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    So there is this customer. A few weeks ago, he took me and another girl (call her X) to VIP. Well, we kind of thought of him as a regular customer of ours. So, I got his number that day and decided I'd keep in touch with him so I could be there any day he came in the club.

    So, he texts me today and says he's coming in. X was at work too, and she was expecting him to take us both again. Well, he comes in and kind of whispers to me that he only wanted to take me and not X. So I told her about that in the bathroom and said that I would still try to get us both back there. But....no dice. He ended up taking only me and I could tell it kind of hurt her feelings.

    So basically I want ya'lls opinions on this...When you and another girl make a customer together, what happens when the guy chooses one over the other??? I guess I'm a real soft-y when it comes to hurting other people's feelings. I hated that she was all excited thinking he was taking us both and then ended up only taking me. Ugh.

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    You did the right thing. Yea, ive been girl X before and it hurts because its almost a small ego kill but I just suck it up and go back to work.

    Having been in girl X's position you did the right thing. You tried.

    Ive also been in your position and done the same thing. Some guys just wont bite and if the girl is cool she will understand you need to make your money too!

    When this happened and I was girl X my gf gave me 20% of what she made Shes a total doll and it was unexpected but very appreciated.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AudreyLeigh View Post

    When this happened and I was girl X my gf gave me 20% of what she made Shes a total doll and it was unexpected but very appreciated.
    Damn....I should have done something like that for her.

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    You did the right thing! My girl alex and I would wear the same outfit but in different colors (like I'd wear a black top, red thong and black booty shorts and she'd wear a read top black thong and red booty shorts) and we'd walk around doing double dances all night. Occassionaly one guy would only want her or me. No big deal. We'd go it alone and hook back up later in the night.

    If you specifically tried to under-cut her and take the customer away from her, that would be different. But that hardly seems to be the case in this situation here.
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    You did more than most girls would have done. Most wouldn't have even tried to get the custy to take you both back.

    He may have wanted only you since you were the one to get his number and keep in touch, you went the extra mile.

    Maybe next time you work with her try to hook her up with a dance with someone.

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    If you guys only danced for him together one time before this, I don't think you should feel bad at all. Men have their preferences, and you are at work to make money, not friends. The idea that anyone should share their independently earned money is bizarre to me. If someone tried to hand me money because they felt bad that I didn't get a dance, I'd probably look at her like she had two heads. And in the case that I get the dance, I certainly wouldn't think to share my money.

    When I'm at work I look out for #1. This is why I work alone. On the occasion that a double dance situation occurs, I take part, but I also keep in mind that the man can change his mind at any time. My skin is thick, and that's part of the game. I'm not going to be hurt or offended if someone says no thanks to me. But in a situation like you described, I'd be glad if the guy came back and requested me only. It means I'm going to make more than I would if I was sharing him.

    As long as no one is being rude or cut-throating anyone else, it's just another day at work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LuckiCharm View Post
    Damn....I should have done something like that for her.
    Not necessary. It was just a little surprise. While she was in the back I made good money on the floor. She gave me the cash and it evened us out. This is the girl I always work with and we do double dances - usually we can get a guy to take us both back. Oh, AND while we were working this particular guy he gave us each $200 to "go away" then I got called to stage so she kept working him.

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    The very first thing that I was told, my first day on the job was that men have very different tastes. Some go for talkative blondes with big fake boobs, others go for quiet, brunette, intellectual types. If a guy refuses you for anything, ITS NOT PERSONAL. 99% of the time, you're just not the type he's looking for. And above all, you have to remember, the men are paying to look at you. They're paying a LOT to look at you, and they want the best experience for their money, so they're going to spend it on the girl that comes the closest to their fantasies.

    You shouldn't feel that sorry for your friend. If you're club is anything like mine, you both should be used to a fair amount of rejection. In that same night, she probably got dances from guys that might have, or did say no to you.

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    In the end, it's nothing personal. You tried to get her back there so it's not like you took him away on purpose. Rejection is just what comes with the job. Don't worry too much, he might just want to be your regular.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ediblecrayonz View Post
    They're paying a LOT to look at you, and they want the best experience for their money, so they're going to spend it on the girl that comes the closest to their fantasies.
    Ummmm not really. Sales are the biggest aspect of this job. Looks take a backseat. They do play a part but they are not the biggest factor. Id say looks are about 20% and sales 80%.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    As long as no one is being rude or cut-throating anyone else, it's just another day at work.
    That's kinda how I see it!

    But %100 feel you....I cannot stand the fact of someone I was once cool with turning around and hating me....

    I don't think it's necessary to give her %20. Because also, during the time you guys were in the CR, she could have lucked out on a custy paying her equiv or better money, or even landed a reg....you never know. It's just statistics, or something.

    I'd just hope she's cool enuf to understand that you don't make this shit up, the custy's do, and can deal with it.

    He also might've felt a personal connection to you since you were the one he xchanged #'s with?

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    I've been on X's side. It does hurt a lot, but we know there is nothing we can do. She probably really appreciates that you tried. But don't bring it up in conversation. It opens fresh wounds.

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    Pffffft! I would have made a casual mention to the customer. If nogo, I wouldn't feel bad for a second. That's the way the game is played, and why I seldomly partnered up.

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    You were fine! No tips between strippers, I think. Tips are for staff. That's how I've always done it. Just hook her up sometime.

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