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    Hey Guys,

    I feel like I have to get a "real" job and put my passion on hold. I have resisted doing this because when i see creative people put there creative career on hold, i don't see the great majority of them get back to it. I thought that by doing this and giving my self all the luxury advantages i'd get to my goal quicker. But at this point that spark that is me is being dowsed because of how burnt out i am. I literally break down and have anxiety before having to go to work at this point...i wish for the days when i could go on autopilot and be my work persona and make bank and not give a fuck about what "extra" girls or any other girls were doing. My mantra had always been just focus on me. But I literally feellike i want to lock myself in my apartment and stay here until people notice i'm missing. I am not even able to make the tip out some nights. The thought of downsizing my life to within a nub of itself is depressing. That i cannot just suck it up and do it well anymoreis depressing. Then i tell myself I have too much to be thankful for and i'm an ass for feeling so depressed. I have an affordable place to live, a family that loves me (they don't know i dance, tho), great friends and i'm not going to have to quit and work at walmart...i do have education...it just feels like i followed the do what you love and the rest will follow formula but it isn't following and i've been at my other thing for 17years. I just pray that i can regroup and get back to it ina timely way. i have ideas formy own project but to build that will take time...

    All i can say is if there are any newbies out there: go into this with a plan and learn how to save first and learn how to invest in some way even if it's roth ira's and sep something!
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    can you take a couple weeks off and try again? sometimes you just need a break.. burnout REALLY sux, but maybe you don't have to quit just yet! is there anything you can do for a couple weeks to get away and come back refreshed? Sounds like you are really smart and know your stuff and enjoy your job, but you just need to turbo charge your mojo..!
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    Default Re: gotta get a real job and i'm sad...

    This happens to me also, and I take a week or two off and i am fine again. Till the next time I need time off.
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    I know exactly what you mean. I'm also dancing while I get my other career off the ground, and it does put some hard choices on you. When you get sick of dancing, you can't just say the hell with it and quit. At least, it isn't easy.

    I'm currently taking time off from dancing, and hoping I'll feel better about it a few weeks. I've got some savings and other small sources of income to depend on. I'm really glad I saved money back when I was banking.

    I wish I had more advice, but I don't know myself what I'm going to do when the money runs out. I don't really feel ready to go back...

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    I feel you. I'm dancing to save money, pay off my massive school loans, and to save to buy equipment for my REAL career (photography)... However, while dancing 3-4 nights a week, its really hard to still have the energy and passion to put into my photography. Also, I have an "all or nothing" attitude about dancing and push myself very hard... What I mean by that is I feel that if I am going to dance, I want to truly take advantage of the $$ I can make and have savings, pay off a lot of my debt.. I'm 26 now and look younger and I figure if I dance 3-4 nites a week for 4 more years, I can have my massive (100,000!!) school loan paid mostly off by the time I'm 30..(I went to a really expensive private art school in NYC) Also, its hard to save because I live in NYC (high rent/bills) and have big loan bills.. Not because I waste my money.. Anyway, I'm trying to dance 3/4 nites a week for the next 4 years... I'm in such debt, come from a very poor family who can't help me at all financially...So, I'm very motivated to have savings and investments for myself.... and I'm also very motivated about becoming a successful freelance photographer..but if I'm dancing so much, where does that leave time/energy for my REAL career?? I think about this every single day... aaaaahhhhhh!!!

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    ^^Bingo. That's why I'm taking some time off right now. For the last ten months I've been juggling a really demanding dayjob with dancing 3-5 nights a week. Dancing that much is draining for me, and I had a hard time being motivated and doing everything else that needed doing.

    Sounds like you have a plan, though, Gwen. Be sure you save, save, save, though, because four years can start to seem like a long time. I originally made a commitment to myself to dance for five years, and an only in year three. I really want to finish what I promised myself, but right now I just dunno.

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