THREE years, yea she deserves respect for all the $$$$ she made the fuckin club.

    Screw the rules that get made up as owners go along...that breaks the hustle of a good dancer.

    His loss.

  18. #18
    Featured Member red red red's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2005
    Location
    Philadelphia
    Posts
    923
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    I often think that one of the hardest things about this job is dredging up enough respect for the management that they leave you the fuck alone. These guys rule with fear because most of them aren't very smart. If they think that you are in some way undermining them, it's easier to get rid of you than to deal with 30 girls who see your example and follow it.

    I think this is just one of the sad realities you either deal with or don't. And it blows, but it's yet another reason why we make such good money...
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

  19. #19
    cameron_keys
    Guest

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Actually..no matter how much of a dick a manager is...I've found they are just bullies. Once they know you wont take their shit, they move on to a weaker member of the herd.

    make friends with ONE manager or better...the owner. Then you have a backup. I've known the owners of my club for years...and I'm one of the ones favs. Plus the other owes me a favor. A HUGE one. So my job is safe no matter what pretty much.

  20. #20
    God/dess Jenny's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2002
    Posts
    9,746
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 50 Times in 31 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Quote Originally Posted by red red red View Post
    I often think that one of the hardest things about this job is dredging up enough respect for the management that they leave you the fuck alone. These guys rule with fear because most of them aren't very smart. If they think that you are in some way undermining them, it's easier to get rid of you than to deal with 30 girls who see your example and follow it.

    I think this is just one of the sad realities you either deal with or don't. And it blows, but it's yet another reason why we make such good money...
    Yeah... the sad fact is that women get into this business for a variety of reasons... men are in this business because they are retarded douchebags who can't get real jobs. (No offence to those exceptions on this board - you are well aware that a smart and reasonable DJ, manager etc. is a far rarer breed than a smart and reasonable dancer). Their interest is, first and foremost, exercising authority over women. Everything else - including money - is secondary.
    I have taught that the sky in all its zones is mortal and its substance was formed by a process of birth

  21. #21
    Pamela
    Guest

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    I admit...right off the bat i made friends with the people who mattered, the staff and owner. Pure Platinum in Lauderdale. MR. Carter was a doll, he owns the club and M. ran it pretty much. You get in good with them by way of keeping shifts and just say hello to them you are on your way to a great start.

    I have seen some ladies up my way dancing treated like shit. I am surprised they did not walk out the door. Called off stage in the middle of a song....that blows.

    We need more MR. Carters in the biz.

  22. #22
    sun child
    Guest

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Quote Originally Posted by Deogol View Post
    Respect or employment - which is more valuable?

    Many people in many types of jobs know the meaning of "smile and nod" with a good dose of "Sorry sir it won't happen again."
    Yeah, and there are a lot of people working in developing countries for pennies a day, too. There are a lot of Americans who hate their lives and their jobs because they have to deal with insane superiors. Fuck that. I strip so I don't have to be obsequious to my "boss" — especially when said "boss" does not provide me with any job security, health benefits, or unemployment. Oh, not to mention that there's not really room for "advancement" in our profession either, unless it's to get the better shifts. In that case, a little extra friendliness might not hurt, but there's no reason to put up with shit. I will certainly apologize if I'm in the wrong, but the manager in question fired the OP for making a sarcastic comment. It's gonna be a cold day in hell when I call my strip club manager sir. We are independent contractors and if she has worked there for 3 years she has made the club tens of thousands of dollars. It's already enough that we should have to pay to work there and they take cuts of our dances and VIP rooms. Just because everyone else in the workforce has to "smile and nod" doesn't mean that we should have to bow down to doucherockets. (Jenny made a great point.)
    Last edited by sun child; 01-07-2008 at 12:14 PM.

  23. #23
    Veteran Member Sauske's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2005
    Location
    Planet Earth
    Posts
    645
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 6 Times in 4 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    Thanks everyone. My original boss told me to call him today so I did- he said I could come in in a couple of weeks to apologize to his brother (the guy who fired me) not going to happen. It's time I move on to bigger, better, and more respectful things.

    I appreciate every ones insight and advice, and am happy to know that I made the right choice. I feel so... liberated.

  24. #24
    Senior Member
    Joined
    Dec 2007
    Posts
    125
    Thanks
    4
    Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    The more dancers that stand up to these power trip managers with their overinflated egos and refuse to put up with their disrespect, the less power they will have to push the girls in the clubs around.
    These guys have this attitude partly because their are some dancers that will all too willingly kiss ass, do favours and lower themselves just to keep their job at a club, which makes them think they deserve to be treated with this false kinglike respect.

  25. #25
    Featured Member AznExtasy's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2006
    Posts
    1,880
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 33 Times in 23 Posts

    Default Re: FIRED for sticking up for myself*venting*

    I tend to avoid the power trip managers and have little to do with them as possible. Then there's less opporitunities to step on each other's toes. I don't kiss anybody's ass but I try to be courteous to avoid conflict.

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. Sticking up for the little man
    By Ranado in forum Customer Conversation
    Replies: 17
    Last Post: 02-13-2005, 06:51 AM
  2. Example of government sticking there nose...
    By Deogol in forum Political Poo
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 12-05-2004, 01:13 PM
  3. Sticking my g-string to me?? Help!
    By in forum Body Business
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 04-01-2003, 06:22 PM
  4. Sticking Around
    By sexyred0020 in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 01-04-2003, 10:27 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •