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Last edited by TheSexKitten; 10-10-2008 at 08:03 AM.
I would have asked him if he wanted me to leave, instead of just leaving. He might have wanted to spend his money on you. Other than that I don't know what to say, I wouldn't have known what to do either. I had a girl do something similar to me before, but the guy wasn't into her and just thought that made her look uber desperate.





I would've said something like "You don't want me to leave do you?" 99% of the time the guy will say "of course not" and then I could cheerily respond with " Good, because I want you all to myself" I think it's rude when girls interrupt like that.
I hate that shit too, when the dancer makes it seem like they are just innocently stopping by to say hi when really they are trying to make a potential sale right in front of you. Very, very rude.
Girls do this ALL THE TIME at our club.. It's really rude in my opinion.
"I will not be just a tourist in the world of images, just watching images passing by which I cannot live in, make love to, possess as permanent sources of joy and ecstasy. -Anais Nin"
Agreed with Audrey and Taylorlila. And/or ask him directly while she's right there, as kaiarose suggested; also very good advice. Both are direct and clear.
"Before I conceived you, I wanted you. Before you were born, I loved you. Before you were here an hour, I would die for you. This is the miracle of life." -- Maureen Hawkins
"I just can't get over how much babies cry. I really had no idea what I was getting into. To tell you the truth, I thought it would be more like getting a cat." -- Anne Lamott
Definitely you should have asked him for a VIP or table dance after 'rude dancer' left. If he said not now, excuse yourself to 'see if you're ignoring anybody' and promise to come check on him later. If 'rude dancer' was still with him when you came back, pull up a chair and join them...she obviously thinks this kind of behavior is okay, so she will understand when she gets it in return.
Yeah, that was freakin' rude.
The only time I will ever go up to a custie who's talking to another dancer, or has a girl in front of him on stage is if he (or the dancer) calls me over first. And even then, unless it was the dancer who called me over, or he's really seriously not into her (in which case I'm sorry he's being rude to another girl for me, but I'll still take his money), I probably will not stay for more than a minute.
It just feels like common courtesy to me; at least it's how I'd like to be treated.





Question: Why did you excuse yourself before asking him if he wanted a dance?
Look like a woman
Think like a man
Act like a lady
Work like a dog
- My Great Grandmother Bessie's Recipe for Success
If a regular of mine comes in I will always go and say hi, even if hes with another girl but I'll just say hi so that they know I'm there then I'll say, "Ok, I'm gonna go do some work now, I'll see ya later" and leave. I don't think thats particularly rude as I'll always address the other dancer first and I'll leave before I've interfeared with her hustle. I don't mind if my regs sit or dance with other custys as I know I don't own them but I wanna make sure that they know I'm there in case they spend on someone else coz they think its my night off. It sounds to me that this girl crosse the line. If your gonna say hi don't hang around as its just rude. You should have stood your ground or asked the custy if he wanted you to leave first. Thi girl just has bad dancer ettiquette.(sp!)
In the words of a former SWer "That bitch needs an ass whippin!"
Next time, beat her at her own game. As soon as she walked off you should have changed the subject back to you and taken him off for a dance. It is certainly possible that she's danced for him before, but obviously he was interested in you at that moment.
Unless he said he'd rather have her, I would just ignore the other girl and work your own game. And there's no way you should have left him before asking for a dance. You did the warming him up, so he was probably ready to go. Unfortunately you left the scene so he ended up spending his money on someone else.
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