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    So my mother married this guy. They've been together since I was like 13. He has two brothers. I don't know them very well, but they've been seeing me naked a lot lately.

    They seem kind of embarrassed about it, but they keep coming to the club (very possibly they just don't know when I'm in town). They do make sure to be far from the stage when I'm on it.

    I don't mind in any kind of "omg my uncle! I can't get naked!" kind of way. But it kind of throws my hustle off. Cause I want them to see that I'm doing really really good, and the customers can, like, smell it on me and then they don't want dances. And it came to my attention tonight that one of them is slightly skeevy (you know how they put their hand on their leg so that when you brush up against their leg they just happen to accidentally grab your ass? he was doing that to this girl that was dancing for him).

    Girls, should I just get over it? Or should I say something? Guys, if you were in the club and your step-niece were dancing, would you leave, ignore, or act like you just bumped into her at the grocery store and ask how her cars running?



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    I have no advice, just sympathetic shudders. How uncomfortable.


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    My mom's best friend's husband comes to my club sometimes. It was really weird the first time I saw him. And awkward ever since. I would feel awkward. I would...I don't know. I wouldn't quite ask them to leave...more like completely ignore them. I can't converse with people I really 'know' when I'm in dancer mode. It messes up my hustle.

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    Could you maybe tell your step father to say something to them, or ask them to leave yourself? It's not wrong of you to feel the way you do. I guess it might be creepy if you knew them on a more "family" level but it sounds like your hustle is just getting screwed up because of the awkwardness. If saying something doesn't work or it's not possible, then just pretend they don't exist. That's awful that your money is suffering.

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    oh geez. well, i would tell them that it's "not appropriate for them to be there while i am, and ill be leaving town on *this date*. until then, i'd appreciate it if you stayed away from the club, it makes me uncomfortable and it throws my hustle off 100%."

    but yeah. soooo inappropriate IMO. crosses boundaries of all sorts i think.

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    I thought this was just a job?

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    it is, but it is also weird to have your family seeing you naked.

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    Oh I'm sorry, umm no advice but big hug.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    So my mother married this guy. They've been together since I was like 13. He has two brothers. I don't know them very well, but they've been seeing me naked a lot lately.

    They seem kind of embarrassed about it, but they keep coming to the club (very possibly they just don't know when I'm in town). They do make sure to be far from the stage when I'm on it.

    I don't mind in any kind of "omg my uncle! I can't get naked!" kind of way. But it kind of throws my hustle off. Cause I want them to see that I'm doing really really good, and the customers can, like, smell it on me and then they don't want dances. And it came to my attention tonight that one of them is slightly skeevy (you know how they put their hand on their leg so that when you brush up against their leg they just happen to accidentally grab your ass? he was doing that to this girl that was dancing for him).

    Girls, should I just get over it? Or should I say something? Guys, if you were in the club and your step-niece were dancing, would you leave, ignore, or act like you just bumped into her at the grocery store and ask how her cars running?
    Lena if you do not have to have any outside contact with the step uncle or the brothers try to not let your hustle go out the door while they are there. Show them this is your job, your good, you enjoy what you do, you make money. And, you enjoy dancing.
    I can only think of how i would behave. And that is how i would do it. If i had to deal with them outside the club, i would kindly call them a pervert and move on. This may make the think when they are watching you up there naked.

    It's their problem, not yours. It's your job. Show them up. As a dancer we learn to get out of many suck ass situations. You can do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deogol View Post
    I thought this was just a job?
    Good Lord Deogol. Do YOU even like dancers?

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    It's hard for me to imagine you dancing in front of family. You must have some strong mental make-up. Having said that, my guess is that asking/telling the uncles to stay away probably wouldn't work and may lead to bad feelings. Are there other clubs in your mother's area where you could dance?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    So my mother married this guy. They've been together since I was like 13. He has two brothers. I don't know them very well, but they've been seeing me naked a lot lately....They seem kind of embarrassed about it, but they keep coming to the club... it kind of throws my hustle off...Guys, if you were in the club and your step-niece were dancing, would you leave, ignore, or act like you just bumped into her at the grocery store and ask how her cars running?
    1) I think they know you're in the club and keep coming out of curiosity. It's kind of a guy thing, but you see a girl and sometimes you wonder what she's like naked. Looks like they've found a way of indulging their curiosity.

    [BTW - does your club have a website with a rota? If it does, they're not in there by accident].

    2) They're acting kind of embarrassed because I suspect your body language is saying "I don't want you around". They're picking up the signals, know they really shouldn't be in there, but still want to come in to watch.

    3) If it's hurting your money,they def should not be in there.

    4) The least these two could do would be to ask *you* how you feel. If you don't want them in there the same nights you're working, then they could come in on other nights.

    Me thinks (1) applies - they want to see you naked. Whether they actually do or not should be up to you.

    Phil.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    Guys, if you were in the club and your step-niece were dancing, would you leave, ignore, or act like you just bumped into her at the grocery store and ask how her cars running?
    I think I'd leave. I much prefer to have dancers whom I do not know at all and never will. But since these guys aren't leaving, they must not feel the same way. I think Phil is right and that they are getting a thrill out of seeing you naked. If there is another club, can you dance there for awhile? Maybe even go out of town and not tell your uncles where you are going?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pamela View Post
    Good Lord Deogol. Do YOU even like dancers?
    Ive been wondering the same thing lately. Or rather, forever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deogol View Post
    I thought this was just a job?
    how would u feel about someone in your family seeing you naked???

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    I think THEY should leave when you are in the club ! They can come to the club anytime and you are there on a limited # of workings days / when you are in the area . This is just uncomfortable . It would throw anyones hussle off. P.S. I love your blog - it's one of my " must reads" !

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    Sorry to hear that happened to you. I make sure nothing like this would ever happen to me, I'm just extra paranoid about never dancing in a town where I have family or people who know me like that. I wouldn't know how to react if it happened.

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    Thanks, Carmen!

    I'm only gonna be here for another day or two, so I'm just ignoring it. Maybe if I come to town again I'll do something.



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    Um...I would actually ask my step dad to say something to them. Not to let them know you ratted, but you know--a subtle hint like " so, I hear you like seeing my little girl naked " Maybe something like that would wierd them out

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    Oh, he knows. My sister said something crude about it. He would never say anything like that. His communication is rather... robotic. I mean, he says "affirmative" instead of yes, and calls my dog a "unit," and he's not being funny.



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