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    Default Anyone else who misses kissing ( and is in a relationship ) ?

    We have been together 4 years ( known each other 5 with a break in the middle ). I am about ready to leave over this ! I've already tried talking to him , making the first move , ect. Has anyone else had this happen? Were you able to fix it? It's as if he has become so used to me that kissing and making out get left out and he just starts grabbing. I'm not turned on at all and we are almost never together physically. He's a good guy with his act together , but I've about had it.

    I think I'm spoiled by an ex who was extremely sensual . ;(

    I think I already know what I've got to do , but just wanted to see if anyone else dealt with this and if it is "fixable". I'm taking a few days to myself to think on this / give him time to miss me . If things don't improve, I think I'm out.

    This seems like a small issue .... but it's to the point where it isn't small to me anymore !

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    Default Re: Anyone else who misses kissing ( and is in a relationship ) ?

    Ugh yeah I've had a guy like that. It really just comes down to him being selfish. Selfish boys just go for what they want and forget to be attentive to your needs. You can try to tell him what you need, and maybe if hes just young and doesn't know better you can train him. In my experience, boys like this have other issues that ride along with thier selfishness and in the end its best just to move on to someone better.

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    Default Re: Anyone else who misses kissing ( and is in a relationship ) ?

    Sort of agreed. The difference to me is, did he start out with foreplay and smoochies and then over time just got in a "get in get off get out" mentality, or was he never big with the smoochies from day 1? The latter could just be inexperience with what he's missing. The former is possibly laziness, probably inconsideration.

    Also, how old is he? Immaturity (aka selfish sex) does fade out over time. Or so I hear.


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    Default Re: Anyone else who misses kissing ( and is in a relationship ) ?

    I've been on the other side of this. When I'm tired of a guy, I have absolutely no desire to kiss him. Sure, I'll fuck him... but I don't want that kind of connection.
    If you think school is hard, try being stupid.

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    Default Re: Anyone else who misses kissing ( and is in a relationship ) ?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bella21 View Post
    I've been on the other side of this. When I'm tired of a guy, I have absolutely no desire to kiss him. Sure, I'll fuck him... but I don't want that kind of connection.
    ^That's true. I do the same thing.

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    Default Re: Anyone else who misses kissing ( and is in a relationship ) ?

    I could have written that post. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 or 6 years now, and we don't kiss or make out. He has never been a kisser. He says he just doesn't like it. In the past year, I've been able to break him in a little more because I need to be kissed, and he will give me smooches, but never ever make out. I miss it yes....but he isn't selfish in bed. He makes up for that in other ways and always makes sure to please me in bed.

    I think it's just what your willing to deal with aand accept. Does his good parts outweight the bad? Does he try to make up for it in other ways?
    Have you explained to him that you need more intimacy? And I agree with SundayMorning who asked if it's always been this way or if things changed. If he used to kiss you but stopped...that's lazines and selfishness. but if he's never done it, maybe he is just like my boyfriend, who just isn't into kissing. BUt if that's the case, he should try very hard to make up for that ioin other areas.

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    Default Re: Anyone else who misses kissing ( and is in a relationship ) ?

    I have the opposite problem. My boy wants to kiss me tons, just always at the most inopportune times. Like when I've got my head in the oven checking if dinner is ready. Or when I'm holding a 10" knife to cut bread for sandwiches. Or when I'm elbow deep in dishwater. Or my favorite - when I was holed up in the bathroom with a towel over my face while I was spraying all kinds of noxious chemicals into the tub to clean out the grime.

    I think it really comes down to, like Kaylinn said, what you are willing and not willing to accept. Also, how much each of you is willing to compromise. If he won't even put in the effort to *try* to kiss you more, then he's not worth your time.

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    Default Re: Anyone else who misses kissing ( and is in a relationship ) ?

    kissing is the most fun you can have clothed! Id miss it so much!

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